Umm...well you need to know why your freezing up...if you are afraid of smell..do it in the shower...afraid of hair...shave...afraid of not liking it...only one way to find out..

i thought it would be weird and gross before my first time, too.

but my boyfriend surprised me when he went down there, i didn't know that's what he was doing at first, so i didn't have time to think. all i had time to do was enjoy.

it's hard to tell someone to surprise you...so i don't really know what to say! just know that it's just sex. it's supposed to be relaxing and fun. if something stresses you out or makes it not fun anymore then it's not for you. don't worry about it!

I doubt it's a hygiene issue, more likely a psychological one. Try letting him play with you first and slowly get work his way down. When he gets there, try looking up or thinking of something else to distract you. If you don't know exactly when he's going to start, you might be less likely to hold him back.

Stop thinking sex is dirty. Relax - oral sex is not going to kill you or make you pregnant. It is your body so own it. and lastly - don't tell us - TELL HIM.

Just relax and enjoy the ride. I was nervous the first time it happend with me but it was awesome. Don't dive right into oral, try working yourself up a little bit by starting out with kissing and all that fun stuff lol

good luck

Honey,

We women think our girl parts are nasty. The healthy vagina is cleaner that the human mouth. Wash well, spread you legs and relax. Delights await you.

Since this is new to you, it understandable to be a little nervous. Try to think what is causing you to back out. But from a guy standpoint, it is a very enjoyable act for me. I love the look, texture, and even the taste of her and love to enjoy oral during any sex session. My wife was nervous at first and had some real hang-up about recieving oral since she thought it was dirty and not something she should do. But I reassured her that I thought it was very hot and I loved doing it. She did recieve a lot of pleasure from it and she gradually changed her mind about it being dirty, but realized it was just one other way for her to recieve pleasure. I sometimes spend too much time down there and she has to pull me up because she is ready for me to enter her. Hope you can get to the point where you can just lay back and enjoy. My wife has had some great orgasms from oral.

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I agree. Make out a lot, first, and work your way up to a frenzy of excitement and anticipation. Once you have become highly aroused, then enter the oral arena. Your partner can do this by tracing his fingers up your leg and thigh and then brushing past your Mons. Alternately, he can trace his fingers down the front of you where he can brush past your Mons as he goes on to other areas, or, he can dally there. On one of the next of these passes, he should follow along behind his fingers with his lips and tongue. The intent is to both slightly tease yet more importantly increase your anticipation a little bit at a time so you can become accustomed to the increasing intimacy.

DO NOT begin oral play too early in the process. WAIT until you have become very aroused and your excitement has increased to a high level. When is this? When you want MORE--more touching, more stimulation, more of him. At this point you have some options:
* you can part your legs in anticipation and as an invitation
* you can relax your legs in order to let him part them.
* you can invite him to become more intimate by-
+ moving your body more toward his mouth
+ moving his face more toward your Mons
+ wrapping your legs around his neck
+ raising your knees and parting your legs
+ letting him part your legs
whatever the mood of the moment calls for

The point is that you determine when you are ready for this. If you require more kissing and caressing, etc., then encourage this before letting him have access to the pieces-parts between your legs. When you are ready, let him know. Take for example the last suggestion: if you are lying on your back with your legs together and he attempts to open them and you are not ready, keep them together and ask for what you need, letting him know that you are not quite ready. On the other hand if you are, then let him move your leg(s) apart and/or assist by moving them with or for him.

Here is some reading for you:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

The KIVIN Method of performing Cunnilingus, answered by Brandye, EEK, and Dancingdoc2
This includes an excellent video tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of integrating anal stimulation and oral stimulation, bringing this exercise to a new level!

If your guy has little or no experience, expect that he may lack a great technique. If so, work with him. Give him verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you may need now. As things progress, if you feel like getting into the moment by moaning or wrything, then by all means do!

You can probably anticipate that he will try to go straight for the clitoris. While this is not a bad thing, it may be premature. I suggest that he play with your labia, first, with lips and fingers. He can trace his tongue down between the folds of the Labia Majora, kissing as he goes; when it comes to the smaller lips, he can suck them up, lick and lap them, tug on them, finger them, run moist fingers along their length, whatever pleases you. Then, and only then should he approach your clitoris. Please consider using a wet tongue, wet lips, lots of saliva or lots of lube be it from vaginal mucus and/or a combination of all of the above. If you want more information, please ask.

http://sexinfo101.com/pw_index.shtml

http://sexinfo101.com/pw_cunnilingus.shtml

One cautionary note is that if he has a five o'clock shadow, his face might be a bit abrasive. If so, and this bothers you, you may have to stop and in the future have him shave beforehand. As noted in another post, oral play is best done following a bath or shower and not after a hot sweaty day.