[QUOTE=sprtskhne33;235776]Well my girl and I have been seeing each other for a while now and there were some things I'd like to know before I do anything. I'd like to start having foreplay with her and but I'm not 100% of risks. Here are my questions:

1. If you have oral sex with no protection, is it possible she might get pregnant?

[COLOR="blue">Only if your precum mucus and/or ejaculate dribble down and find their way into her vagina.[/COLOR]

2. If you have anal sex with no protection, is it possible she might get pregnant?
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No couple in their right mind would have anal intercourse without using a condom and lots and lots of lubrication. I would not even entertain the idea of participating in this until you and your girlfriend have established a long successful history with each other and have trust. Anal is not for everybody so understand that your girlfriend may never consent. That said, there is nothing wrong with engaging in anal play w/o inserting your penis. There is an article on all this listed in the Index. [/COLOR]

3. How long should we go for the first time just to "test" our bodies to see if their ready?

[COLOR="blue">Please clarify, this makes no sense as written. If you are asking about how long to make out then no less than half an hour, more within reason if possible.

What do you want to test your bodies for? Having sex is more about the emotional content of a relationship than the physical. If you can love and ejaculate, you are ready. If she has an emotional connection then she is ready. Her ability to climax is not a prerequisite.
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4. How can you tell if time is long enough or not enough?

[COLOR="blue">For her, when she invites you inside, not before
Also, after at least half an hour of fooling around and making out because it takes this long to fully arouse a woman, as noted, above.
For you: if you masturbate then you already know the answer[/COLOR]

5. If I can't com, is there something wrong with me?
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More often than not, no, however, most of us suffer from the first few times jitters known as Performance Anxiety. The fix is to simply stop worrying--sometimes easier said than done.

Also, if you are having trouble climaxing from oral and/or a hand job during Foreplay, then this is most often a problem of being stimulated correctly. These and many other questions are addressed in articles listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. I suggest that you begin at the top and begin reading all of them in turn until you are at the bottom of Page 2.

Knowledge is empowering[/COLOR].

6. How can I confront her about this?
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"Confront?" I would use a different approach. That said, what is the "this" that you want to talk about, PA? Just talk about it should it become an issue. Making love is done in partnership. It is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other. Communication and feedback are keys.

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7. How can I tell if we're ready?

[COLOR="blue">For Necking and Petting? For Foreplay? For intercourse? You are ready after the two of you talk about everything you've learned in the articles and have discussed the many points. You are ready when the two of you say the time is right? You are ready only after you take responsibility for your protection and your girlfriend's--not before! You are ready when she is. If you have to ask the question, you are not. You are ready when you do it for all the right reasons, not just to get your rocks off at some girl's expense. You are ready when you are fully prepared to be an unwed father and all that this entails, and when she is also using a highly reliably form of contraception, and, when the two of you also use a third method (spermicide) as back up--not until.
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Thank you guys (and gals) for helping me out. I want to pleasure her and vis-versa but I don't really want to risk any of that if all possible.[/QUOTE]

Risk what???? Please explain and clarify those points, asked about, above.

The two of you need more knowledge than what you now possess. This is why all the articles listed in the Index were written. Please read them together or individually and then discuss each. In addition, please familiarize yourself with the FAQs, and the Posting Guidelines section. These and the Index, are all found at the top of the main screen.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please do not hesitate to ask questions as you read or after you read the articles. This is why the site exists. Enjoy.

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