Okay...here's the problem. I having been seeing this guy for over 3 years now. He is currently involved in a relationship, but our friendship/relationship over the years has made me truly love him. Well, just recently he has asked me to be in threesome with him. I was skeptical at first because I thought it meant that he didn't respect me to ask me to do that. I've always fantasized about being in a threesmome, but not with someone that I knew or cared for. After speaking more with him, I decided that I would do it. Although, I've expressed to him that I want it to be with another man, and not a woman.
So, I guess this is just for the guys...does him asking me to engage really mean that he doesn't respect me or is this just his way of elevating our sexual relationship to another level?
[QUOTE=musicslover]Okay...here's the problem. I having been seeing this guy for over 3 years now. He is currently involved in a relationship, but our friendship/relationship over the years has made me truly love him. Well, just recently he has asked me to be in threesome with him. I was skeptical at first because I thought it meant that he didn't respect me to ask me to do that. I've always fantasized about being in a threesmome, but not with someone that I knew or cared for. After speaking more with him, I decided that I would do it. Although, I've expressed to him that I want it to be with another man, and not a woman.
So, I guess this is just for the guys...does him asking me to engage really mean that he doesn't respect me or is this just his way of elevating our sexual relationship to another level?[/QUOTE]
Wait - let me get this right. You've had sex with him for 3 years, but he is currently in a relationship with someone else?
That's correct. We live in two different state (he in NC, me in TX). We took a hiatus from our friendship for about a year and he become involved with someone else.
What do you mean by asking if he doesn't respect you? Sounds like the wrong question to ask.
[QUOTE=musicslover]That's correct. We live in two different state (he in NC, me in TX). We took a hiatus from our friendship for about a year and he become involved with someone else.[/QUOTE]
Okay, let me go through some facts with you:
1.) He is in a relationship with someone else.
2.) He still likes to use you for sex.
3.) Since you're so accommodating to him, he figures "what the hell?" and asks if he can use you for a threesome.
Question: Do you really need us to answer this for you?
Let me tell you what I would be thinking if I were him. For me to ask you to do something like that even though I was in another relationship, I would truly have to not give a damn about you. I would have to think of you as nothing more than a sex toy. I would have to have almost no respect for you.
But you know what? Even then, I wouldn't have the audacity to ask you something like that because I simply don't have the ability to be that cruel to someone.
If you "love" him, then you need to just get over it.
So there's one opinion for you....
There have got to be some really nice guys in a state as large as Texas. Find one.