And no, sex shouldn't be painful, but for some women, especially those built narrow, there's not a whole lot they can do.
There is nothing medically wrong with them but since they are narrow, sex can be a painful process for quite some time.
I don't know if you are still having problems with this...
I always experience a little pain upon entry, but it's lessened the more I've had sex. I don't think it's nearly as bad as what you're going through though.
Here are my two suggestions:
1: get checked out by another doctor (as Tessie suggested), or go back to the one you have and tell them how bad it is. It really sounds like something is wrong to me... sex shouldn't be that painful, except maybe the first few times. I know it hurt really bad the first time for me, but it got much better.
2: you may have already, but try having him use your vibrator(s) on you first, to get you warmed up... if you have problems with the vibrators, then maybe you are tense when you're around him? It could be because you're afraid it's going to hurt... but if you get warmed up ok with the vibrators, then have him try, and see if that makes a difference?
I think it's a combination of both really.
It hurts about an inch of the way in, and being narrow, I know that width is an issue. And the deeper he tries to go, the worse it seems to get.
He's not all that big around. He's about as big around as one of my vibrators (or rather, the vibrator is about as big around as he is). And yes, I do have some trouble with that vibrator at first, but usually after a few minutes, I'm able to go deeper.. which is not the case with him. We just don't seem to get much of anywhere. I mean, yea, he'll come, but that's just because I'm tight and he never gets any, so turning him on and making him cum takes little to no time at all. lol.
I'm sure it'd help if we had more time together, but unfortunately, an unexpected time constraint came into play kinda at the last minute, so I know that rushing it doesn't help.
I will possibly try out the dildo thing.
Anyone got any good ones they can recommend?
Tease does it it hurt width wise or is it how deep he goes in? I know when I first started having sex and even with hubby in the early days I would have bad pain if he went in too deep. Over time that stopped and I haven't had any problem since.
I don't think it's normal or should be accepted. I would do my own research and see another doctor that is more knowledgable on female sexuality.
Oh you said vibrator and fingers. Have you tried a dildo? Maybe same size as your man or slightly bigger and practice with that and see how it works for you.
I'd done it like a week after I finished and a week before I started and this time I was supposed to be on it, but I'm not yet, for... whatever reason...
But, you may be right. It may have something to do with it.
At least it's a little insight.
with my ex, there would be certain times of the month where when we tried to have sex it would hurt her pretty bad, kind of like you're describing. i noticed it was generally right after her period that this would happen.
basically what i'm saying is this may have something to do with your cycle perhaps? that's about as much help as i can offer.
I've talked to Brandye about it before. I talked to her a lot about this before as well.
As I've said, I've been to the doctor. There is nothing medically wrong with me.
I'm a tad suspicious about the pain disappearing so abruptly. Just in case it returns, you should ask Brandeye.
She is a qualified physician in these matters. I would send her a message if I were you.
Good luck,
Jaybee.
I'm not having problems anymore.
And no, sex shouldn't be painful, but for some women, especially those built narrow, there's not a whole lot they can do.
There is nothing medically wrong with them but since they are narrow, sex can be a painful process for quite some time.
I don't know if you are still having problems with this...
I always experience a little pain upon entry, but it's lessened the more I've had sex. I don't think it's nearly as bad as what you're going through though.
Here are my two suggestions:
1: get checked out by another doctor (as Tessie suggested), or go back to the one you have and tell them how bad it is. It really sounds like something is wrong to me... sex shouldn't be that painful, except maybe the first few times. I know it hurt really bad the first time for me, but it got much better.
2: you may have already, but try having him use your vibrator(s) on you first, to get you warmed up... if you have problems with the vibrators, then maybe you are tense when you're around him? It could be because you're afraid it's going to hurt... but if you get warmed up ok with the vibrators, then have him try, and see if that makes a difference?
I really hope things get better....
I think it's a combination of both really.
It hurts about an inch of the way in, and being narrow, I know that width is an issue. And the deeper he tries to go, the worse it seems to get.
He's not all that big around. He's about as big around as one of my vibrators (or rather, the vibrator is about as big around as he is). And yes, I do have some trouble with that vibrator at first, but usually after a few minutes, I'm able to go deeper.. which is not the case with him. We just don't seem to get much of anywhere. I mean, yea, he'll come, but that's just because I'm tight and he never gets any, so turning him on and making him cum takes little to no time at all. lol.
I'm sure it'd help if we had more time together, but unfortunately, an unexpected time constraint came into play kinda at the last minute, so I know that rushing it doesn't help.
I will possibly try out the dildo thing.
Anyone got any good ones they can recommend?
Tease does it it hurt width wise or is it how deep he goes in? I know when I first started having sex and even with hubby in the early days I would have bad pain if he went in too deep. Over time that stopped and I haven't had any problem since.
I don't think it's normal or should be accepted. I would do my own research and see another doctor that is more knowledgable on female sexuality.
Oh you said vibrator and fingers. Have you tried a dildo? Maybe same size as your man or slightly bigger and practice with that and see how it works for you.
I'd done it like a week after I finished and a week before I started and this time I was supposed to be on it, but I'm not yet, for... whatever reason...
But, you may be right. It may have something to do with it.
At least it's a little insight.
with my ex, there would be certain times of the month where when we tried to have sex it would hurt her pretty bad, kind of like you're describing. i noticed it was generally right after her period that this would happen.
basically what i'm saying is this may have something to do with your cycle perhaps? that's about as much help as i can offer.
I don't have any advice here. It's not really my area...lol. I've looked through some info, but haven't found anything helpful yet.
Anyway, I'll keep looking. Glad you had a good birthday, otherwise.