well, i'm 14 and still a virgin and this guy i met, he is 17, and he has experience with sex and everything, he wants me but he has never had sex with a virgin, how do i please him? 
Sat, 08/21/2004 - 22:03
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i want to please him
Its not like me to listen to other people, but you guys really got it through my head, and my new b/f is f***ing GREAT!! lol, hes 15 (hot punk guy for me lol) so its better for me, thanks again for your comments
Well I am proud of you Funeral for listening and giving more thought to your decision. That shows a lot of maturity on your part.
Like Buttercup said, your 14. You have so much time to experience the joys of sex. Make sure you really ready and it is fully what you want to do. Remember that you are worth so much and your virginity is a gift that should be given to someone that will truly understand that.
Good luck to you.
Thanks for posting... threads that "end" like this are so encouraging and I know for me personally it's a rush to think I may have made some small contribution to your decision. It's great that you are mature enough to consider other points of view... some people never quite get that!
[QUOTE=Quote (funeral_of_hearts69 @ Aug. 31 2004,17:07)]I thought a lot about your comments and someone i like asked me out the other day. I still like the 17 year old, but i realized its better to have a boyfriend. Thanks you guys![/QUOTE]
That's great to hear, and sounds like a better way forward to me. Remember the old saying "Everything comes to they who wait" - there's no need to rush.
In the meantime, all the best of luck - have fun!
Cheers,
Ringo
Smart choice
good luck with the bf
I thought a lot about your comments and someone i like asked me out the other day. I still like the 17 year old, but i realized its better to have a boyfriend. Thanks you guys!
awesome funeral!
i mean you're just 14... its great to venture into dating and actually having a boyfriend.
then like i said, you guys can experiment and learn together when the time is right.
[QUOTE=Quote (funeral_of_hearts69 @ Aug. 28 2004,07:10)]He doesn't date anymore because, most of his girlfriends have cheated on him, and because he has a problem with sleeping with other girls so he doesn't want to hurt me.
We sort of have this agreement worked out of being "f*** buddies", he has been tested and i trust him really well[/QUOTE]
A) Can u honestly say after you give him your virginity and your heart for a night and the next night he’s with some other girl you won’t be hurt?
B) if he’s been with allot of other girls he might not be safe even if he has been tested the tests aren’t a 100% guarantee of safety from stds….that might be a risk your willing to take but y do that your first time? By the off chance he does have something…for example HIV and you get it you threw away a normal sex life forever just to be able to say your not a virgin anymore
Also kind of sounds like he wasn’t completely innocent of cheating himself, but the way he told you it would lead you to believe otherwise
I appreciate your opinions, but i've been wanting to have sex for the longest time even though i'm only 14.
He doesn't date anymore because, most of his girlfriends have cheated on him, and because he has a problem with sleeping with other girls so he doesn't want to hurt me.
We sort of have this agreement worked out of being "f*** buddies", he has been tested and i trust him really well, believe me i'm ready to have sex, i just need tips.
[QUOTE=Quote (funeral_of_hearts69 @ Aug. 28 2004,07:10)]He doesn't date anymore because, most of his girlfriends have cheated on him, and because he has a problem with sleeping with other girls so he doesn't want to hurt me.[/QUOTE]
well isn't that nice of him...lol
weird that his g/f's cheat on him yet he's the one w/ the problem w/ sleeping w/ lots of other girls.
sounds like you have your mind made up, so do what you gotta do.
although i doubt too many people are going to give you tips.
you didn't really say specifics.
all you have to do is read around the site especially under "pleasing him" and "new to sex"
or just go the the home page and there are links to articles about everything.
Please give this lots of thought. You are only 14 and have so much time to have sex and enjoy it. I threw my virginity away and have forever regretted it. I know its hard to think long term but at least try to.
Losing your virginity should be something meaningful with someone you love and who loves you. It should be something that you will always remember with good feeling.
What makes me most concern is you wanting to please him. It should be the other way around. The man that takes your virginity should only have concern for you and wanting to please you and make it good for you. I think your guy sounds very selfish and immature.
Whatever you do remember to use protection and expect to have pain. I doubt your guy will know much about how to help you through that.
I think he wants you plenty already.
How nice of him to "help" you have sex with him.
I cannot in clear conscience give "tips" to a 14 year old who I'm convinced is being railroaded into sex by a 17 year old.
I'd also love to hear an explanation that might be credible for why he "doesn't date anymore." Whatever his explanation is, that's his excuse for not dating you, so I hope it's a good one. I know I'd love to hear it.
You still haven't told the whole story... why are you so anxious to have sex with a guy you're not even dating?
As for him being "nervous," I'm sure he is... but not for the reasons he's giving you!
If you won't wait six months, how about three months?
alright i'll tell you the whole story....
he likes me, he doesnt date anymore but he is willing to help me, and we are gonna do it soon, i just want to make him want me more, like tips please?
He is just really nervous about having sex with a virgin and i wanna have some techniques to be more desirable
lol, we haven't been dating he doesn't date girls anymore, he cares about me a lot though, i can just tell.
obviously you can't tell if a guy gives a shit about you or not. And i hope you learn to tell fast.. cause by him wanting someone with "experience" yet going for you don't make sense.. ALSO if someone cares about you.. THEY will WORK with it.. and help YOU learn.
Maybe you should do what Demon suggests in findin someone your age who YOU can learn with.. who isnt going to be looking to you strictly for sex.
[QUOTE=Quote (funeral_of_hearts69 @ Aug. 22 2004,07:56)]its just he wants someone with experience[/QUOTE]
well if thats all he's interested in and not in YOU, then i wouldn't give him my virginity.
maybe you should find someone that is your age or at least your experience level. that way you guys can experiment and learn together.
this guy doesn't sound too keen.
how long have you guys been dating? etc?
Believe me, i want him, i just don't know how to make him happy, farthest we have got is making out, its just he wants someone with experience
And when you look through those threads, you'll find more than one or two by girls who did exactly what you're considering and later regreted it.
The red flag is that you are very concerned about pleasing him. That means, IMHO, you're not ready - you're getting "sucked in" to having sex and feeling flattered because an older guy is interested in you.
He's probably not interested in you; he's interested in your body. If nothing else, make him wait 6 months (not such a long time) and see if he's still around.
I know I'm being an old fuddy-duddy, but you really should give this a LOT more thought.
Please.
More importantly ... how do you please yourself!?
By that I mean, you do not indicate whether you even WANT to have sex. He knows your age and knows you are a virgin (I presume), so he should not be pressuring you into particiapting in any sexual activity.
YOU should decide what you want, when you want it and with whom. If you have decided all that, and want to go for it, there are dozens of topic on here and the rest of this site that will help you figure out how to please him (and of course, please you).
Good luck!