> I would like to know how to increase my sexual stamina, and also how to prolong my erections. My problem is not arousal, but the application of a condom seems to take the edge off, and penetration is sometimes difficult as a result because I start thinking about it too much. Other times I can just penetrate straight off.

How early in your arousal process do you roll on a condom?

It is best to wait until you are on the brink of an orgasm yet can still maintain control in order to move around and get into position. You might also have your wife apply the condom. Her touch can do much more than apply the condom and her assistance is often just what is required to maintain an erection.

It is not unusual for a guy to "think" too much. This often causes worry and that causes angst which can lead to Performance Anxiety. If this is what you are experiencing, the fix is to quite literally stop worrying!

> It definately isn't that she can't arouse me, in fact the problem is once she does it really isn't long till I orgasm. But I'd really like to be able to prolong the actual intercourse with her, rather than relying mostly on foreplay to please her.

> Is it down to general fitness and health etc?

It is down to technique and methodology. Physically and mentally you are fine. What you lack are some tools.

It is great that you have not trouble becoming aroused. Staying power during intercourse can be prolonged in the following ways:

* Masturbating sometime before intercourse (up to a couple hours before)
* Stopping and Starting (pausing during stroking)
* Pulling out and reinserting a short time later (continuing to kiss and caress)
* Squeeze technique (Google this for more information)
* Learning self control (and recognizing certain benchmarks vs levels of arousal)
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

If she puts the condom on that becomes part of the play and reduces the chance that you will lose any oomph.

Well, my gosh...if she rolls it on by "pulling" it toward the base of your penis and abdomen rather than "pushing" it that direction it seems to me that her nails would be out of the way. Just have her position herself adjacent to your body instead of out in front.

Let her tantalize you a bit as she rolls on the condom, although, not so much that you loose control. You want to be on the brink of an orgasm yet not so close that any movement of your penis or your body in general makes you coast beyond the point of no return.

Also, apply some lubrication to the Glans only of your penis before the condom goes on. Doing so will provide more "wiggle room" inside and this will help the transmission of friction.

Any time during this process that you feel like you may be loosing control--FREEZE! Alternately, pause, or apply the Squeeze technique until your sense of urgency subsides. Once it has she can continue to put the condom on you. This is really why learning how to master the exercise described in the link, above, is beneficial. Guys often find that a climax sneaks up and surprises them seemingly without warning. Mastering the exercise and learning to identify a couple of benchmarks is akin to having an "early warning radar" and interpreting the picture.