Well my girlfriend just told me that she lately has had stomache aches and i think threw up today. She said it happens before school every year. Well shes really mad now because i kind of got kinda scared and just like acted hmm how can i put this... well i said f*** once and just i geuss acted selfish and only thought about myself. Well i just really dont kno what to do. I just hope shes not pregnant. She already said she wouldnt have the baby, but if her mom finds out then i dont know if she would let her get an abortion. So i dont know. Well i dont kno what to do and i just needed to tell someone... any advice would be helpful.
Tue, 09/06/2005 - 17:19
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i think shes pregnant
Im a guy so matbe i can help. i had a similar experience with this before. Well a girl wanted 2 have sex so bad so i just decided to do it and get it over with. well she told me she was on BC and it was safe. and i didnt have a condom bc i wasnt sexually active. so i trusted her. That was my first mistake. Then a week or 2 later she said she was pregnent. I had no feelings for her and i dont think it was even mine IF there was one. She was a very shady girl.
Anyways she SAID she got a pregnecy test. Well she went to the doctor and he said she was pregnent. anyways she said she got an abortion after hours and hours of arguing. She wanted me and i didnt want her. Yes there were many mistakes in that incident but i will NEVER let that happen again.
Anyways i suggest getting a pregency test. If you cant buy it yourself.. im not sure why? try to go to a specialist. They are private there and i dont think they notify your parents. If you didnt want them to know that is. But the most important thing is to support her and be there for her.
She may not even be pregnent. Anyways i hope that helps. Good luck and god bless
-Sean
I would never use spermicide. It causes irritation and I read a study that said it could be linked to cervical cancer. Apparently that's why some condom companies stopped using spermicide lubricants. Just my 2 cents. I don't remember where I read that study though.
acid burn is right, girls get scared too, i was hella scared when i thought i was pregnant thank God i had a bf to stick by me tho,i dont know what i would have done if he woulda just left, even tho im not that was a really scary time, and im sure she is scared to just be there for her
I put "stomach ache" and vomiting""into a diagnostic program. Pregnancy did not show without other symptoms. My point: if this gets you so upset with so little knowledge, you two have no business having sex. Given that you are, condoms and vaginal spermicide should both be used every time. Ask her if the enjoyment she gets from sex is worth sweating out her period every month for the next five years.
In Chick Chat, there is a thread on knowing when you are ready for sex. It is written for women but you may benefit as well.
Reread canoestripper's last post. It took a penis in a vagina to get you to this unknown point. One of them was yours.
[QUOTE=Quote ]Well were definatly not having this baby. It just kinda makes me mad because i tried to be really safe and i was always worried about it, and she was just always like "were not gunna get pregnant, the chance of getting pregnant at my age is very little. If you use a condom you dont get pregnant" I wanted her to go on birth control too but she wouldnt cuz it makes you gain weight i geuss. And wenever i would get nervous about it she would get pissed off at me. ah well i feel better.[/QUOTE]
Remember, it takes two to tango. Don't get mad and put all the blame on her. If she is/becomes pregnant (not sure from this post if she is or not) you are equally responsible. From now on, tell her you are not having sex unless you use condoms and spermicide, or condoms and some form of feminine BC.
Take care.
Well were definatly not having this baby. It just kinda makes me mad because i tried to be really safe and i was always worried about it, and she was just always like "were not gunna get pregnant, the chance of getting pregnant at my age is very little. If you use a condom you dont get pregnant" I wanted her to go on birth control too but she wouldnt cuz it makes you gain weight i geuss. And wenever i would get nervous about it she would get pissed off at me. ah well i feel better.
ok me and my gf had this problem awhile ago i think its a blessing to have a child and thats how u have to look at it, lol i mean i said f*** also but you just have to be there for her shes more scared than you are,
So young. {shakes head} This changes some things. You still need to be persistent about being there for her.
I can't tell you how much a pregnancy test costs because I haven't bought one in some years, but I'm sure someone else on the board knows. I'm not even sure if you can buy one at your age. One thing that I do know; if she IS pregnant, you need to tell your and her parents ASAP. There is no way around that, and the longer you wait, the worse it's going to be.
That's the best advice I have for you.
Well i did apoligize but she said she didnt forgive me. I am 15 and she is 14, so yea wayyy too young. Yea ill prolly go get a pregnancy test thing. How much money are they? And just in case she is, do u have to pay to get an abortion? thankx
The first thing I would suggest is that you apologize to her for your earlier behavior.
The second would be to get a pregnancy test so you both know for sure whether she is indeed pregnant. If it turns out she is, then you can decide on a rational course of action.
How old are the both of you?
Just try to stay calm until you know something for sure. It sounds like, now that you are over your initial reaction, you are ready to support her no matter the outcome. Let her know that you are.
Hope this was helpful. Keep us informed.