I am 19 and I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend, the first time didn't hurt hardly at all and the times after have been good. We recently tried a new position, its basically missionary but my legs are on his shoulders, allowing for deeper penetration. It hurt pretty bad, and I am now sore. My question is will it become more pleasurable when I get used to the deeper penetration and was it more painful since it was only my like 7th time ever having sex and he was going pretty deep?
Thanks.
KC
STOP thinking of positions and start thinking of sex as the conflagration of souls.
Do The Program - slowly, cautiously explore each other; noting all reactions when you do this...or that....maybe over here?
The frst lesson for him is to use the head of his penis to caress your G-Spot.
No no no - he needn't go any furher than that right now. To do this he should be sitting down between your thighs. Sit up straight! Use SMALL movements and "think up" just when the glans is just inside of her vagina. It isn't in very far and is in the "roof" of the vagina when she's lying on her back.
Wear a condom and lubricate it vey well and get to work doing this.
HER job during this is to RELAX, let whatever she feels do its thing and SHOW those feelings - good or bad. No you don't get a rolled up newspaper to whack him with. (As one guy I know teased.)
Experiment & Explore!
Maybe yes and maybe no. Each couple needs to establish what will work, or not work, for them. When it "hurt(s) pretty bad" change something. It is not supposed to hurt.
Thanks guys, I did let him know that it hurt, but I will have thim read those articles. Appreciate the help. :]
Oh and He said the head of his penis is sore after that too. I want to get that position right but how can we do that?
Will you listen to the girl? "Hi, we did this and now it hurts so will I ever get used to it?"
You automatically assumed that "it was you" who erred.
NO - Bcause he's doing it wrong.
Let us review. The vagina's longest beneath the cervix. Deep penetration requires that the penis slides in UNDER the cervix. Now he may have thought that this is what this "legs over the shoulder" position guarantees but it doesn't.
Based upon what you have said, he's probably tapping above the cervix and thinking that if he pushes harder he'll get this deep penetration. DON'T DO IT.
He might go right through the vaginal wall at the anterior fornix and "deep penetration" right into your abdominal cavity. Cue the ER. 8 hours to die. Don't think it doesn't happen. I say this NOT to scare you nto not having sex. Oh no! Not at all. I want you to take charge of your body. You own it, you should learn all you can about it.
Brandye is quite right. It is NOT supposed to hurt so if it does something's very wrong
Now what you should do is sit down here and read the articles in the Index entitled The Four Hotspots, The Program, and Body Worship. Have your bf read them too.
One of the hardest skills for a man to learn is knowing where he is when he's inside of you. He can't see it so he has to feel his way, 'listen' to your body and see your reaction. If it hurts DO NOT HESITATE to tell him so. If it feels awesome - let him know. That way he will learn that if he does this it is great and if he does that you'll smack him one.
Please do not automatically assume that "it is you" ever again.
Maybe.
But maybe not.
That position is not working - yet. Use different positions; do not intentionally go back to something that did not work for either of you.
If you continue to enter a revolving door against the rotation you will get hurt. Go the other way.