Hey there i find it is getting harder to get my girlfriend into the mood for haivng sex, we have been doing it for nearly two years and it is amazing everytime. She says that she isn't in the mood or not right now but it never happens later on. If i can kiss her she is like jello in my hands but it is so hard to get anything started. She also said if i don't try so much that she might give in! I am extremly horny and wan't to share it all sith her and i know she is the same way but what is going on here?
Wed, 04/05/2006 - 04:01
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Initiating Sex
I think maybe there's something she's trying to say to you. If you could sit down and talk with her, and let her say how she's feeling, and why she doesn't want to have sex with you, it may help. I wouldn't panic. Every relationship goes through a cooling off period. It could be nothing.
yes, what naughty said.
and also, since she said what she said, try not to hint that your seriously horny to her as often, because then maybe she will get annoyed, angry, etc.
or, she might notice you slowing down and then she might give in ;)
Fourteen, huh?
(The lad is wise beyond his years.)
hehe really?
aw shucks, im seriously blushing :o
Yea I feel like that sometimes. My b/f will get home from work and I'll give him a hug but he automatically grabs my boob or something, lol. I mean groping is ok and fun sometimes... but sometimes I want JUST a hug or to be held... not groped =\
does that make sense? maybe Im just crazy lol wouldn't be the first time
i know what you mean.
my gf didnt like it that i tried to kiss/hug her all the time.
i think she needs the thought that we could be caught at anytime. when she was liveing at the old home with the folks she was always trying to start stuff. And she has suggested a few times she woudl like to do it outside in public places. From those of you that have done it in public. Where and how do you get away with it??
the easiest and safest way to not get caught is to not try it. Look for something else exciting, and try to keep it legal.
yes.
and more importantly, make sure you dont force yourself on her. let her force herself on you.
cuz if you force yourself on her, then she'll feel uncomfortable (she already stated for you to calm down, that you are trying to hard) and then you might leave your house the next day with a ticket to the doc for a swollen eye and a broken penis.
im just thinking of the worst things. but really, she said (as you said, and i quote) :::
[QUOTE= canadianjd]She also said if i don't try so much that she might give in[/QUOTE]
basically tells you to not try as hard. well, thats how im taking it. if you dont try as hard, she'll give in and give you want you want apparently very bad.
Sometimes, I would rather have a hug than a kiss. Or a kiss than an orgasm...It's just a mood thing. Then again, there are other times when I drag my BF to bed, and have to convince him. Minds change, usually.
I've found that "not trying so hard" can also mean be subtle.
There are times I would rather not be seduced by a hot and heavy kiss which usually ONLY means sex is to follow. Sometimes I'd just like a warm bath with my spouse, or candles set up in the livingroom, or just watch a movie in the dark under a blanket on the floor. We've slept out on the balcony of our apartment and the thrill of that alone, even though we weren't doing anything was enough to satisfy us both.
Some of the other posts mention wanting just a hug and a kiss. Leave it at that, and maybe she'll eventually want more of them. From there she may continue wanting more.