I had an experimental period when i was in highschool and college, and now im in my mid 20's and ive been married for a year. I want my wife to do some things with me, that are going to seem a little odd, like snowballing, and fingering me, and hopefully working up to her using a strap on with me. I want to try a 3sum with another man, but i could never ask her for that. Is there any suggestions for how to stay within the realm of our marriage but have me experience these things?
Sun, 06/20/2010 - 21:45
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Incorporating new ideas into marriage
In your dreams! day dreams that is.
Talk with your wife. See if she has some ideas she'd like to try. Tell her about your ideas.
Just remember two things:
begin by taking small steps
and
most fantasies should remain fantasies.
Twenty years ago, before getting married, we had some threesome experiences: lots of fun, believe me, after marriage she didn't want to do anything special like that but it is always fun to whisper about it in the dark! Lately she has been speaking/whispering about group sex fantasies, so I just go with it and try to encourage her to be wild. It is fun.
I've heard it said before, that the guy has to be willing to help her enjoy/explore her fantasies and then maybe he'll get his.
Small steps eh? I guess we used that idea to start on threesomes: first time she had a another guy while we were dating, I called an old boyfriend she still had the "hots" for. I told him she would like to hear from him and he was very interested! I gave him her work number. They fucked that same night!
It was a good way for us to see if jealousy would turn up, what it felt like, things like that; it was a way to explore the idea of a threesome, and she got off on seeing her old boyfriend again. It turned me on to know she was with another guy and liked it so much.