I have to agree. It doesn't seem very much like you're trying to please her by coercing her to let you photograph her nude. Respect her desires and don't push. It'll only make a big deal out of nothing!
I think the main issue to this topic is; men who cannot accept NO. This is not like experimenting w/a new sex technique. Honoring her feelings is pretty important here, it's like asking her to take her clothes off and parade down main street. It's really an issue of respect; respecting her and her decisions.
Interesting. He wants. She doesn't. So she has to change for him and not him for her? This is in the 'pleasing her' section too. Tell me exactly how pushing her to do something she doesn't want to do will please her. Or is this really "all about you"? Perhaps she needs a new boyfriend. One that will respect her enough to accept her decisions. Guys, this is exactly what women mean when they use the word "pushy".
Usually its the fear of something happening and those pics getting out. No matter how much you promise.. you never know if a misunderstanding in the future could cause you 2 to despise eachother.
Also, I seem to be way more self conscious about my body than my B/F. I would die if anyone else saw it lol.
Maybe do like Yeti said... just pretend.. or at least use a digital cam... and right afterwards, give her the camera so she can delete the pics...
My BF really wanted a naked pic of me too, but I expressed similar fears to what a lot of people on here are saying - what if they get out? So we made a compromise - I was still naked, but tactfully covered up. I'm actually very proud of that picture and even showed it to a friend of mine.
You could try to suggest that to her - have her pose in ways that her naughty bits are covered, but if she still refuses, then don't press on. It's her body and display, so it should be her choice to have it photographed.
How about this one...ask her why. If she is not comfortable LEAVE IT ALONE. This is something I have never been comfortable with because you never know where relationships wind up in the end...people can be cruel when angry and the last thing I want is my naked picture "around" when someone is scorned. Perhaps she may have a similar view.
This all began when home photographers first learned how to develop their own film and has gone on through how many different formats? And look at the gazillions of pics of ex's that are now all over the 'net. Evil strikes the right note and Demon expresses the feeling of many of us.
No way anyone will ever photograph this chick in action!
Whatever did happen to NO meaning NO? In any situation but where it may cause a rape conviction, a lot of men have problems respecting the wishes of women.
It's not your place to nag her to let you take nudie photos of her, ejaculate on her face, etc. Women should be respected and not just treated like some sort of sexual object. If you love a woman, you shouldn't look at her as a porn-star wannabe but instead as the beautiful wonderful creature that she is. You should feel damn lucky to have her!!!
There seems to be some sort of mass epidemic where men just can't appreciate and respect their partners.
I have to agree w/you! I love some deviant behavior when in a comfortable sexual relationship. The out of the ordinary is fun, but I make my wishes for the less ordinary behavior known! I have to say when I want the deviant then I don't feel it's disrespectful but the epidemic of men who expect this or think they will [COLOR="Black">CONVINCE [/COLOR]their partners for nude pictures, face shots, anal, etc. I find amazing--and disgraceful. Good open communication is great and this is where these behaviors/wishes should be discussed but when the answer has been adamantly "NO", then it's NO accept it!!! If she decided to change her mind; she will tell you!!! I have seen too many men & women wind up w/ their nude pictures on the internet; in fact one man who I knew years ago went to jail for posting his ex's on the net...not the typical behavior one would have expected from him...but he could not control his anger and acted out at her by doing this. My point? You never know where the pictures will wind up no matter how much you trust him or her!!!
The reason I suggest letting it go and respecting her wishes is because if you prove yourself trustworthy and let it go, maybe her opinion will change. But the moment that you start making a big deal out of it is the same moment she'll question your motives. When a guy asks for nudie pictures, it's instinctual to get suspicious.
Why would you need pictures if you plan on sticking around where you can see the show anytime???
My fiance has always respected me when I told him no. He's never tried to convince me to do anything I didn't want to and I love him all the more for it. I actually overheard him telling one of his friends off for saying that he should push harder to get me to do certain things. More men should be like that because women don't want men who are going to treat them like garbage.
my boyfreind also wants to take pix of me...but not completely nude...
hes a photography student and he alwayswants to take pix of me, not necesarily nude...hes just recently started asking me about pix with my clothes off but i could be covering those parts if im uncomfortable wit a pic of em...but im so scared too...i dunno why... but this may be more hlpeful for u if you dont want too much showiong...you cud be naked but covering...
My husband wanted to try this and I immediatley said NO! I wasn't comfortable with being photographed naked, and certainly not in any kind of sexual postition or situation..........
He asked a couple more times but i still refused and eventually he dropped the subject.
A few months later, he was working away and I was thinking about the subject and my natural curiosity got the better of me. I took some pics of myself using the timer on the camera and after much deliberation I decided that I didn;t look too bad.
When he came home we did a photo session, but I drew the line a being photographed performing any kind of sex act
What I am saying is that if she wants to do it, she will. Do not force her.
would you do it for her? or is it all about making her do it? why don't you take some for her and maybe she might like the idea and do some for you. otherwise leave her be!
All this talk about saying no reminded me of a comedy bit on the radio. Guy says that married men live longer because they have someone to tell thier dumb a**es NO. Like, "Honey, I'm going bungee jumping with my buddies this afternoon.............NO!!! LOL
My ex used to say "Oh I don't think so" I knew it meant NO.
[QUOTE=bubba831;165611]i really want to take naked pics of my gf but she is not into it. how can i make her more cmfortable?[/QUOTE]
my last gf and I took pics.
my only sugestion is start with her fully clothed and roleplay as if she's a model on a photo shoot.
Make her feel like a star.
thats my advice,
Good luck!
If she doesn't want to do it, chances are she won't do it. Don't push for it too much.
If the photographs themselves are not so important you could go through the act of taking them with no film in the camera.
I have to agree. It doesn't seem very much like you're trying to please her by coercing her to let you photograph her nude. Respect her desires and don't push. It'll only make a big deal out of nothing!
I think the main issue to this topic is; men who cannot accept NO. This is not like experimenting w/a new sex technique. Honoring her feelings is pretty important here, it's like asking her to take her clothes off and parade down main street. It's really an issue of respect; respecting her and her decisions.
Interesting. He wants. She doesn't. So she has to change for him and not him for her? This is in the 'pleasing her' section too. Tell me exactly how pushing her to do something she doesn't want to do will please her. Or is this really "all about you"? Perhaps she needs a new boyfriend. One that will respect her enough to accept her decisions. Guys, this is exactly what women mean when they use the word "pushy".
Usually its the fear of something happening and those pics getting out. No matter how much you promise.. you never know if a misunderstanding in the future could cause you 2 to despise eachother.
Also, I seem to be way more self conscious about my body than my B/F. I would die if anyone else saw it lol.
Maybe do like Yeti said... just pretend.. or at least use a digital cam... and right afterwards, give her the camera so she can delete the pics...
i have to agree with evilkitten on this one.
my bf wanted the same thing
and kept pushing, so i finally did it.
but i regret it.
dont push her. if she wants to do it, shell tell u.
if she doesnt. accept it.
My BF really wanted a naked pic of me too, but I expressed similar fears to what a lot of people on here are saying - what if they get out? So we made a compromise - I was still naked, but tactfully covered up. I'm actually very proud of that picture and even showed it to a friend of mine.
You could try to suggest that to her - have her pose in ways that her naughty bits are covered, but if she still refuses, then don't press on. It's her body and display, so it should be her choice to have it photographed.
How about this one...ask her why. If she is not comfortable LEAVE IT ALONE. This is something I have never been comfortable with because you never know where relationships wind up in the end...people can be cruel when angry and the last thing I want is my naked picture "around" when someone is scorned. Perhaps she may have a similar view.
This all began when home photographers first learned how to develop their own film and has gone on through how many different formats? And look at the gazillions of pics of ex's that are now all over the 'net. Evil strikes the right note and Demon expresses the feeling of many of us.
No way anyone will ever photograph this chick in action!
Whatever did happen to NO meaning NO? In any situation but where it may cause a rape conviction, a lot of men have problems respecting the wishes of women.
It's not your place to nag her to let you take nudie photos of her, ejaculate on her face, etc. Women should be respected and not just treated like some sort of sexual object. If you love a woman, you shouldn't look at her as a porn-star wannabe but instead as the beautiful wonderful creature that she is. You should feel damn lucky to have her!!!
There seems to be some sort of mass epidemic where men just can't appreciate and respect their partners.
SexySass69...
I have to agree w/you! I love some deviant behavior when in a comfortable sexual relationship. The out of the ordinary is fun, but I make my wishes for the less ordinary behavior known! I have to say when I want the deviant then I don't feel it's disrespectful but the epidemic of men who expect this or think they will [COLOR="Black">CONVINCE [/COLOR]their partners for nude pictures, face shots, anal, etc. I find amazing--and disgraceful. Good open communication is great and this is where these behaviors/wishes should be discussed but when the answer has been adamantly "NO", then it's NO accept it!!! If she decided to change her mind; she will tell you!!! I have seen too many men & women wind up w/ their nude pictures on the internet; in fact one man who I knew years ago went to jail for posting his ex's on the net...not the typical behavior one would have expected from him...but he could not control his anger and acted out at her by doing this. My point? You never know where the pictures will wind up no matter how much you trust him or her!!!
The reason I suggest letting it go and respecting her wishes is because if you prove yourself trustworthy and let it go, maybe her opinion will change. But the moment that you start making a big deal out of it is the same moment she'll question your motives. When a guy asks for nudie pictures, it's instinctual to get suspicious.
Why would you need pictures if you plan on sticking around where you can see the show anytime???
My fiance has always respected me when I told him no. He's never tried to convince me to do anything I didn't want to and I love him all the more for it. I actually overheard him telling one of his friends off for saying that he should push harder to get me to do certain things. More men should be like that because women don't want men who are going to treat them like garbage.
my boyfreind also wants to take pix of me...but not completely nude...
hes a photography student and he alwayswants to take pix of me, not necesarily nude...hes just recently started asking me about pix with my clothes off but i could be covering those parts if im uncomfortable wit a pic of em...but im so scared too...i dunno why... but this may be more hlpeful for u if you dont want too much showiong...you cud be naked but covering...
I definitally agree u can't push it or u might lose her. Do it if she wants to.
My husband wanted to try this and I immediatley said NO! I wasn't comfortable with being photographed naked, and certainly not in any kind of sexual postition or situation..........
He asked a couple more times but i still refused and eventually he dropped the subject.
A few months later, he was working away and I was thinking about the subject and my natural curiosity got the better of me. I took some pics of myself using the timer on the camera and after much deliberation I decided that I didn;t look too bad.
When he came home we did a photo session, but I drew the line a being photographed performing any kind of sex act
What I am saying is that if she wants to do it, she will. Do not force her.
would you do it for her? or is it all about making her do it? why don't you take some for her and maybe she might like the idea and do some for you. otherwise leave her be!
All this talk about saying no reminded me of a comedy bit on the radio. Guy says that married men live longer because they have someone to tell thier dumb a**es NO. Like, "Honey, I'm going bungee jumping with my buddies this afternoon.............NO!!! LOL
My ex used to say "Oh I don't think so" I knew it meant NO.
haha, my last GF wouldnt let me take a picture of her with her clotheson
don't really know what her problem was, that relationship didnt last long.
Have you tried offering her money? :rolleyes: