hiya!
my friend discovered this website the other day by mistake & has just told me about it, i've read a few bits and bobs and it is great, so much better than anything else i've been able to find on the internet re: sex help!
i have a similar problem to loads of people on here...1st time worries! i sometimes bleed a bit when my boyfriend fingers me but i really don't wanna end up with the stuff gushing out of me the first time i have sex...so is it a good idea to buy one of them realistic-looking dildo things and practise with that first? apparently they feel quite similar to the real thing, n even if they don't, they are about the same size, so should break my hymen i think?
i don't really care if it's really painful for me to do it this way, as i'd rather suffer the pain alone n not make my boyfriend feel bad the first time he tries to enter me.
thanks & big hugs from london! x x x
Um, if I was a girl I'd like it the natural way (given the hymen isn't already broken from everyday activities). If I was the guy, I'd also prefer that first-time sex is done naturally. I doubt you will enjoy your first time, but who knows? Having said that, breaking the hymen forcefully in preparation for intercourse is not intelligent, since enjoyable first-time sex is unlikely.
thanks!
my boyfriend aint a virgin, so i don't think he'd be bothered either way...i don't mind if it's not enjoyable, as long as i don't bleed everywhere!
but thanks for the points you have raised, maybe it was a bit of a silly idea! xx
but yet, its a good idea.
i know that if i was about to have intercourse with my girlfriend, and she started bleeding..
boy, id be ready to call the hospital and demand a check up.
depends, if you try using one, and find out that nothing happens, then your fine.
if you bleed when it happens, well then you could tell him that you might bleed and see what he says.
yet again, id ask if she was ok, probably take my penis out, and then id lose my erection, she'd get turned off, and mess up the whole night.
After having some painful experiences with sex my first few times, I eventually found a dildo about the size of my guy and worked with that. It was painful at first, but I eventually got it in without much of a problem. I used that before he arrived and it helped losen me up for him so it wasn't painful for me.
After those couple of times I didn't need it anymore. It was still a little painful at first, but that's just because there was a fair amount of time span in between the times we did it, but we just went slow and after a minute or so I was fine. I have no problems now.
All that being said, buy lube. Lube is your friend. I personally recommend Astroglide as it helped me a lot (and I still use it... I don't think I could do it without it) but any personal lubricant that isn't a jelly should work about the same.
I wanted to, just so I could prepare, but my BF was dead set that he be the first penis sized/shaped thing inside me, and I understod. He fingered me to get me used to having something in me, and gradually I learned how to accomodate him.
thanks champloo/thetease/lacka, all your comments have been really useful! i think i'm def gonna get a dildo then, i just wasn't sure whether or not it was a really silly idea! i'm definitely ready to have sex with my fella, but i'd rather be prepared n have some kind of idea what it will feel like, i don't wanna bleed everywhere or scream at him to remove himself from me n upset him!! xx