Now i know that in this day and age, the "age" thing doesn't really matter anymore, but at the same time i'm having a hard time communicating with him. Its started out as nothing to serious, but FWB (friends with benefits) doesnt really describe our situation anymore.
Not to blow my own horn or anything but i think when i comes to the bedroom, i might be a little more "advanced" than he is. I've come on this site for some advice! How do i show him what a real women is all about, but at the same time not scaring him too?
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> Now i know that in this day and age, the "age" thing doesn't really matter anymore, but at the same time i'm having a hard time communicating with him.
Actually no. Age does matter in this day and age as it has in the past simply because of how we humans are engineered and how we mature and develop over time. This has been discussed in the past. A twelve year gap at your age is very significant. A man his age is not only on a different "page", he is in a different "chapter" in his life vastly different from yours, mainly caused by having lived longer, experienced more, developed mentally and emotionally more completely. In addition, he may have greater insight and different objectives than someone much younger and just beginning to experience life on her own.
What problems do you have communicating with him. Please give examples so we can better help you. Is the problem that he does not listen? That he knows but...? That he is not interested? He is embarrassed? Other?
What attitude or behavior does he have that gives you the impression ou are more "advanced"?
-doc
Dear coorsgirl21,
Don't worry about this "day and age" and don't worry about what should or shouldn't matter. This is about you! You have questions. So let's see if we could be of any help with that :)
I agree in part with the docs words. That is: it is the "chapter" or "page" that matters in a relationship. However; that does not mean the age at all! This is the reason why there are "old souls" and "young spirits". People simply do not develop the same. They do not reach the same stations in life at the same pace. And even sometimes while you were on the same track when the relationship started, you could be growing apart through the years. People have personal characteristics, go through experiences, may be mature on one side and remain childlike on the other, gain and lose things, have expectations, wishes and dreams; that's what makes us what we are.
So, what matters is at what stage you are and how this refers to his. In which some of your comments are very interesting and need more detailed information. So, I am also curious about your answers to the docs questions! :)
I am a 33 year old woman, who has been married to a man for 9 years to a man who is 11 years her senior. It has it's advantages and disadvantages, but those are as much a personal thing as any relationship issue. If you have any specific questions, I would be happy to give whatever insight I have.
the person i was recently seeing claimed that the age difference was the reason he wanted to be with me as i was only 9yrs his junior compared to him and his girlfriend who is 22yrs younger but he played the game with both of us and she wants to stay with him.She is 30 and been with him 10yrs.He said he wanted to be with someone closer in age.Suffice to say i'm not shagging him anymore lol