hi,
my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half.
we decided a while back that we werent for sex, that being sex were both still virigins.
however we have been doing just about everything else
so to get to my question...ive been fingered many times by him. its usually hard and sometimes really deep. however, almost everytime i get really sore and swollen for a long period of time. im figuring this is normal, because of how hard its being done and that ive heard other situations like this. my question is.. how do i prevent this? its almost everyyytttime! it really ruins things when i have to stop because it hurts so badly. also, is there any damage being done on the inside because of hard fingering? im asking this because afterwards, by stomach started to hurt very badly and it never has before, so its just a question out of curiousity.
THANK YOU ! :D:D
errr im thinking he's doing somthing REALLY wrong if your stomach is hurting lol might wana tell him to ease up a bit. Us guys dont always understand that while fast, hard and rough might be what we THINK she'll like, its not always best or safe for our other half, maybe have him keep a nice slow, shallow pace to start off with, while working your clit, and as you get closer to finishing *if your into it* have him go a little deeper or rougher. lol from what it SOUNDS like... your not getting to finish with him doing it like this anyway...and i'm going to assume your not left sore and hurting while you do this alone.
I had a similar problem with my first Girlfriend. Me not exactly understanding how she "worked" in all, I'd get a little too "excited" while we where having sex or i was fingering her and simply pound away... this stopped when she explained to me that she would get very little to no enjoyment outta it and i needed to slow/calm down for more or less her sake.... now my current girlfriend enjoys it a bit more rough, but i still find myself controlling quite how deep i penetrate wither is me or my fingers doing the work, and work up to the more rougher stuff when she's closer to climax. Too much too soon can not only kill the mood, but also be painful
Sex is a contact sport; it is not a violent sport. Very hard and very deep are not usual parts of fingering. Tell him simply to stop and show him what feels good.
It is not likely that any permanent damage is being (unless this is more violent than I can imagine) but it is possible. All women should have complete gyn exams before becoming sexually active. Sounds like it is time for yours.
He's being INCOMPETENT - meaning he does NOT know what he's doing when he's doing manual on you.
"Fingering" means the manual caressing of the clitoris, the G-Spot or the anterior fornix. NONE of which requires "hard" or "deep". The clitoris is external. The G-Spot and the anterior fornix are internal a maximum of 4 inches inside your vagina and up in the roof - towards your belly. His hands should be clean and his nails both clean and well-trimmed.
!. get your gyn exam
2. send him to us