im afraid i wont be able to stand up aginst her past relationship
she is also bi and is "good" friends with another female and i always think she wil be there our first time...we have been dateing for around 13months so i think it will be soon plz give me advise on this matter...:confused::(:confused::(
(also sry for spelling mistakes my keybord is messd up)
thank you for the advise ever1 this helpd alot...
what i meant by "she is also bi and is "good" friends with another female and i always think she wil be there our first time"
is one thing i do know was her friend was actualy involved a few times in her past relationship
forget about her past lovers, she knows its your first time so she will be cool with you. what is this with her friend? you think she will be watching you two? if you dont want her there then tell her or your gf
Everyone is nervous their first time. Have you two engaged in other sex acts? If not, I would sort of work you way up to that so that you are more comfortable being intimate with each other. As far as you not being able to live up to her expectations, well, I'm sure she doesn't really have any. Every partner is different and each one likes different things, etc. To help you ease your mind about it all, I would read up on some sexual techniques to at least give you some good ideas about female sexual response and get some tips about what to do. If you just google "free online sex tutorials" you will find a lot of things there. There are also a lot of stickys here about sexual response, so look around here, too.
There is another site all about female sexual response and it is a really, REALLY great one: www.the-clitoris.com Look it up, read up on things and go into the bedroom with confidence, knowing you have learned more than most guys ever take the time to. Trust me, the more you read about how to be a better lover, the better lover you will be. However, the most important thing is to talk to your gf and find out what works for her - not everyone likes the same things.
As far as her friend being there, if you don't want her there, tell your gf. I imagine it would be stressful enough worrying about your gf than having to worry about her friend being there, too.
You likely are aware of too much of her past. The problem will be in your head. Can you ignore her past lovers both male and female? Could you tolerate her girlfriends while you are dating her?
Until you are firm on your feet re: sex and relationships, do NOT permit her bi-femme friend into your relationship with this woman. You need to focus!
Never ask about her past.
In most cases, it will disappoint you, yet, it has no effect on who she wants to be with you.
Your first time? Let me spoil the surprise - it won't be that great, for you, or for her.
Good things in time. Just have fun, and make sure she has fun, too.
You know, you could follow her lead. *EG*
Chapter Five (Please scroll down to this chapter):
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
Dont be put down by ephemra...your first time could be great...if you take time and dont force it...just go with what feels right...
No other women should be involved in your first time! If you are having any worries about performing well with one woman, there shouldn't be two! Does she know you're a virgin? I'm assuming she does and that your relationship is somewhat serious if you've been together for a year without sex. Her lover should not be in the picture. If you have an open relationship, fine, but unless you are all in agreement, the relationship you have with this woman is between you and her, no one else. When in doubt, talk to her and make sure you're on the same page
First time sex can be good, but you have to be realistic and realize it's never going to be perfect. Don't have too many expectations. Sex in real life is not like porn or sex scenes in movies. It can be awkward and silly and clumsy, but acknowledging those aspects will make it more fun and passionate than trying to get everything the way you think it should be in your head. Neither of you are perfect. She has the experience to know and expect this, so the best thing you can do is be confident and be tuned in to what she is enjoying. Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes or suggest things to her.