My fiance and I have a very secure and trusting relationship. We're both open to new ideas, sexually and otherwise. We recently tried a threesome, which went very well for all parties involved. Since then my fiance has brought up the idea of doing it again--sometimes mentioning the same girl, other times mentioning finding someone else. We both liked the girl who joined us the first time (and I’m pretty sure she would be up for joining us again). Finding someone else doesn't sound that appealing to me, as it was a real chore coming up with someone we both could agree on.
So, my question is this:
Do you think my fiancé will think I’m "up to no good" if I gently push the idea of asking the same girl?
I'm really not up to anything, I just think asking the same girl would be easier.
One way you can present this, to make it more "digestible" if you are concerned he may prefer to go with someone else...
You can tell him that for you (as it is for me, in reality) sex gets better as you get to know your partner better. Going with the same third partner for a second time could make this an even better experience for you, her and him, as you get to know each other's pleasure spots, particular preferences, developing special dynamic/chemistry, etc.
I’m not sure I made this clear before, but I'm actually the male in the relationship.
Anyhoo. When the first threesome was in the ‘planning stages’, my gf and I agreed we would only do it with another girl. Don't take this the wrong way, but doing stuff with a guy really has no appeal to me. But fair is fair--if my gf agreed to fulfill one of my favorite sexual fantasies, I'd certainly give her the same courtesy. Even if doing so involved having a threesome with me and another guy...
...fortunately for me, she likes girls better ;)
Look make it easier on yourself - and more fun - by doing an MFM - two men this time instead of two women. Men are usually more than willing to help another guy out in these situations, making it easier to find a third, and since he already had 'his' 3some, now it is time for 'your' 3some. Fair is fair after all!
You do NOT have to be or do bisexual activity when doing a threesome.
As for liking girls more - dude, be careful she doesn't drop you and go strictly with the girls! It is much more likely that she thinks you'll be jealous and a pain in the $%$ about her wanting an MFM. You' be surprised how much your insecurities will impact her choices and what she'll be willing to tell you.
A polite reminder to EvilEvilKitten:
It was my girlfriend who insisted she didn't want her first threesome experience to be with two guys. Fair enough. Had she wanted it otherwise, I would've obliged. And what I meant by her 'liking girls better' was strictly in terms of having a threesome.
That said, I am absolutely positive of two things:
1. she's not secretly considering 'switching teams' (we're going to be married in a few months)
2. I'm not all that insecure
My apologies for sounding like a homophobe.
Thank you.
I have yet to hear of a coherent reason why couples tend to go with FMF's rather than the much easier to arrange MFM's. Given the female capacity for muliple orgasms and greater sexual stamina one would have supposed that MFM's would be preferred. Logisically if nothing else. Usually the woman comes up with something on the order of 'one dick is enough' - which isn't true, really - see dildo sales figures. So if it isn't the penis - it must be something else.
Just wondering.
Both my fiancee* and the female friend who joined us said separately that an MFM would somehow be 'weird'. Neither of them were really able to elaborate, though. I also remember another female friend saying the same thing years ago.
I dunno...ya like what ya like, I guess...
*(Quick question: is a 'fiancee' a female, and a 'fiance' a male? Is there even a difference? I can never get that straight.)
[QUOTE=johnct91;162218]
*(Quick question: is a 'fiancee' a female, and a 'fiance' a male? Is there even a difference? I can never get that straight.)[/QUOTE]
Your fiance is the man you plan to marry; your fiancee (or fiancée) is the woman you plan to marry.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;161970]Thank you.
I have yet to hear of a coherent reason why couples tend to go with FMF's rather than the much easier to arrange MFM's. Given the female capacity for muliple orgasms and greater sexual stamina one would have supposed that MFM's would be preferred. Logisically if nothing else. Usually the woman comes up with something on the order of 'one dick is enough' - which isn't true, really - see dildo sales figures. So if it isn't the penis - it must be something else.
Just wondering.[/QUOTE]
Different strokes, for different folks, EEK.
hey cycle - there's a reason behind every preference, hun!
Ceck out The Metaphysics of Sexuality on the Internet - interesting stuff.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;162299]there's a reason behind every preference, hun![/QUOTE]
Call me naïve, but I don't really think there has to be some deep, spiritual meaning behind someone's preference. I mean, honestly, isn't it enough to say 'you like what you like'?
(of course, as long as 'what you like' isn't illegal...)
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;161970]Thank you.
I have yet to hear of a coherent reason why couples tend to go with FMF's rather than the much easier to arrange MFM's. Given the female capacity for muliple orgasms and greater sexual stamina one would have supposed that MFM's would be preferred. Logisically if nothing else. Usually the woman comes up with something on the order of 'one dick is enough' - which isn't true, really - see dildo sales figures. So if it isn't the penis - it must be something else.
Just wondering.[/QUOTE]
You should start a thread just to detail all of your sexual exploits. I think it would make for good reading. ;)
Now ua322 I don't want to shock you! But WOW has it been fun!
38 years and 69 lovers! Mmm the stories I could tell!
But there are seveal things I should point out
1. never been diseased - not even a yeast infection
2. never been sexually assaulted
3. never was pregnant out of wedlock
This wasn't luck but careful management of my sex life.
Yes, it can be done! And without any loss of self-esteem!
And never harmed anyone.