Well me and my b/f have an amazing sex life but i want him to go down on me but unsure how to tell him :confused:
Most of the time before we have sex i give him oral because he loves it but i want to know what it feels like for him to give me oral. I have read in other threads that most men like to give oral and enjoy giving it to there woman but my b/f has never attempted to.
What do i do??
gently direct his head downwards when hes kissing your neck or somthing? , or you could just ask him to do it.. sounds a bit out there, but he might find it a real turn on? x
When he's kissing my neck usually he starts kissing downwards but never goes that far down.. i try to ask him but i never have the confidence to say anything.
I had to beg my gf before I could do it to her lol Just put in in with the conversation, if its after youve done him ask him if he wants to, if not then youve got a problem but he shouldnt really say no.
Just ask. Most guys will gladly give it a try. Some just don't know how to you would react.
Keep gentle pressure on his shoulders until you have him where you want him. With two knees hooked over his shoulders, he should get the picture.
Word of advice, make it as easy on him as possible and shower or wipe beforehand. Sure, that's rude and tactless (I've just learned that I'm generally tactless, it's quite a wonderful thing! :D).
Most guys will happily dine at the Y, but many (myself included) have an issue with the smell of crotch. It's sad but true. Help the boy out. Then he'll probably want to eat at your diner until the sun comes up.
Hmmm.... Where's my girlfriend, I'm hungry!!!!
WOMAN! COME HERE and SPREAD EM!!! :D
Thanks for all your repliess :D x
I LOVE to go dine at the Y! In fact after a little making out, kissing licking and sucking of a gals neck then moving to her breasts then down between her legs.
Communication is key in any relationship and if you can't talk openly without hesitation about what you want or need sexually early in your relationship then it will get worse later on. I suggest asking him if he likes to or wants to. He probably does but could be afraid you don't want it and is afraid to ask as well.
He may not have much experience doing it and may think he's not very good. If that's the case let him know that you are willing to spend the time to let him practice and coach him. That's not the same as telling him what to do, some guys get pissed at that, but tell him what you like. I'm sure that you have either had other partners or masturbated so you know what you enjoy. Don't micromanage him but if he can't find your clit or G spot put your hand over his and guide him to the spot.
Sometimes I like to have a gal masturbate and watch what she does, it gives me clues as to what she likes and for how long. Some women like the focus to be on their clit others on their G spot or a combination.
You could always wait until he is laying on the bed or couch and straddle his face. If he doesn't get the clue then forget it! ;) I know if a gf or playmate did that to me I'd be all over it!
Just my $.02 hope it helps!
After making out and things are getting hot and heavy, just tell him exactly what you want. Don't be shy, ask him with an almost demanding voice, that's a huge turn on, when a girl knows what she wants. For me at least.
You ask him to go down on you.
What are you being so shy about?
He sounds shy. It is true that most guys like going down on a woman, even if they have no idea what they are doing! Maybe he is afraid that he won't be any good. In that case this will be an excellent opportunity for you to train him in the proper way. Ask,suggest, tell.
Some guys don't and again maybe your bf hasn't ever done it either so maybe he wont know how to start it. Have you tired to talk about it like if you are talking on the phone and talking about fantasies, you could bring it up then and see what he says when you say you want him to go down.
After you go down on him you could ask him if he's ever given oral to a girl before, if he says no then ask him if he would like to. however if he says no to that too then sorry but i dont think its gonna happen, at least not for a while.
He may need to work to get down to the Y. Hopefully he gives kisses below the breasts. When he gets down low ask him to go lower or better yet guide his head lower. He may not have ever done oral on a women is isn't surewhat to do, so he may also need so guidance once there. Hope he comes through for you because it is great. My wife loves to have me there and I love to be there.
Bodyworshipping - there's a sticky post about it.