Honey,

When you have an orgasm, you will know it. The signs you are showing are some of the things that may happen as you get close. Some women are screamers and that would be the only time that you may be disturb anyone in the house. Most of us just sigh or whimper a little and it will not be noticeable. Your fear of being discovered could well be affecting your ability to get over the edge.

I began to masturbate about the onset of menses. I think not uncommon. For about a year, I had pleasureable feelings which I thought to be orgasms - pleasant and worthwhile but no great thing. Then, when not even overtly masturbating, it happened. Then, I knew what I was looking for and my masturbating became more regular (about weekly) and creative. The fantasies became more romantic and outside thoughts (such as disturbing anyone) disappeared.

For men, orgasms are a necessity and they will occur whether or not anything is done to cause them. We women need to learn what they are and how they come about.

That first orgasm: I was baby sitting and wearing a pad with a skirt. Playing with the kids I was riding a plastic chicken with wheels that was too small for me to ride but the rhythmic pressing of the pad caused me to lose all control and I had a very pleasant little orgasm. The boys (2 and 4) looked at me as though something weird had happened. I think it only lasted a few minutes that I rolled back and forth.

Hi girl12.

I'm not an expert on the female orgasm, so I'll leave the specifics of that to the ladies on the board.  But I will say that fear would definitely inhibit having an orgasm.  I think you should relax.  Unless I'm sadly mistaken, you won't scream out during an orgasm knowing that someone might hear you. Most people have that much control. Just go ahead and give yourself permission to have an orgasm.

If you do happen to scream out, and your parents come running, just tell them you saw a mouse!...