and i am also plus size. I am very self concious about my body and the fact that my bf was going to finger me (it would have been my first time)and was lost and just basically felt up my thigh has made me embarassed!!! I mean im not huge or anything and i assumed he would know where my vagina was but guess not! I just feel wierd any advice?
Thu, 04/05/2007 - 13:54
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Im still a virgin
A lot of guys like big girls, trust me :) Don't feel bad about HIS total lack of experience and savvy. Either hand him a map to the female body, or move on.
Move on?
Before doing that, why not take matters into your own hands by guiding his fingers? There is no need to cut and run so soon!, or to cut your losses, or abandon ship so to speak. Give the lad a break. Read the how-to Sticky posts on exploring and learning together, not to mention there being a new "Square One" from which each new relationship begins, regardless of prior exerience(s) one or both of you may have had.
Locating a vagina is one thing, locating the clitoris in another. I've also written a tip on how a fella can do this easily and deftly.
look if he cares about you enough then he wont mind and if your self conscious then try it with the light off
I felt the same way 3 months back. I learned to be comfterable with my partner and we talked about it. I gave myself to him, and 3 months later we had sex together for the first time and we both gave our virginity to each other. It all started back to when he first fingered me and i will always remember that night. Talk to your partner about your concerns.
My girlfriend and I are trying to have sex but we cant find a good place to have it. everytime she says lets do it at my house then her parents try to come in but we lock the door and we cant have it at my house.
somebody please help
[QUOTE=zacham;176010]My girlfriend and I are trying to have sex but we cant find a good place to have it. everytime she says lets do it at my house then her parents try to come in but we lock the door and we cant have it at my house.
somebody please help[/QUOTE]
that is what used to happen to me, but because of it my gf broke up w/ me...
[QUOTE=kota;177290]that is what used to happen to me, but because of it my gf broke up w/ me...[/QUOTE]
Well that's retarded!:confused:
Like it's your fault?!?
I think most teens go through this...:rolleyes:
I mean why can't you at her house?? probably for the same reasons right...then how you can blame the other person.
Better off w/out this chick!
in todays world parents walk around with a "brick in there ass" so to speak and make it hard to acually let there kids become adults. im 17 and i couldent be alone with a a girl in my house for 5 seconds. i have a car but i really don't want it go down in such a small space. i want it to be a little more confortable and memorable than in a van outside a concert or somthing. got any tips where two people could go to get away from that?
[quote=JFAC;177329]in todays world parents walk around with a "brick in there ass" so to speak and make it hard to acually let there kids become adults. im 17 and i couldent be alone with a a girl in my house for 5 seconds. i have a car but i really don't want it go down in such a small space. i want it to be a little more confortable and memorable than in a van outside a concert or somthing. got any tips where two people could go to get away from that?[/quote]
Rent a hotel/motel room. Read Doc's thread on where to find a place. As far as parents not allowing you to be alone in the home, it has more to do with demonstrating respect for their home and perhaps they do not condone this behavior? When you are a parent, you may (or may not) feel the same way.
I am 41 and still would not have sex in my parents home (not that I sleep over often since I live down the road) but I feel it would be awkward and disrespectful to them. On several occasions my brother (prior to marriage) "pet set", residing at my home, he refused to sleep in my bed, I was single (the most comfortable of all four beds were mine) while staying there, he chose to sleep in the spare bedroom. I had no issue with anything they did there (his then girlfriend and now current wife) and even left fresh sheets for him to find--I know they did the "deed" since I found a towel under the bed.
The best I can figure it really is just parents are asking for respect of their household. In all honesty, I would feel it's more appropriate as a parent (if I was one) to go out for dinner, knowing my kids were safer in the house then out in a public place.