Is there a way to increase the sex drive of people? I'm not talking about drugging them or whatever, nothing immoral, but my gf has a really low sex drive at the moment, most likely due to the implanon she has in. We were having sex 5-6 times a weekend before it, and now maybe once. I kinda feel like we are drifting apart physically, and I don't want to put pressure on her while the extra hormones of the implanon are doing weird things (I think its coming out soon) and I will talk to her soon. Just wondering if there is much I can try in the meantime.
Mon, 11/03/2008 - 12:19
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Increasing sex drive
Talking to her about what is going on in her head would help. Sex begins in the brain with her attitudes, thoughts, hopes, dreams, and desires. Investigating her mind, without passing judgment upon what you find, is the best way to overcome inhibitions.
You begin by telling her that you feel you two are drifting apart physically and that this is making you very unhappy.
Any hormonal form of birth control can affect libido. Implanon, in my experience, more than most. Nothing to be done by you; by her, talk to her doctor about alternatives. Then follow EEK's advice.
It completely messed up her cycle so her doctor just started her on the pill, which has seemed to stop her bleeding constantly. Which is why I think the implanon is coming out soon, she will just take the pill instead.
I have had a bit of a talk to her about her views, she says sometimes that her body is willing but her mind says no and she doesn't know why. When I get a chance I am going to bring up the fact that I feel we are drifting apart physically and see how things go, so good to see that it is a good direction to take, thanks.
As I said, I don't want to put pressure on her and I am being very patient, since it is all probably due to the implanon. Should I perhaps wait until it comes out before bringing things up? Or do it now anyway and let her know I'm concerned but see how things go?
At this point, be a "teddybear" for her (good thing for all men to learn). Think about the stufffed animal for a moment - she talks to it, holds it, carries it around, snuggles with it. It is a bit of security in an uncertain world. Try taking that stuffed animal's place with the addition of just a touch of masculine heat - she still eeds to know that you desire her.
Understand?
Yeah I get that. Let her know that I still want her, and give her something to snuggle. She is pretty affectionate with me usually. I have been doing that for a while, and not getting much in return though, which is causing me to drift away and not want to just be a teddybear anymore.
I went through something similar when a gf changed pills. She went from being very horny almost all week and sex a few times a day to ice cold. When her head was there, her body wasn't, and vice versa. We got along fine, it was just very awkward for to go out on a great date, laughing, flirting and having fun the entire time, and then come back to a quick peck goodnight and cuddle to sleep[SIZE="1">(leaving me awake with a raging erection)[/SIZE]. Prior to the change she would have dragged me back halfway through the date and demanded me in bed. I didn't say anything for a month and only then asked if everything was ok with her and us and it was, it simply took some time adjusting(and a different pill eventually).
Good luck. It's hard, but it passes.