my boyfriend and i have been discussing having sex for quite some time, weve experimented and prefective our talents, lol :)
but the only thing stopping us is my friends,
my friend (in particular) says she would be quite disappointed in me, and thinks that were too young, althouhg this person is his sister.
i ended up telling him tonight how i felt and that she was confusing, and he totally tripped out and made me feel really bad.
i told him what i felt and he continued to try to explain, but he has it stuck in his mind that im doing everything she says and i have to ask for her apporval?
i guess what im asking is, whos wrong in this relationship?
what can i do to stop all this bitching and confusion??
okay, just wait for a second,
my bf is not interested in just having sex with me, i can honeslty tell you hes the most sweetest guy ive ever met, and he cares what i feel and think, hes been so calm about it now, like i think he just blew up at the fact that she is involed, like browneyedgirl stated.
im turning 16, and yes, and yes i love him so much, & i know for a fact he loves me too, around 7 months, and absolutely not..
see when i type all of this it seems like i am ready, and i feel open and comfortable, but today i kind of explained it to him, i said
that i didnt want to because i love how we are right now, and because he says sex is up to me i dont want to have it, and have our relationship go downhill, therefor this would be my fault, and im so terrified of this happening that im preventing myself from going any further with him, wow.
like i know im cautious but its like werid for me because i dont want to keep making excuses, and im stuck again. :( lol
oh wow, please help, again
and with what browser and beth said, totally AGREEED
but then again shes my friend and i dont know im teeter totter btoh ways to make them both happy, but im at the point where im just gunna do it, lol
No one is necessarily wrong. I don't think your boyfriend should be mad at you or trying to pressure you into anything. He is also probably embarrassed about his sister being involved in your sexlife, though.
How old are you? Do you feel ready to have sex? Do you care about/love your boyfriend, and do you think he feels the same way for you? How long have you been dating? Do you think you would regret having sex with him?
Only you can make this decision. I don't think you should base your decision on his pressure or on his sister's pressure. If you don't feel ready to have sex and feel that you are too young, then don't have sex yet. Explain this to him and if he gets mad about it, honestly he's being a jerk and you should find someone who cares about you and not just having sex with you. If you do feel ready, then your friend (who is also probably protective of her brother) needs to butt out and let you live your life.
No one can choose to be sexually active except you. You need to really think about this. The list of things that I considered before becoming sexually active was pretty extensive (I made a massive list of reasons to do it and reasons not to do it and made my boyfriend make up his own list. It's the nerd approach to making important choices).
One of the most important things to consider is that sex was naturally intended for reproduction. Even with birth-control, accidents happen. I believe that if you aren't old enough to be a parent, then you probably shouldn't be having sex.
Good luck and happy humping.
its your choice and only yours.. do you want to have sex or not.. is this person the person you want to have sex with... will you regret it later... di you feel comfortable with the idea...
Ask yourself these questions and if the answer is no to any of the above your not ready.
Your sexual life is not your boyfriend's sister's business. She can deal.
i agree with Browser! dont let her get involved. simple, she will learn to deal with it.
Well if you don't want to have sex right now, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just because you've been together for a certain amount of time or feel a certain way about each other doesn't mean that you're automatically going to be ready to have sex.
Sex is a big deal. There are serious consequences of not being protected, etc. For most girls, the first time is a big issue. So, don't rush into anything.
I am sure you will know when you are ready. When it feels right, it feels right. If you have doubts at this point, then you should probably wait a little longer until you really feel sure that you want to go ahead and have sex.
Good luck!
This is why I said that if you are going to indulge in adult play, you're going to have to be adult about it. Your sex life is NONE of your girlfriend's business! Stop telling her about it. Your future with your boyfriend will come whether you have sex or not -so let that go too. The ONLY question is do you want him? Do you desire him more than you fear sex? Have you gone on bc pills and does he have condoms? If any of the answers are NO then you aren't ready to have sex.
its only natural to be scared about having sex for the first time, but the support of your boyfriend should help get you through :)
iknow its up to me, and ive become more comfortable and relaxed. with evil kitten: YES i do, lol. yes i do, yes i am and yes he does haha.
well i guess that answers my question, yet does sex really matter about our future? so do you mean if we dont were going to get bad?
ya i know, and he has alot :)
its just its like the little thing at the back of my mind.. lol
thanks guys! :)
Whether your relationship goes good or bad depends upon your communication not necessarily if you have sex or not.
oh okay, back on track :)
i get ya !
lol thanks you :)