HI,
I'm a 25 year old guy who is still a virgin, and I've begun to think I am in the very very small minority? I've actually never even had a girlfriend and only had my first real kiss this past year.
Is this a total turn-off for girls? The last few girls I've dated have wanted absolutely nothing to do with me after they found out about me. I'm not one of those guys who has to be with a virgin too. It really doesn't matter what a girl has done before I met her, but how she acts when she is with me.
I had always wanted to save myself for marriage (or at least with a girl who I was totally in love with), but it seems like girls cannot respect a guy with this belief. Some could not even believe me and thought I was lying. One of my really close friends (she's married) told me that I was the sweetest guy she's ever met. I'm friendly, honest, I like to go out and have fun, graduated at the top of my class, was an athlete, have a great job now... but I've never been able to date a girl for more than a couple of weeks. It usually ends up with them telling me that I will make the perfect husband, will make some girl really happy some day, or that I was the kind of guy they could take home to the parents but could not date.
Is there something wrong with me, or am I just meeting the wrong girls? Is my lack of experience dooming me. I don't always announce it but I have a feeling it shows through. I don't really know what to do I've tried everything. I feel like there is so much I have been missing and I have so much to give in this world that I'm going crazy.
I know this has been long-winded, so thanks for reading. Please give me your opinions on my situation and be honest with me - I can take it. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Hi Gretzky99
I know how you feel. I'm also a virgin and 25 years old. I don't feel the same about marriage but I if that's your belief than you should follow it. I didn't think I would ever find a women, who loves me and want to have sex with me. I dislike going to clubs and bars and booze al night and what happened. I found her and taking time to build up the sex with her. I don't want to end with a cliche, but maybe you should look elsewehere to find the women of your dreams.
I think it is awesome that you are still a virgin! I am not going to go "all the way" till i am married and i don’t plan on marring anyone who has either. I think it is awesome and i applaud you for it! Gives me some hope that i will get through high school and every thing! I am just now getting started with the whole sexual temptations, so i have a long way to go till i get to give in! but so far i am being good! So keep it up, i am so happy to hear from someone older that is still a virgin it is so rare now days, but your really awesome for saving your whole self for your wife. and when your future wife knows she will be so happy!
My advice....stop taking yourself so seriously. It sounds like you have alot to offer and have your "shit" together, but you honestly don't sound like alot of fun.
If you're in your 20's, most folks your age are planning weekend trips and activities. They're playing softball, volleyball, raquetball, going camping, trips to the city to dance and shop.
Many gals don't want to do more than "have a good time" in their 20's. If you're hanging around the "party crowd" and you're not knee deep in the mass of folks in the dance floor everynite - then u are in the wrong crowd.
If you are looking for a WIFE, then keep what you are doing and trust me, there are MANY women out there who are looking for mature guy in his mid 20's thats over his "college days" and dosn't view every weekend as a chance to re-live "spring break."
Try and strike a healthy balance - but look at the image you portray and the folks you hang out with....remember, the definition of insanity is: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results!
it doesnt have to be a turn off for girls...if u dont tell them
. it really depends on the girl, they may think its good you have saved yourself for that right girl and you are proper, or htey may think u r werid.
i think you are meeting teh wrong girls, there are many good girls out there who think exactly the same as you.
tease said it all, dont go looking for it, it'll come looking for you.
good luck
you are what i would consider a rare breed...but don't worry, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
i myself was a rare breed. i was 22 and still a virgin. never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, other than a forced one.
i lost my virginity in december...a month before i turned 23.
i didn't have my first REAL kiss till february. (yea, i worked backwards.) and honestly, i've still never had a boyfriend. yes, i'm in a relationship so to speak, but he's not my boyfriend (and that's a long mess as to why. lol)
but be proud of who you are. one day you'll meet a girl just as sweet and honest as you..and a virgin just like you.
and remember that things happen when you're not looking for it. mine sure did.