Everyday for the past week my girlfriend and i have been desperatly trying to have sex for the first time. We were both virgins, so we had no experience. We both experienced the typical first time issues, i couldnt penetrate her, and i was having trouble keeping an erection (which turned out to be because i would see her flintch as i was trying to go in, and that would completly throw me off, and i wouldnt be able to get it back for a long time.)
But tonight it finally happened. We spent the entire day togeather, we fooled around for about an hour before moving to the bedroom, then another 2hrs once we were there. It was an amazing experience. We got really lucky once i was able to get in, she says she felt a little pain, then i held there for about 5 minutes, then we started going again, she said there was a quick twinge of pain but it happend so fast that she didnt even realize it untill after i was all the way in. and on re-entries she said she felt no pain at all. I was SO happy she was ok.
The frustration is finally over! I really feel for you guys/gals who are having the same troubles. But it will happen, its just like everyone on here has said, go real slow, pause if needed, and listening to each other is probably the biggest help there is.
Congrats, I get the same thing as you with the whole going soft...
Im so fixcated *sp* on pleasing her and when I come up short cause I always service 1st I tend to get a little um thrown off and kinda disappointed, then it gets worse when shes move over to me and Im as soft as dough.
But I just try to keep my mind off that shit, working my way threw it.
Like everybody said just the pill is still a risk for anyone not ready to be a parent, but one thing you should try is instead of needing the industrial strength spermicidal condoms is play around with different types like ultra thins, her pleasures, twisted pleasure etc. that way you get some extra protection on top of the pill…and some different sensations to throw in the mix
You sound far too young to be a daddy. Unless you are both ready to be parents you should remember these:
1. Young girls forget to take the pill once in a while.
2. If she takes any kind of medication or anitbiotics the pill could be ineffective and she may not remember that it takes another MONTH after she stops taking it for the pill to work again.
3. Do you really trust a drug company enough to gamble with the next 18 years of your life?
If you both decide on not using condoms you better have "the talk" on what you would do IF she does get pregnant.
I was young and dumb once too. I trusted two girls the same way you are trusting her to take the pill. I got lucky though and both girls were not ready to be a mommy so we took care of it. Not an experience either of you want to go through BELIEVE ME.
nope no condom, but she has been on the pill for a month and a half, and since we are each other's first im not worried about any other aspects.
Good to hear things are working out..but PLEASE TELL US U WERE USING A CONDOM!
she was way more stressed out and frustrated about it than i was. She was really disappointed when things werent working out, she said she felt inadequate and defective. Of course i told her that was the stupidest thing i had ever heard and that there was absolutly nothing wrong with her and that she was perfect, i told her that even if things never worked out that i was happy enough just being with her, that made her feel a bit better, but she was really relieved that night though.
i worry if she felt the same relief, as most girls hate there first time because the pain is more noticable than the enjoyment
yaaaaay!