me and my boyfriend has had sex many times and its wonderful and i moan pretty good. but all ym orgasms are from my clit being stimulated or just aroused. ive been looking for my G-spot and i found a rough washboard texture on the anterior of my vagina but when i try rubbing it in a come hither motion i jsut feel pressure. it doesnt realy feel like anything. how do i stimulate this, what i think i found G-spot? please help, i really want more intense orgasms and my boyfriend is trying to help me too:confused:
Tue, 09/16/2008 - 07:02
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i want too find my G spot
To locate your G-spot, insert a finger to about the first knuckle and feel for a washboard like surface about the size of a quarter or new dollar. This will be along the front wall and just past the entrance.
It is best located when you are extremely aroused, not before.
P.S. The "spot" can also feel somewhat spongy compared to the surrounding area in some women.
yahh i found the spot. today my boyfriend recognized it easily too. but when he rubs it or while were having sex...i dnt feel anything. just some pressure. how can i stimulate it? because i keep reading how girls get that feeling of needing too pee or the ejaculate. id love to have those feelings. but..i cant. and i dnt know why i cant but its making me really disappointed :( why cant i feel anything?:(
> It is best located when you are extremely aroused, not before.
Hold off rubbing or massaging the spot until you are very highly aroused and nearing your orgasm. The spot will become reactive the more turned on a person is.
Also, please read the several articles on the female orgasm listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen:
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
thank you for that advice that could be what im doing wrong. because me and my boyfriend before im even that turneed on yet start rubbing it and im sitting or alying there like..uhh? so when is it suppose to feel good? haha. so ill try that tonight and hope that works. i really hope it does. cause im comfortable with my boyfriend easily cause were in love and id love to get a peeing sensation and ejaculate. so would he. so lets hope this works :)
also i was reading the index u gave me and it said that after orgasm some girls have aalot of excess fluid. after orgasm i seem to be very very wet then i was before orgasm. but its not so much that it like soaks the bed or anything but it does seem like alot. but i dnt get a pee feeling. is that ejculation orr....? idk what that would be:confused:
i keep reading more and more into this and im learning so much :) its great. but im worried that what if i am aroused and still rubbing the G-spot doesnt do anything? does that mean my G-spot doesnt work? weird, but true, ive been masterbating since i learned my body which was at 5 or 6 years old. when i randomly one day found arousal in touching myself there <:) and i can orgasm from clit. i just really want those strong, curl toeing head back orgasms.
It's not something you can force to happen. Keep trying but don't expect or try a more skilled man which does not sound like an option for you.
It works for some women; other's it takes time, some never. If it had already happened, as you asked in your previous post, you would know--it's not mis-able.
There is no magic recipe; practice and above all relax.
thank u, yes we'll try and keep practicing. practice does make perfect. im only 17 but we both feel we have found the one within eachother soo i doubt any other man. hes a beginner also soo we both need practicing and everyday we learn something or do something new. thank u for all the help. if any other questions arise ill be sure too ask:)
thank u for all of ur wonderful advice. thanks too u both and this website i have had a life changing experience. i nevr got the pee feeling or the G-spot very stimulated. but i got 6 orgasms in a row and they were exactly what i wanted! the toe curling body shaking can breath orgasms :D eachtime they got better and better. thank uu!!:D
Now you know what all the fuss is about. Congrats!! and
You're welcome!
Now you know what all the fuss is about.
Congrats!!
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You're welcome!
sooo my parents never knew about me having sex,..but my dad found a condom in my room and flipped out! my mom was ok with it but my dad just left the room.. anyways im happy though cause my mom is taking me too the doctor to get birth control which ive really wanted. and im probably going to the gynetologist cause..i think i need too..i guess. people say u should.
i told my mom that i wasnt sexually active yet..cause my dad could still here us.
idk what to do. should i tell her that i have had sex with my bf or no? idk how she will react. and idk..how i should bring it up or anything :(
i dnt wanna lie too her and the doctor will be able to tell if i have had sex at the gyno
just so you know when you find it you will know, i have to get 3 knuckles in before i can feel it and my girlfriend's is smooth not rough, just have your boyfriend get as far up there with his fingers and just let him feel around up there
[QUOTE=pinkblonde49;224380]sooo my parents never knew about me having sex,..but my dad found a condom in my room and flipped out! my mom was ok with it but my dad just left the room.. anyways im happy though cause my mom is taking me too the doctor to get birth control which ive really wanted. and im probably going to the gynetologist cause..i think i need too..i guess. people say u should.
i told my mom that i wasnt sexually active yet..cause my dad could still here us.
idk what to do. should i tell her that i have had sex with my bf or no? idk how she will react. and idk..how i should bring it up or anything :(
i dnt wanna lie too her and the doctor will be able to tell if i have had sex at the gyno[/QUOTE]
well, depending on your age (I'm assuming you are old enough by the fact that you are having sex) you can ask for your parents to leave the room where personal information like that is discussed. but you should definitely be honest to any doctor you go to. as for telling your parents that's your discretion
Your mother already knows. Your father does not want to know. So you do not have to say anything. Talk frankly to the doctor, however now is the time ot learn to keep your private life, private. All your parnets need to know is who you're going out with and geerally where you'll be going and when you'll be back. Since you still have the parental safety net beneath you - use it and be adult about it.
thank u weasel. thatll actually help :) cause idk weve search around and i still havent felt it. i wish i knew what it was suppose to feel like. i mean ive felt really weird pressure and stuff. but thats about it. i dnt get turned on or anything. i really in a weird way just wanna have some proffessional come locate it for me. cause im getting super discouraged about it. im beginning to think i dnt have one at all :(
and ya thank u kitten. ur right. i dnt think my parents need to know that much detail. they no i will be sexually active anyways soon soo it doesnt matter. thank u that helped my decision alot. people are on here are soo super nice. and really helpful i love it
Pink - MOST men have no idea re: G-Spots, or the fornices. Sorry to say and speaking from experience.
What you need is a 'practioner'. But at your age, it is highly unlikely you'll find one. You may have to wait until you're in your 20's to find a man with the requisite skill level. It isn't that you don't have one, you do; it is more of a question of growing into one's sexuality and finding the right male to assist and introduce you to these aspects of sex.
Fortunately I know one!
:(oohh :( welll i dnt plan on breaking up with my boyfriend anytime soon..we both hope ever. sooo u think just practicing alot will help? cause im dying to find it.
some articles say that only woman with thick tissue between the urethra and the vagina have a G-spot. and woman without thick tissue they dnt have one. im worried i have thin tissue. of course. i have bad luck with mostly everything in my life haha <:) thats just how it is for me so i dnt doubt that i dnt have one. i just wish i was like other girls and cold find it, stimulate it, and be happy.
Stop believing whatever it is you're reading. Every owoman is built more or less the same way and only the wiring and what's in her head is different. You have one.
Your anxiety to find it could actually be hampering your efforts.
Your fear that you may be 'different' is hampering your efforts.
Find the sticky post entitled The Program and have him do it with you. By the time he gets down the list to 'manual' - you should be perfectly ready to enjoy it.
ok thank you. i honostly dnt know what id do if i never found this website haha <:]
im new here as u can telll and idk where sticky notes are.. :(
ooohhh found it :)
thank you. next time were together ill show him this! so u think doing this well help me find my G-spot. im sorry ive been so crazy about it. im just super envious of the girls on here talking about it and it gets me disappointed in myself :(
This is NOT The Oylmpics and no one's keeping score or judging your performance. There is also no reason to envy. You are you - unique and therefore both precious and important - in and of yourself - as you are. And there is no need to rush anything when it comes to sex.
Relax, enjoy the ride, and see where you end up.
wow thank you. u made me feel alot better about my boyfriend and my love making. :) this site is soo helpful and any woman having sex questions needs to find this site
DAMNIT!!!! I just cant do it.... I get that "pee feeling" and I always make sure to go before we get started but nothing results from it. Maybe its because he comes really quickly and i feel like i havent gotten the chance to have an orgasm. Maybe its because when i get that "pee feeling" i squeeze my muscles to try to stop it... I dont know i just want to have that body shaking orgasm!!!!! I can make myself orgasm through clitoral stimulation so i must be doing something right? Right? But clitoral orgasms arent the same thing as what we were talking about earlier... :(
Ashley101, when you get that "pee" feeling, you have to sort of push out, don't try to stop it. You have to relax and enjoy it to experience the ejaculate.
pinkblonde49, just keep doing what you are doing. Try not to focus so much on ejaculating. Just relax, go into it with the mindset of discovering what works for you and what doesn't. Also, for me, FE (female ejaculation) happens only after I've been very thoroughly aroused and with fast, firm strokes. You could try different positions so that his penis rubs against it better.
Also, I suggest visiting www.the-clitoris.com and read up, HERE, in the section on FE. I think they do a great job on covering the whole thing.
soo..my boyfriend and i broke up about 4-5 months ago and i havent really been on here since then until now. i have actaully fallen madly in love with a girl and..ive never felt more complete and we love eachother dearly. Though she lives in a diff place then i do and we talk over messengers and stuff. we both love to masturbate especially to eachother. and because we cant be together in rl its all we can do. and.. i am still having problems with the G-spot. but fewer though. i read ur article Suki thank u so much that was amazingly helpful and i learned alot.
i already know where my G-spot is im just having troubles figuring out how it works..
i masterbated alittle while ago fingering and i soon got the urge to pee. but it was hard because pressing on my walls felt really amazing...but i also felt way overwhelmed like i couldnt control it or it was too much. its really confusing to me.
like if i press lightly..nothing really happens but when i press hard on it alot it feels really great and goosebumps cover my body but it also feels like an uncontrollable too much feeling. and idk what to do.
and i think my problem is i tense up and i work my body way to hard to orgasm then relaxing. im usually working hard and tensing all my muscles to get my orgasms. but i did get the feeling of not holding it in any longer, but i didnt cum i literally peed..and idk if thats right or now..
idk im just very confused.
could be many reasons but one that you sited was that the feeling was intense... i read someplace that the feeling you get from this is extremely intense and sometimes you need to stop and go back at it again because its 'too intense'. imo the best way to solve that problem is to find time whether random moments throughout the day or an entire day and just stimulate the g-spot. until it becomes too intense again and then just relax.
[QUOTE=pinkblonde49;233483]but i did get the feeling of not holding it in any longer, but i didnt cum i literally peed..and idk if thats right or now..
idk im just very confused.[/QUOTE]
Did you actually pee or did it just resemble pee? Did you smell the liquid that came out of you? That is probably female ejaculation. That is what happens, a lot of the time, when you have a G-spot orgasm. It's usually a pretty clear liquid and doesn't smell or taste like pee.
The feeling of needing very firm pressure is also normal. I cannot really get that aroused from someone lightly touching my G-Spot, I need a fast, firm pressure to get me off and I will typically ejaculate from it. Don't worry, you are doing everything right. Enjoy yourself and continue learning about your body!
yah it was definetly pee, cause when i would stop and rest i had to go to the bathroom. and so i kept trying and trying and i eventually couldnt hold it anymore. but it was weird though cause it wasnt just like ohh normal peeing. it like shot out. soo it looked like how ejacualtion was suppose to but..it was just pee. sooo..
yah idk i think i just need more practice.
i just dont know how to go from that strong intense feeling that feels way to overwhelming, too like, great pleasure and wanted to cum.
its just really frustrating for me. my gf is only 13 and she can cum without even thinking..and its like wow thats pathetic..im 17 and she can do it before i can.
i just really want to know how.
and to get over the overwhelming feeling. like it feels good, but its really strong and my muscles tense up...ughhh idk!:(
It could be that you were holding in the ejaculate and releasing it when you were on the toilet. Once, I was definitely ejaculating, but my bf still had his penis deep inside of me, so it couldn't come out. After he pulled his penis out, the ejaculate came flooding out.
Women can definitely hold in their ejaculate and then release it in what they think is urine. My suggestion - lay down a bunch of towels and stop trying to stop yourself from "peeing." The sensation is very similar, but much different, pleasurewise, once you allow it to happen.
Hay I have been with my hubby for 8 years and monly last week I had Trhe Big O for the very first time,How do I have it up :)