-Every single time you cum, put on a new condom when you're ready to go again. The box of condoms will have instructions on the inside of the box, read them. Also, a second form of birth control is a must if you are using condoms and having sex on a regular basis.

-It is possible to cum whenever you are excited. There are a number of techniques that can help you delay it. Look around the forum, do a search, the info is out there.

-I wouldn't necessarily say that it's a matter of opinion, tho most people don't obied by the rule when they should. Know that if you have sex with a female, that female may become pregnant. If you have no way to handle that situation if it occurs, they you have no business having sex.

NO sex is for fun too, but if your not willing to be responsible for the child then forget it.

[QUOTE=G4ZZ;203479]So, because i can't support a child if she gets pregnant ... We shoudn't have sex.
what you are saying is, sex is only to get children and not just for 'fun'?[/QUOTE]

What I'm saying is that sex comes with consequences. If you're going to have sex, protection is of the utmost importance. Condoms are a good start, but they shouldn't be the only protection that you depend on. If condoms are all that you use, the risk of pregnancy is something like 10-20% when used properly. Seeing as how you don't have any experiance, your risk are much higher. Using a second form of birth control, something like a spermicide, will lower your chances of an unwanted pregnancy. Be prepared, understand that if you are having sex, there is the possibility that you will get a female pregnant. The only person who can tell you if you're ready to deal with the responsibility of that is you.

There are ramifications for every action and pregnancy is only one of many that sex entails. You both may "just want to have sex" but you need to SERIOUSLY think about what can financially and emotionally handle. You need to evaluate how you would handle a pregnancy or even an sti transmission (even though you will be using condoms) and DISCUSS how you would handle such an event. Until you can financially and emotionally support both your partner and a child, I strongly advise against anthing that could render her pregnant.

Thank you for being mature enough to consider your options and make and educated decision.

Excuse me. Pregnancy is NOT guaranteed. Witness fertility clinics - their very presence should tell you that there are no guarantees. What the other people meant to say was that you should not have UNPROTECTED sex unless you are willing to bear and raise the child should one occur as a result.

Now then, use condoms as per the instructions that come with them. ALSO your lady needs to be on BCPs or some other RELIABLE form of birth control. Each of you must bear your fair share of responsibility in sexual matters. If you both do this then, there should be few objections to you two enjoying continued sexual congress.

EEK, I did not say that it was guaranteed, thank you for pointing that out, but there is always a chance (protected/unprotected) when penis meets vagina.

*not trying to step on anyones toes*

[QUOTE=G4ZZ;203473]Like most first timers I'm a bit scared for many things.
e.g. pregnancy... When I penetrate my girlfriend, and i come... Does it increase the change of her getting pregnant, if i continue penetrating? Or should I stop and remove the condom at once and get another one?

And, I'm still a virgin. But like in the American Pie movie (don't remember wich one) the guy came when he was putting on the condom. I'm kinda scared that will happen to me also, or is this impossible? If this can happen, how can you make sure that this doesn't happen?

And, most people say, if you are worried that she would get pregnant and you can't support (right word?) a child, then you shoudn't have sex. Is this true, or is this just a matter of oppinion?

Thanks in advanced.[/QUOTE]
And you should be VERY VERY scared...everytime you dip your wick,just say to yourself, If I can't PAY, I can't PLAY...yah yah...EVERYTIME you penetrate the risk of pregnancy occurs versus if you NEVER penetrate(other than launching seed very close to the vaginal externally),,yah yah,,putting a condom on for the first time or the twenthieth time "might" result in PE...LOL...fact of life...you can't INSURE it won't happen:)...sure go ahead and have uninhibited sex..but BE ACCOUNTABLE...if you phuck up and get her pregnant,,then be there to PAY ALL THE BILLS for the next 20yrs...it seems slightly undaunting doesn't it!!

Stop it. Protected sex remains the best alternative. By protected, I mean using both BCPs and condoms. Always a chance? Yes, but reducing your chances from 97% she gets pregnant to less than 1% she gets pregnant is effective. So encourage him to use both 'means at hand' and stop trying to scare them because recent studies have shown that scaring them into thinking it is inevitable merely delays onset of sexual behavior and when they do finally engage they're so beaten up that they DON'T use protection since they think it is worthless.

For the record, PROTECTION, using BOTH BCPS and condoms, is EFFECTIVE at preventing both pregnancy and disease transmission.

Ok...ok...Im just going to throw this out there....get a vasectomy...wait a month then have all the sex you want ;)

That way you have no fear of getting pregnant so the only reason for condoms is STI protection