Hi Dannielle :)

so...what you basically said in your post is that the guy doesnt want a relationship with you, but just wants sex.

Danielle, really, is a guy like that worth having your first time with? I mean... when you have sex with him, he got what he wanted and will walk away after that.
You will have what you wanted too, but when he after that just walks away it will hurt like hell.. Dont think that having sex with him for the first time, will make him start loving you...
And when you later in your life meet a guy that you really really love and care about and he feels the same for you, you will be incredibly sorry that you gave yourself away to "just a guy", one that didnt care for you.

This guy will most likely not be the only man on this earth that turns you on a lot... ;) so... my advise... dont ruin what could be a wonderful moment to a guy that doesnt love you...!

I quite agree

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If you want the good feelings that come from going beyond using your hands on each other, then curl up with a racey novel and masturbate.

As for intercourse, many of us find that while it is an incredibly good activity to do, it produces results that are different from a good hand job or oral stimulation. Say--what?! Here's my thought on the matter.

If you want more intensity to the feelings you get from fooling around then up the ante' to include oral stimulation. You will discover that when in the company of another person, we become much more turned on than when doing things at home, alone. Now, if the person we are with is also one that we have intense feelings for then the turn on becomes stronger yet due to all the pheromones in the air and the "sparks" involved. So, you can have much more intense orgasms from just this.

Intercourse is more about the psyche than the physical. Certainly the sensations we derive from intercourse are fantastic, but they often are not physically as intense. Intercourse satisfies the needs of the soul and psyche and can be quite a different ending. If one or the other of you is not truly connected then intercourse can be a big and exasperating let down once done.

The vagina can be considered the gateway to a woman's soul. The penis is the essence of man. Joining the two can and should be a very special meeting in which the two of you really do become one with the other for a moment in time. It sounds to me like you are looking for a reason not to have intercourse, yet, so this is my contribution to that end.

Don't have sex with him. You'll regret it later.

sugarplum that was a well stated post.

I have to also agree with you on what you have just said.

he will most likely walk away. tell all his mates he scored and treat you like dirt. Nobody deserves that and you should be with someone that loves you back just as equal

To what has been said I would add:

Doing something because you want to do it is not a very good reason.

Doing something because you can do it is a not a very good reason.

Most people can't "compartmentalize" their lives. The decision whether or not to have sex (and who with) has more than a physical dimension. There are emotional and intellectual considerations.

If you simply want to get laid, have at it and pay the psychological price later. If you want some kind of relationship, wait to see where this is going. From what you say her, I question why you are bothering with him at all. There are lots more available.

the guy wants sex but not a relationship ? ask yourself what if you get pregnant what will he do ?
I spent two wounderful weeks with a girl and we did not get as far as intercourse but it was a pleasure to hear her say: I trust you
on more than one occasion when she got frustarated I said "I don't expect anything of you only do what you feel like doing now" will this guy say the same to you ?
six dates in four months wow it's not that that is all the time he can find between a more important activity like another girlfriend ? hell I would only want to have sex with a girl I had serious feelings for and one I have serious feelings for would be my highest priority in spending as much time with her as possible even if only cuddling.

dannielle-

girl I had sex the first time with a guy i knew we could never have a real relationship and i knew he didnt really care for me the way i cared for him. My feelings for him change drastically after sleeping with him... I said to myself I know he doesnt really want anything from me but sex but its ok because it was what I want to. I said I'd never regret it and girl I lied! I regret it because even though my first experience was better then most have, it would ahve been better if it had been with someone who wanted more then just sex from me. Even if ya'll are friends. Your relationship will never be the same afterwards and u can never go back and change it once u do it. Now I'm downing sex with a friend because my partner right now is a friend but he's more then a friend at the same time. I hate that I lost my virginity to who i did. Dont get wrapped up in losing it and dont get wrapped up in everythign he says. Think about this becuase its this next statement that made me end my relationship with my first. Accidents happen and if you ended up pregnent would he stand by you? Even if u plan on condoms and the pill I have a friend who has a son and he never had sex with his girlfriend without a condom and she was almost anal about taking her pill. Sh*t happens! Would he be there for u if something happened? Probably not if he doesnt have deeper feeligns for you!

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Forget him and get someone who thinks about your emotions. Your first time isn't something you want to do just because others are doing it or you want to try it. Experimenting is fine and all, but do it with someone who is willing to return the favor and help you with it.