I'm trying to introduce sex to my 13 year old bf. I've told him most of the types of sex that there is and hes interested. Sometimes at night, I try to get him to squeeze my breasts-but when ever he does, his hands start shaking and there only like an inch away. Then when he does grab them and starts squeezing them, I sigh and then he jumps and turns away. I ask him whats wrong, then he says that hes scared of sex!
What should I do?
Wed, 02/21/2007 - 04:30
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I'm having problems with young BF ...
Give him a few years...
BTW How old are you?
Sometimes...when I'm at his house when his parents and his little sister arent home, we both get naked and do stuff in his bed. But he has never put his penis anywhere near my vagina! Techcnically...I mastirbate and he just watches. Sometimes we go to this website ad look up tips and stuff...put we ever i ask him to try them, he gets scared! What should I do?
16. I'll bee 17 next month
Does he even have pubic hair yet? Don't try to have sex with a 13 year old boy. That disturbs me.
the kid is 13, give him some time. I'm sure some guys around 17 wouldn't mind having their hands on you. I'm 20 btw lol
i wasn't thinking about sex at 13 more like 14 or 15
Ummm...Yeaahh pressuring a 13 yr old boy that says he's scared of sex is borderline "something" lol.... You are 17, much more mature, and should know better than that.
I agree w/ Turbo. Most girls mature more quickly than boys...that is why you tend to see 15-16 yr old girls w/ 18+ boys. I'd find someone more you age who would totally not be scared and be willing to experiment w/ any tips you find here on the site.
is anyone else creeped out by this?
Sort of reminds me of the Dateline series on TV..."To Catch a Preditor"...I understand that one is 17 where other's on TV are 21+ but seems just as creepy to me.
[QUOTE=mcsgirl;168328]is anyone else creeped out by this?[/QUOTE]
Oh don't worry, some people in here will probably say it is okay and he's lucky to be getting that type of training!:rolleyes: or they'll say it is none of our business and or they are only 3 years age difference, it all depends on whose agenda it fits unfortunately. flame me burn me,suit is on! and I could care less about "rep" points
13 is still young can you remember when you were 13 what if a 17 year old boy wanted sex with you for the first time, give it time don’t rush him into something that you and he might regret later
wow i was 14 and regretted it... now your trying to have a relationship with a 13 year old kid. i wouldnt do it but im not here to judge. truth is you have to give him time to figure out his body before he rushes into anything like that
Yeah totally.... whoever said he doesn't even have pubes yet is pretty right....i wasn't even thinking about having sex at 13!!!!! more like 15! and being 17 and 13....that's a big maturity gap big time.... i almost moved out when i was 17 i wouldn't imagine dating a 13 year old and having a sexual relationship....
if he's scared don't MAKE him........he's pretty much a baby still, let him be young and discover sex when he's comfortable
They guy is really really lucky to be having that type of training at that age.
God when I was 13 I would have killed my family to be able to get a taste of a 16yr old.
Just be patient with him he is only young & has no experience.
If he hasn't jumped your bones yet the I don't think he is ready for sex yet. Geez, let him be a kid a while longer...
[QUOTE=HardNgood;168339]Oh don't worry, some people in here will probably say it is okay and he's lucky to be getting that type of training!:rolleyes: or they'll say it is none of our business and or they are only 3 years age difference, it all depends on whose agenda it fits unfortunately. flame me burn me,suit is on! and I could care less about "rep" points[/QUOTE]
LOL
Sirene... are you just saying that since Hardngood is always giving you a "hard" time :p
is that even llegal...
Hey I like Sirene !! gives me a good laff everyday! i think he's a mucky little b*tch LOL
Dang the kid is 13 give him some time. of course he is ganna be scared of sex he is only 13
haha, i was in a relationship when i was 14. GF was actually 13 I think.(been a while)
She wanted sex, but I didnt. Was suprisngly paranoid about the condom breaking, and being a father at 14 years old. She ended up leaving me, but I look back on it and think my decison showed some maturity for a 14 year old..
[QUOTE=HardNgood;168454]Hey I like Sirene !! gives me a good laff everyday! i think he's a mucky little b*tch LOL[/QUOTE]
lol I am a mucky little bitch :p
I hope she is not ignoring our advice and trying to tie the kid to the bed right now.
LOL girl
I know right!!!
I hate when people start a thread that gets a lot of response.. but they never come back to comment :(
actually...I have so sneak on here just to post here. steve'll tell everybody if he found out that I was on here. Anyways, I have sex because I was abused badly as a child. I have sex with people I love because it takes the pain away. and no I'm not tying him to the bed.
Jeez, let me remember......ahh yes....when I was 13, I was into building go-carts out of old lawnmowers. girls sort of intrigued me but I don't remember haveing a burning desire to get one naked. If it didn't have an engine I pretty much wasn't interested. Guess maybe I was a late bloomer. LOL:cool:
[QUOTE=kjprojekt;168952]actually...I have so sneak on here just to post here. steve'll tell everybody if he found out that I was on here. Anyways, I have sex because I was abused badly as a child. I have sex with people I love because it takes the pain away. and no I'm not tying him to the bed.[/QUOTE]
Then those are issues that should be worked out w/ a counselor or a therapist, not in the bedroom w/ a 13 yr old kid who isn't ready.
[COLOR="Red">Personally, I think it's just a personal thing... I had sex for the first time at age of 12... Big mistake >.<" Never had sex since then, and I'm 18 1/2. I loved it, I was totally into it, not really scared at all.
But when I stuck it in her (which lasted only a few seconds before we stopped) I felt my penis completely soaked. And since I knew so little, I thought maybe I had came in her and didn't know it. I was terrified...
Though I later realized I had nothing to worry about because I was unable to come at that age if you catch my drift <.<"[/COLOR]
As far as it being a personal thing, yes it is. But a woman who is almost 17, sexually experienced, enticing a 13 year old who is terrified, so terrified he can barely touch her breasts calls for time to back off him, he's not ready. It just seems so wrong, so inappropriate.
I went over to his house a couple of days ago. I found himin his room naked in his bed. So I went over to see if he was-it turns out that he had his underwear on.
Then we got into a conversation. He then started talking about the stuff I taught him and asked me some questions about it. He said that one noght when his parents and his little sister are out, he would call me and try some of the things I taught him out with me! I'M SOO HAPPY!!:D
[QUOTE=kjprojekt;169659]I went over to his house a couple of days ago. I found himin his room naked in his bed. So I went over to see if he was-it turns out that he had his underwear on.
Then we got into a conversation. He then started talking about the stuff I taught him and asked me some questions about it. He said that one noght when his parents and his little sister are out, he would call me and try some of the things I taught him out with me! I'M SOO HAPPY!!:D[/QUOTE]
Any advice?
Advice on...
[QUOTE=kjprojekt;169660]Any advice?[/QUOTE]Uhhhhhh get a life, that'll keep you busy for awhile
Any advice? Yeap.
1-Forget about sex for a while, take the time to learn about your body first.
2-Get into therapy for your history of abuse, anger, and depression.
3-Leave the 13 year old alone since you are 17. When you are ready to have sex, don't do it with someone 4 years your junior.
[QUOTE=HardNgood;169677]Uhhhhhh get a life, that'll keep you busy for awhile[/QUOTE]
JERK!!!!!!
I agree with Sera, you're borderline rape with this kid and what happens in a year when your 18? Wouldn't he be only 14.... I don't know if you know this, but that's still molestation even if you pledge the rest of your life with him.The youngest age of "legal" sex is 16 and that's only in certain states.
Hmmm, well its a sensitive area. Don't push anything on him but if he is asking about things then yes i'd say its ok to do that with him, its fine aslong as he is comfortable with it and also knows whats happening.
meh i wish she was around when i was 13 :l
but still that gone in the head, ur basically training a sex monkey :o