This is absolutely rediculous. You have posted five requests for help in as many minutes! What gives? Haven't you heard the adage that "patience is a virture?"
This site and its forums are comprised of a "community" of people from every corner of the globe. Give them time to respond. Not everyone is waiting by their computer for someone to holler "HELP"! like a software technician or crisis counselor at a help-line.
1. make sure your positive your ready
2. if it's his first time unless you don't know where the penis goes everything he feels will be "awesome"
3. he's probably nervous too so don't get so..frazzled
4. refer to #1 yet again
5. Simple missionary is the way to go the first time..don't over work it ...
6. make him be on top the whole experience for him sense it is his first it will be pleasurable as for you the first time may be extremely discomforting so let him do a fair bit of the work.
7. tell him if he's thrusting too hard the first time..let him take "care" of you
My opinion:
the first time is about both you as a connection but the one that needs the caring primarily is definitely you...hands down let him do the majority of the work the first time.
<3
hope I helped
and next time you need help chill out and wait a bit for help...it shows up on the main forum page so people know it's a new topic and would love to give advice once their done with their existing inquiries.
<3
if you don't have patience neither you nor your boyfriend will enjoy much and he will probably have fun anyhow so make sure you get given proper atention
5. Simple missionary is the way to go the first time..don't over work it ...
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I disagree.
The Woman Superior position is recommended by sexperts as a great first time position to use. Here's why:
* She knows where the penis is and where the vaginal opening is and can deftly bring the two together much easier than he can, possibly saving him a great deal of angst and fumbling
* Insertion may or may not be easy. Either way pressure should be used. Never poke, jab, or, shove
* If the hymen is intact, she can more easily position the tip of the Glans between the hymen and the wall of the vagina; alternately, over a large opening in the hymen if one exists
* By being on top, she is better able to control the pressure initially used
* By being on top, she controls the speed of entry and the depth
* By being on top, she controls the speed and tempo of stroking
* By being on top, she may possibly have better control over his arousal than he is. Still, this is ify at best
Please explain what you mean by "don't over work it ..."
[QUOTE] 6. make him be on top the whole experience for him sense it is his first it will be pleasurable as for you the first time may be extremely discomforting so let him do a fair bit of the work. [/QUOTE]
If a woman is able to climax on her own then she has a fair chance at achieving an orgasm using this position because she can rub her pieces parts against his in an ongoing manner that will build friction and her level of arousal.
Achieving an orgasm may not be possible if she experiences any discomfort from penetration. I believe it is a great idea to help her have an orgasm before intercourse begins if she is able to achieve orgasms and it is her desire.
Achieving an orgasm is not likely using the Missionary position unless the man reaches around and fingers her while stroking.
Your statement makes it sound like the overall first time experience will not be pleasurable for the woman. Maybe yes, maybe no. Yet if done with love and care, even a failed attempt can be emotionally satisfying.
As for guys, I agree that the physical aspects of having a climax will no doubt be pleasurable; however, many a fella experiences emotional distress over not being able to enter, any discomfort she may experience, climaxing too soon, and physical discomfort from a low-grade ache at the base of his penis and route structure inside of his abdomen as he repeatedly tries to apply pressure to gain entrance.
You know, maybe because its usually awkward/rushed...I have never heard of a girl saying she orgasmed on a first try, certainly not from penetration. I know I never had an orgasm until after my first, and it was from solo-ing. No man/boy besides my current partner ever managed it...but then he takes the time to pleasure me. :)
anyone? please help me
I really need some help, he deserves great sex for all weve been through, and i dont want him t obe dissaponted
i realy need you guys to help me :(
please. ?? sumone, anyone!
and you are how old?
Read through the threads on the site.
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This is absolutely rediculous. You have posted five requests for help in as many minutes! What gives? Haven't you heard the adage that "patience is a virture?"
This site and its forums are comprised of a "community" of people from every corner of the globe. Give them time to respond. Not everyone is waiting by their computer for someone to holler "HELP"! like a software technician or crisis counselor at a help-line.
You do seem extremely antsy take a chill pill..
advice?
1. make sure your positive your ready
2. if it's his first time unless you don't know where the penis goes everything he feels will be "awesome"
3. he's probably nervous too so don't get so..frazzled
4. refer to #1 yet again
5. Simple missionary is the way to go the first time..don't over work it ...
6. make him be on top the whole experience for him sense it is his first it will be pleasurable as for you the first time may be extremely discomforting so let him do a fair bit of the work.
7. tell him if he's thrusting too hard the first time..let him take "care" of you
My opinion:
the first time is about both you as a connection but the one that needs the caring primarily is definitely you...hands down let him do the majority of the work the first time.
<3
hope I helped
and next time you need help chill out and wait a bit for help...it shows up on the main forum page so people know it's a new topic and would love to give advice once their done with their existing inquiries.
<3
if you don't have patience neither you nor your boyfriend will enjoy much and he will probably have fun anyhow so make sure you get given proper atention
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advice?
5. Simple missionary is the way to go the first time..don't over work it ...
[/QUOTE]
I disagree.
The Woman Superior position is recommended by sexperts as a great first time position to use. Here's why:
* She knows where the penis is and where the vaginal opening is and can deftly bring the two together much easier than he can, possibly saving him a great deal of angst and fumbling
* Insertion may or may not be easy. Either way pressure should be used. Never poke, jab, or, shove
* If the hymen is intact, she can more easily position the tip of the Glans between the hymen and the wall of the vagina; alternately, over a large opening in the hymen if one exists
* By being on top, she is better able to control the pressure initially used
* By being on top, she controls the speed of entry and the depth
* By being on top, she controls the speed and tempo of stroking
* By being on top, she may possibly have better control over his arousal than he is. Still, this is ify at best
Please explain what you mean by "don't over work it ..."
[QUOTE] 6. make him be on top the whole experience for him sense it is his first it will be pleasurable as for you the first time may be extremely discomforting so let him do a fair bit of the work. [/QUOTE]
If a woman is able to climax on her own then she has a fair chance at achieving an orgasm using this position because she can rub her pieces parts against his in an ongoing manner that will build friction and her level of arousal.
Achieving an orgasm may not be possible if she experiences any discomfort from penetration. I believe it is a great idea to help her have an orgasm before intercourse begins if she is able to achieve orgasms and it is her desire.
Achieving an orgasm is not likely using the Missionary position unless the man reaches around and fingers her while stroking.
Your statement makes it sound like the overall first time experience will not be pleasurable for the woman. Maybe yes, maybe no. Yet if done with love and care, even a failed attempt can be emotionally satisfying.
As for guys, I agree that the physical aspects of having a climax will no doubt be pleasurable; however, many a fella experiences emotional distress over not being able to enter, any discomfort she may experience, climaxing too soon, and physical discomfort from a low-grade ache at the base of his penis and route structure inside of his abdomen as he repeatedly tries to apply pressure to gain entrance.
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You know, maybe because its usually awkward/rushed...I have never heard of a girl saying she orgasmed on a first try, certainly not from penetration. I know I never had an orgasm until after my first, and it was from solo-ing. No man/boy besides my current partner ever managed it...but then he takes the time to pleasure me. :)
She doesn't sound like she is of age to consent to having sex...if she is she doesn't sound mature enough for it.:(