I don't know if this topic has been posted before, but if so, bear with me. I have a new sexual partner that is...considerably larger than the former. He is gentle at first and takes care to make sure I'm really wet, however, he likes to penetrate deeply and cannot seem to help himself. He'll stop if I cry out in pain (though it always hurts, I only scream when the pain is unbearable). I feel bad because I feel I am denying him what he derives the most pleasure out of (deep penetration), but regular penetration from him is quite painful to me so I don't know how I can do it.
Help?:(
Almost any vagina will accommodate almost any penis. We have that advantage because of the amazing elasticity of the vaginal walls. Sometimes it takes a little getting used to.
You are for some reason tensing up. You are likely expecting pain and thereby making it more likely. For a while try a position that gives you control of the depth of penetration. Being in better control will allow you to experiment and increase what you are willing to accept.
Thanks for the response.
Also I am bleeding after intercourse, will that also alleviate itself with time and practice?
Anyone? It would be greatly appreciated.
Once your hymen is totally worn away, say four or five times, bleeding indicates some tearing of tissue. Not good. If you are using latex condoms, switch to polyurethane and use adequate lube.
If the bleeding continues, see a doctor to find out what harm is being done.
Thanks a lot!
If the bleeding doesn't stop, please go to a gynocologist. There are certain gyno disorders that might cause these symptoms.
[QUOTE=Brandye]Once your hymen is totally worn away, say four or five times, bleeding indicates some tearing of tissue. Not good. If you are using latex condoms, switch to polyurethane and use adequate lube.
If the bleeding continues, see a doctor to find out what harm is being done.[/QUOTE]
i have never heard of a hymen having to "wear away" i thought after the first time thats it, its gone, but i am really curious about this, could you elaborate?
I have only had two sexual partners, my first was smaller than my second so, at first it hurt really bad when he went deep. But after 5 times or so it was ok and he could fit all the way, so keep practising and you'll get there. Also your cervix is lower straight after your period, it's higher when your ovulating. The hymen buisness, sometimes it takes a couple of times depends on the person really.
lol this thread is over 3 years old;):p:D
I have problems with pain, too, and it's bullshit to say that it's always because you're tensing. I believe that you, like me, may take more to stretch than others. Don't stress, just don't let him all the way inside if it hurts too much.