hey, I'm 21, started dating a girl a few months ago who's 18. She's had sex with other guys before, but never had an orgasm. A few of the girls I've been with before have said the same thing, but they would have at least 2 orgasms every time we had sex, but this girl isn't.
She says it feels nice, but it doesn't really feel "good" per-say. She likes it when I go down on her, but she won't have an orgasm from it. It seems to me like she's missing out on all the fun! She's really tight, and I've got a fairly large penis -- pretty sure that's not the issue, lol...
And like I said before, I've been with other girls who were VERY satisfied, so it's really frustrating that she doesn't like it at all...
Is this a common problem for her age, or is her anatomy just ****ed up or something?
There are different reasons women don't reach orgasm. Every girl needs different stimulation to get off. Ask her to give you feed back about what feels best for her. Also for a lot of women it is a mental barrier that keeps them from having an orgasm. They can't relax enough to concentrate on how good what you're doing feels. So that may be an issue. Ask her if she is comfortable and relaxed. Perhaps encourage her to keep her eyes closed and tell her you are NOT trying to get her to orgasm while you please her. She may just come knowing that you are not waiting for it to happen because she can stop stressing about trying to come for YOU.
it's not even the fact that she doesn't have orgasms that bothers me (well, not that much, anyway). It doesn't even stimulate her at all to have sex, in any position. She says it's only actually felt good for her a couple of times.
[QUOTE=girlygirl6;155972]There are different reasons women don't reach orgasm. Every girl needs different stimulation to get off. Ask her to give you feed back about what feels best for her. Also for a lot of women it is a mental barrier that keeps them from having an orgasm. They can't relax enough to concentrate on how good what you're doing feels. So that may be an issue. Ask her if she is comfortable and relaxed. Perhaps encourage her to keep her eyes closed and tell her you are NOT trying to get her to orgasm while you please her. She may just come knowing that you are not waiting for it to happen because she can stop stressing about trying to come for YOU.[/QUOTE]
Listen to this advice...
Even as a male if an orgasm is expected of me I find it REALLY difficult to do. Sex should never be about the orgasm, for the female OR the male. As she just mentioned, try having sex with the sole intent of giving her pleasure, NOT giving her an orgasm.
What technique are you using to bring her to orgasm? Every girl you've been with has multiple orgasms with you every time you have sex? And they never have orgasms before you? To me this sounds like what younger girls say because younger guys like to hear that :)
I don't think you were listening...
of course they didn't ALL have NO orgasms before me, and then have multiple orgasms every time...only 2 actually hadn't had orgasms, and they usually had multi orgasms, but sometimes none at all...
And like I said before, the current g/f has never had an orgasm, and the thing that bothers me is that it doesn't even feel good for her, not the lack of orgasm itself.
[QUOTE=dmd7d4;156125]I don't think you were listening...
of course they didn't ALL have NO orgasms before me, and then have multiple orgasms every time...only 2 actually hadn't had orgasms, and they usually had multi orgasms, but sometimes none at all...
And like I said before, the current g/f has never had an orgasm, and the thing that bothers me is that it doesn't even feel good for her, not the lack of orgasm itself.[/QUOTE]
I don't think it's people not listening to you, I think you aren't listening to the people giving you advice.
GirlyGirl hit it and I tried to repeat it: orgasm should not be the goal. If it does become the goal ALL pleasure can be lost, and then you are stuck with a woman who not only is unable to have an orgasm with you, but does not enjoy any sex with you.
You've also changed your story, in your original post you've mentioned they had multiple orgasms EVERY time, now sometimes they don't have any at all. Again, no need to focus on the orgasm itself.
You still havn't answered what you are doing to please this woman. What is a normal sexual encounter with this girl? From your own claims you can give women who never have orgasms multiple orgasms, so either you really know your way around or...?