Okay my girlfriend was a virgin when we first had sex and it took me like 3 tries just to get inside of her and when i finnally did it was so tight i could barely thrust weve had sex with succesfull penetration about 5 times since that now i know virgins are supposed to be tight be she is tighter than security at the whitehouse. I'm only about 6 1/2 - 7 inches so that shouldn't be the problem.
Every time we have sex it seems like its uncomfortable for her sometimes she even pushes me back. I ask her if shes okay and she says yes but i think shes embarassed i just want to know if anyone has had this problem and how we can overcome it so we can both get some pleasure out of sex.
in a few years you will be praying for a tight one , you will find most you can put your head in and wiggle your ears , wonder where all the tight ass went to, yes need more playing with her get her wet and juicey
There are a few possibilities. It could be any one or a combination of them:
She is new to sex and might just be a little apprehensive. This can cause involuntary tightening up and/or lack of lubrication. The harder you push while she is like that, the more she resists, the drier she gets, and so on.
Try some lubrication like K-Y or Astroglide or whatever you can get (don't use an oil-based lubricant with a latex condom though). Also, use lots of foreplay and your fingers to loosen her up and get her in the mood. DON'T push if she is not ready - easy does it!
Ask her if she has any problem with penetration when she masturbates. It is possible that she is physically a little tight at the vaginal opening. If the above suggestions don't work (though chances are they will), she might want to get checked by a doctor.
First of all, your length wouldn't be the problem. It would be the width.
I would also say more lubrication, and Guido gave you good advice.
As guido mentioned, foreplay is very important. Women's vaginas get naturally looser and wetter as a result of sexual arousal, which will make things easier for both of you.
Maybe she IS too tight.
I don't know how tall/built your girl friend is...but sometimes it may be down to the fact that she may have a small vagina. In that case...there's not much to be done...but i shouldn't think so.
Try all the lube etc stuff that has been suggested.
We women are lucky. Almost any vagina can handle almost any penis if we are ready and truly willing. You got some good advice here. Let me add letting her have the top will reduce her anxiety. She will be able to pace things and control the movements to her liking. Her comfort level will increase, physically at least.
The other issue is simply whether she really wants to be sexually active or is trying to please you. Once we women learn to do it for ourselves rather than to please men, the enjoyment quotient goes way up.
She just isnt used to having sex, it takes time and patience, sometimes it only takes a couple of times to losen her up both other times it takes a long time, maybe even months depending on how much you have sex. Start off slow, dont push it too much, take your time and be considerate for her.