While being atop him, is your motion vertical or are you sliding "up and down" along his abdomen? Please click on the site's Home Page and have a look at the many illustrated animated sexual positions.

Regardless of your movements, is your boyfriend thrusting in order to match you? If he is, this should keep him inside. Even when he slips out, it is not at big deal unless you are moving fast and furious as you near the point of no return.

Try communicating with him and have him give you feedback. All guys should develop and have an awareness of where their penis is within the vagina.

-doc

> He was just watching me.

That works.
What works mo' betta is for your man to steady your breasts during your movements. Of course there are other things that he could do while just lying there....

I have similar problems while on top of my partner also.Try adjusting your position and follow what Dancing Doc has suggested.Practice makes perfect and the more you make small adjustments and find out what works the better things will be for you and your partner.My guy is slightly larger than average,but not too big that it causes me discomfort.I found that my lack of confidence was also an issue that I needed to address.I also tended to go up and down vertically rather than slide which would make my guy slip out.It just takes a bit of trial and error to find the right technique for your particular pairing.I discovered that what worked for me and my ex husband isn't so with my new relationship as my ex was slightly smaller and I just wasn't feeling confident enough to try and find a solution.

What! You don't like being "in charge"?? Hey! You're on top so you control what happens, how and when and where. It is YOUR time to sing opera if you want to and he has to go along with it. Trust me, he won't put up too much of a fight either.

Stop being anxious. Stop worrying about him and what he thinks etc. It isn't about him now. He's your meat; yours to do with as you will. So, take him for all he's worth! Using your knees as the fulcrum, move up and forward then down and back repeatedly using the bedsprings to help keep the motion going. Roll your hips to add twist if you want, scream , yell, wiggle around until his penis is caressing your posterior fornix, in this position behind your cervix towards your spine, and go as fast or as slow as you wish.

Think "POUNCE"!!

Right my boyfriend wants me to go on top but he dont wanna do any different sex positions til hes got my confidence up but i think hes gettin sick of doin all the work so any ideas for what to do on top postions, how to move etc i dont a postion where i could do all the work but i want to be in control

Welcome to the SI010 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating.

For answers to your question, please click on the site's Home Page. Among many things you will find a section on illustrated animated sexual positions. Click on the Cowgirl section.

You can stroke him while upright, or, you can move "up and down" along his torso while resting on your arms or hands.

As for confidence, when you are ready simply take control and mount him. No need for a discussion, no need for him to do anything but lie there and receive....

As for when to do this, wait until he has been brought to the brink of an orgasm yet can still maintain control. You should also be near the brink of your climax.

The Woman Superior position(s) do place you in complete control. You know where P & V are and can deftly bring the two together, insert with the pressure and angle you want, stroke with the depth and speed desired. You can also control his rate or speed of arousal and thus often times when he will climax.

He can recline passively, yet better, cup your breasts and steady them from bouncing, stimulate them, all the while caressing your body. He should also thrust by elevating his hips matching your movements when the time is right.

Please check out the Index found at the top of the main page for helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles on a variety of topics.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

Errm just 1 hip movements what should i do i saw on joys of teen sex that uou tense your pelvic muscles does this work? I know lean toward him slightly and grind like that anythin else?

> Errm

What?

> just 1 hip movements what should i do

Please clarify.

> i saw on joys of teen sex that uou tense your pelvic muscles does this work?

I do not know what you viewed.
Who does this? Man? Woman? Both?

It took me a few attempts to get the hang of being on top.

Or rather, it took me a few attempts to realise that there is no "correct way" to do it. Just move about untill you find a motion that feels good, and repeat it!

And then with practise you'll find that paticular motion easier to get into.

The best thing I discovered is to get him to push up with his hips slightly, so you can feel his pubic bone. Then you grind against that. There's not much up-and-down movement on the penis at all, but depending on his sensitivities that CAN mean he lasts longer.