i've had sex before (BUT HARDLY), and my boyfriend and i don't speak about past experiences and relationships because we've both been through alot and made the decision early in our relationship, maybe even before we were physically togetgher to concentrate on our present and future rather than the past. however, i'm worried he thinks i've had sex a lot before, when in reality i've had sex with 3 people, and 2 of which were drunk mistakes when trying to get over an exboyfriend and the boy i lost my virginity to (just the once!). basically; i want to know how to make sex good for him, what do i do after he's entered me, how do i move? because sex with him becomes embaressing because i really am hopeless. please respond on tips of how to move when hes entering and pulling out of me! ha. it's such an embaressing predicament.
Mon, 08/06/2007 - 00:37
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Inexperienced, but he doesn't know ... Embaressing sex
start here http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/20641-intercourse_orgasms_the_gentle_art_humping.html
After clicking on the above link, please read these chapters in the following order:
* Chapter Five -
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
* Chapter Three -
[COLOR="Blue">INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST[/COLOR]
* Chapter One - (same as above link)
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
> i'm worried he thinks i've had sex a lot before
To ease your concern, please read the opening paragraph in Chapter Five.
> i want to know how to make sex good for him, what do i do after he's entered me, how do i move? because sex with him becomes embaressing because i really am hopeless.
It is completely unrealistic to expect your first night or two to go off "perfectly" and without a hitch. It takes time and practice for two people to learn likes, dislikes, preferences, and how interact based upon the other person's responses. If you truly want to please each other, then tune into each other and spend lots of time kissing and caressing and devoting your time and attention to the other.
Before intercourse comes Foreplay. Read the Sticky article on the how-to of this important aspect of making love with hand and blow jobs.
Before Foreplay comes Making out. In addition to the information in Chapter Three is what comprises breast play.
All of these articles should be a must read for the two of you because I can pretty much guarantee you that your fellas does not know as much as he may think he does or would like to. It's a guy thing to bluster give a snow job in an attempt to cover up what is missing or to just get by in the hope of picking up skills on the fly. Why wait and fumble. See, he's most likely in the same situation as you, yet to proud to ask for help.
Here is a link to the INDEX for lots of tips, techniques, and useful information.
Really, you shouldn't be embarrassed. If you'd feel better, just tell him you really don't have that much experience and you'd love it if he let you know what he likes/what's sexy to him. You don't even have to tell him that you don't have much experience, but I would definitely encourage you to talk to him about sex candidly. You might be surprised to find out that what you think is a problem really isn't. Sex should be FUN! Sometimes people get too hung up on the idea of sex just being "sexy" that they forget to have fun and be playful. In my experience, sex is sexiest when you just relax, experiment, and play around. There's no right or wrong. Just do what feels right. You don't have to move in any particular way as dictated by someone else, just do what's instinctual and don't be afraid to vocalize what you like! Follow his movements when he's on top, dig your fingernails into his back... whatever you want to do. Just have fun and after a while everything will come naturally to you. Good luck!