Sometime when you are having a normal discussion about what to eat, jokingly say "how about my coochie?". If he doesn't get the clue then...he's not going to unless you shove your crotch in his face. A good time would be after dinner at a restaurant when you might be considering a desert.

Warning: when you say it, be prepared to have him want to go down on you right away. So, when you two are alone would be better than when you are in a group.

I agree with Dancingdoc2...DON'T give your virginity to him just because it could 'bring you closer together.'

I lost my virginity when I was in the 9th grade...a stupid mistake, a stupid decision, and an ******* of a guy...and I regret. I regret it with every fiber of my being and if I could undo one thing in my past, that would be it. Hands down. Because my guy was a virgin and I was his first and yeah, we agree that to our friends we are each other's first (only a few of my friends know of the first guy) and to each other we sometimes forget about that time and refer to him as my first: which he was the first guy I loved who I made love to.

I have a virgin friend who feels like she's being pressed into having sex because, well, everyone else in our group is doing it. I have lectured and I have begged her to hold on to it. You don't have to wait until marriage, but not at the age you are. I know I'm a hyprocrit because of my own age but I'm speaking from experience on this, I can say that at least.

Dancingdoc2 is right about the emotional connection....while my guy and me had that before we started having sex, we really didn't hone down into it until afterward. But we have it...we can get inside each other's heads...finish each other sentences...and we are best friends. Build on that connection before the physical one. I promise you you won't regret later on in life.

You can give him head and at some point either stop and wait for him to take it upon himself to reciprocate--or, finish him off and exclaim: "MY TURN!"

Another approach is to position yourself and your legs in a way that invites him to explore further your feminine delights, further.

> and feel like giving my virginity to him will make us even closer.

Maybe yes, maybe no, probably not.
Boys his age often think only of themselves, their pleasure, and do what needs to be said or done to get the girl to go along so he can get his rocks off. Be ware of the truthfulness of his statements when sex is involved.

Your virginity is a valuable and very precious gift. To simply give it away to someone is like arbitrarily giving away a million bucks. I urge you to wait a few years until you find the man you plan to marry. You need to mature into this and this will take a few more years and dating a lot more fellas. Loosing your virginity so young is not a wise thing to do on so many levels. Unfortunately at your age, you do not know what you do not know and this is why you should wait. You simply are not ready and you do not yet understand the magnitude or gravity of what you are contemplating. More often than not, a guy will take the experience and add a proverbial notch to his gunstock. He may even talk about the experience with friends, and to tell one is to tell the whole school. Another scenario is that he will reject you because you gave up your virginity too easily and too soon.

Now hear this: If you want to be close to him, then work on developing a close emotional connection. Become the very best of friends, and get inside each other's heads and souls. Intercourse is neither the best nor the correct approach. Intercourse is the wrong type of intimacy at this stage of life.