Are you sure he is not someones husband????

If there is a fish scent? And he is blowing you off? Trust your instincts...either he is a dirty person (not showering) or he is off & on to someone else. Take your choice. I know what mine would be.

I know age isn't an issue, but you were 16 and he was 28? I don't mind fishing out of my age pool, but I at least wait for them to leave the hatchery.

But as far as the smell. If all he does is sit around playing online games and doesn't exercise, then after 2 days he can get pretty funky.

Not to be too disgusting, but I had a busy weekend and was running late for work this mourning, so I'm not exactly April Fresh either. Don't worry, I showered when I got home.

Gorget the smell. You were a novelty that has worn off. Move on. He has.

Where's Chris Hansen when you need him?

Your boyfriend is twice your age and sits around playing video games all week. Get some damn self-respect. A 28 year-old with a 16 year-old is a HUGE red flag. You got what you deserve - learn from your mistakes and next time, choose someone that doesn't have such obvious problems...

Well I guess some people just need to learn the hard way...

You're right - he's probably not using you. He's got the words "arrested development" written all over him. How many 30 year-old men are on the same page as an 18 year-old girl and spend all their time playing video games? Does he still live with his parents, too? Hmmm, I wonder why he's not with someone closer to his own age? He sounds like QUITE a catch!

Everthing you've posted so far is totally out there. You're in a relationship with a 30 year-old man that your mom works with and she has no problem whatsoever with your relationship? And she's basically making excuses for his "suspicious" body odor. I wouldn't be surprised if Mommy's the one that he's banging on the side. This whole thing is an episode of Jerry Springer waiting to happen...

Really, how NAIVE can you be? Guess it runs in the family...

Why did you live with him for a bit and then move out?

[QUOTE=oedipussy;207364]Well I guess some people just need to learn the hard way...

You're right - he's probably not using you. He's got the words "arrested development" written all over him. How many 30 year-old men are on the same page as an 18 year-old girl and spend all their time playing video games? Does he still live with his parents, too? Hmmm, I wonder why he's not with someone closer to his own age? He sounds like QUITE a catch!

Everthing you've posted so far is totally out there. You're in a relationship with a 30 year-old man that your mom works with and she has no problem whatsoever with your relationship? And she's basically making excuses for his "suspicious" body odor. I wouldn't be surprised if Mommy's the one that he's banging on the side. This whole thing is an episode of Jerry Springer waiting to happen...

Really, how NAIVE can you be? Guess it runs in the family...[/QUOTE]

I totally AGREE with oedi on this theory...BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

If this dude's half the catch you build him to be, why can't he get anyone his age? I am his age and when I look at a 18,all I see is my niece, lol.

I don't blame the game thing, cause I do play occasionally too, but that on-line stuff....uh...no. My time is more valuable than that.

Hell, I'm only 21 and I can't even deal with 18 year old girls. I feel like I'm babysitting...

[QUOTE=oedipussy;207379]Hell, I'm only 21 and I can't even deal with 18 year old girls. I feel like I'm babysitting...[/QUOTE]

Hah I'm 18 and my fiancee is 24. :p I don't act/look 18 from what I'm told. Everyone thinks I'm 21.

18 and 24 are like the upper most limits depending on how mature the 18 year old is.
imo i think you should drop him. you with him becuase you have been with him since you were a child, and lets face it you still clearly are one. it is likely you will get hurt here so the longer you stay the more it will hurt. tell your mum he has an std, then you will know.

ewww going down on him after he hasnt showered in a couple days.:eek:.

I hope at least he washes it before he puts his skanky wang in your mouth????:eek:

LMFAO tommy she tells her mom hes got an sti and then her mom flips and runs to go check herself haha....obviously oeds theory would be correct haha

Girl it is way past time you moved on with your life. Leave this man behind. Stop calling him your boyfriend because he isn't. Once you moved out of his house - it was over. You should have made that clear and once a month sex does NOT a relationship make. You are just being his '**** toy' when he feels like it - not his girlfriend.

Focus instead upon what you're going to do with your life and your talents/skills. What do you want out of life? Focus, what steps do you need to get there? Then GO and DO them so you get the life you want.

ew, this reminds me. a friend of mine, who is 17, has been dating this guy jeff for 1 1/2 years.

jeff is turning 23 next month. :confused: i don't get it. i think in the teen years, 3 years is almost too far and 4 is stretching it.

It is "the older man" thing. I did it too. Excellent for educational purposes but not all that good as a long term prospect unless the girl has maturity AND wants to have kids right away. Face it, older men have money, skills, knowledge, and a life they can share as they will. Older men usually think with the correct head for the job.
They also have one HUGE advantage: they are no longer vain.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;207537]wants to have kids right away[/QUOTE]

I don't have to worry about that, he wants to settle into his career and make sure we're financially secure first. :) Besides, I don't mind having kids before I'm 25. As long as I'm done with my education and ready to get into a career after its all good.

That is how it should be, CW. Finish your education, begin your career - fine, all good. BTW you'll never be precisely "financially secure" enough to have kids - you simply cannot estimate how much having kids costs. So, no goal makes it rather impossible to reach. So nevermind that part of it. But having kids during is your 20's is exactly right.

It may seem contradictory but a younger woman has to have her plan in place before she gets with older men because while he's reveling in her youth, etc., he still has to deal with his world - so expecting to party every night as most young woman desire to do with their friends - that's not going to happen. She has to slot herself into his world if this is going to work; not the other way around.

I agree with EEK; waiting to "have it all" rarely happens. Many wait to achieve the financial status to have kids to find it's now lost...part of the reason I am childless. Our generation was raised to achieve everything, have it all in life, beautiful home with prestigious carers & high education, save all your resources...and guess what? Time passes too fast since what you want so badly passed you by seeking high levels of success.

By no means hop in too soon...but as it was once put; "there is never the ideal time [financially] to have kids"...you make due with what you do have and find happiness with that.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;207563]
It may seem contradictory but a younger woman has to have her plan in place before she gets with older men because while he's reveling in her youth, etc., he still has to deal with his world - so expecting to party every night as most young woman desire to do with their friends - that's not going to happen. She has to slot herself into his world if this is going to work; not the other way around.[/QUOTE]

I'm not really the party type, I mean I like it occasionally but so does he so its never been an issue. And I DID slot myself into his world, I moved to him, even thought he was willing to do vise versa and we even tried it first.

[QUOTE=sera300;207580]I agree with EEK; waiting to "have it all" rarely happens. Many wait to achieve the financial status to have kids to find it's now lost...part of the reason I am childless. Our generation was raised to achieve everything, have it all in life, beautiful home with prestigious carers & high education, save all your resources...and guess what? Time passes too fast since what you want so badly passed you by seeking high levels of success.

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I understand. I just mean me being finished school and having our own place that has room for children, right now we live with his parents because we have enough privacy and hey its way cheaper. :p I've also found unlike North America, its okay in Europe to live with your parents until you're married, instead of moving out as soon as you hit 18 or graduate high school. Anyways we'll work it out when the time comes!

Hunni get over him
the fact that you dont ever see him and that he always blows you off is blatenly obvious that hes over the novelty of a young lover

Well my boyfriend is 23 and im 17. We met at a mutual friends party and started chatting. Age wasnt actually brought up until we were close to dating. We have been dating since about November now. Yes my rents have met him and they like hiim (I always trust mothers opinions cause she has been right every time so far haha) and ive met his. And yes we have a very health sex life ;). Now he says that no matter how "gorgeous" I am that if I were to act like a 17yrs old all the time it would have never worked. Yes I am mature for my ages and honestly I usually dont think like a teenager so it works. Although...he acts like a 6yrs old sometimes haha. We have a great relationship and its still amazing!!

But come on an 18yrs with a 30 yrs old???!!!! Your mother is nuts if she allows that. What kind of 28 yrs old hooks up with a 16yrs old? Sounds like a diddler to me!

Get rid of him. Hes 30 and he sounds like a total bum and usually you can follow your instinct. If you think hes cheating, he probably is. Dump him and find someone your own age.

New topic title suggestion: "Gang of Pots calls kettle black".

Just old guys who can't get any from women their age because they know he's full of sh**. So they hit up the HS crowd where having a car and not living with mom is "cool".

[quote=Thresher_V;208218]Just old guys who can't get any from women their age because they know he's full of sh**.[/quote]

Us slightly "older" women can smell a weasel a mile away!, LOL!

haha....slightly....roflmao...

JK sera :p

I guess I can't say much, I would prefer "slightly older" to young and naive.

Question for the guys:

Would you prefer 72 female "slightly younger" virgins or 72 "slightly older" women who know what they're doing?

[quote=Thresher_V;208233]I guess I can't say much, I would prefer "slightly older" to young and naive.[/quote]Best part is we don't play games....well maybe some fun ones but not the "head games" which some who are younger tend to. It is what it is...fun, sex, dating, serious, or marriage. Cannot call or pretend there is more to the global picture then what IS there!

"Older" women of course, I've had a couple of virgins...though it's fun to be the one in charge, I like it better when both parties know what they want and how to get it.

[quote=Thresher_V;208249]"Older" women of course, I've had a couple of virgins...though it's fun to be the one in charge, I like it better when both parties know what they want and how to get it.[/quote]Even those who are older, sorry under 70 y/o here, let men be in charge...but remember fair is fair. Knowing what they want and how to get it is the easy part. An Ace is an Ace--a Spade is a Spade. Cannot confuse them! LOL!:D

[QUOTE=sera300;208259]Even those who are older, sorry under 70 y/o here, let men be in charge...but remember fair is fair. Knowing what they want and how to get it is the easy part. An Ace is an Ace--a Spade is a Spade. Cannot confuse them! LOL!:D[/QUOTE]

And I'm a Joker.....:cool:

[quote=Thresher_V;208264]And I'm a Joker.....:cool:[/quote]Really? I did not notice! LOL! In a card deck you might be the "wild card" & hopefully not playing alone!:D

Always 2 of us in each deck.....

[quote=Thresher_V;208281]Always 2 of us in each deck.....[/quote]The joker & the Ace? Or the "Wild Card"???;)

[QUOTE=curious_woman;207380]Hah I'm 18 and my fiancee is 24. :p I don't act/look 18 from what I'm told. Everyone thinks I'm 21.[/QUOTE]

This has been my downfall many a time - I look much older than I am, which is not the best when you're actually quite young and trying to fish in your age pool. Look 25 when you're actually 17 = not good.

To the OP:

Sorry, but this 'relationship' stinks of an older guy who has his naive little girl who will do anything for him whilst he does whatever the hell he likes. I've seen it happen to friends, I've seen friends do it themselves. My advice is to get out of there and find someone who returns your affection more than once a month.

[QUOTE=PlasticVicar;210310]This has been my downfall many a time - I look much older than I am, which is not the best when you're actually quite young and trying to fish in your age pool. Look 25 when you're actually 17 = not good.
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Hasn't been an issue to me since I am legal. I don't tend to like dating in my exact age pool, men (boys rather) my age do not have what I am looking for. But to each her own. :)

It's not too much of a problem now, but back in high school it was not terribly helpful.

For example, I went to a party once which was supposed to be a private do for our school in a club, about 200 or so 16-18 year old students having a few drinks and some dancing.

At some point, a couple of creepy 40 year old guys gatecrashed the party and started getting aggressive, grinding against 16 year old girls etc etc.

So the bouncers threw them out. Good.

They also tried to throw me out. Bad. I should mention now that I was only 16. I didn't look 16. They thought I was some sort of child molester, and only the quick intervention of my girlfriend saved me from getting beaten to death by 5 extremely large and pissed off bouncers.

Never mind the amount of parents who shot down relationships because "He's far too old".

Sigh.

Younger men generally don't, CW, hence the somewhat standard delight in "older men".

As for younger men looking older? Not as bad as being 26 and still looking like a kid! The "fashion" today seems to be for smooth, short, slightly built, tattooed and pierced males. ICK! A group of us got together Wed evening and except for the one guy (who was too young) and my teddybear, all the men the women told me were 'dreamy' were of this "Are you SURE you've hit puberty?" type. Only my teddybear reached the 6 ft tall mark! I asked my daughter (married, age 21, and 6' 1" in her bare feet) if this 'fashion' was so and she assured me that yes, it was true. Apparently women do not see this scrawny type of male as being a "threat".

Unless she's tall herself! I ask all the young women I meet if they're tired of dating guys shorter than themselves. They all, without hesitation say a very heartfelt, yes! IF she isn't a blonde, I then introduce her to my son. LOL

[quote=EvilEvilKitten;210339]
Unless she's tall herself! I ask all the young women I meet if they're tired of dating guys shorter than themselves. They all, without hesitation say a very heartfelt, yes! IF she isn't a blonde, I then introduce her to my son. LOL[/quote]

What's wrong with a "bottle" blonde with some brown?:)

I'm still very much of the opinion that Metrosexuals are homosexuals who are closeted, having known several. I cannot comprehend how women can find someone who spends more time on their appearance than they do attractive.

[quote=PlasticVicar;210346]I'm still very much of the opinion that Metrosexuals are homosexuals who are closeted, having known several. I cannot comprehend how women can find someone who spends more time on their appearance than they do attractive.[/quote]Agreed. Nice grooming is good but your over all "natural look" is much better. A man who spends too much time in front of a mirror? A major turn off to me! Especially if he takes longer then my 10 minutes to get ready to go out!

[quote=sera300;210348]Agreed. Nice grooming is good but your over all "natural look" is much better. A man who spends too much time in front of a mirror? A major turn off to me! Especially if he takes longer then my 10 minutes to get ready to go out![/quote]

You spend ten minutes?!?!? Bloody hell.

That's the amount of time it takes me to get up, shower, shave, get dressed, get out of the house, swim to Tibet and catch a Panda for breakfast*.

[SIZE=1] *your mileage will vary. Obviously I'm being silly but ten minutes is quite a long while to get ready.[/SIZE]

[QUOTE=sera300;210348]Agreed. Nice grooming is good but your over all "natural look" is much better. A man who spends too much time in front of a mirror? A major turn off to me! Especially if he takes longer then my 10 minutes to get ready to go out![/QUOTE]

:eek::eek::eek:there goes the chance of any dates with the author of that!

He likes redheads and brunettes - what can I say?

And 10 minutes is NOT a long time; not for a female who worries about every detail of her appearance. All men have to do is be clean and look somewhat presentable.

Well, the younger ladies generally don't have what I want, either. I'm interested in women, not girls... More than a year younger than me and I usually feel like I'm babysitting.

10 minutes?! It takes me that long just to shave my face!

Looks are important - anyone who says otherwise is a liar. I make the effort to look my best, keep myself clean, and stay in shape. If that makes me a "metrosexual", so be it. I'm fully aware that I'm attractive. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going out in public looking like a slob. Most women want a man that looks self-sufficient...

[QUOTE=oedipussy;210383]Well, the younger ladies generally don't have what I want, either. I'm interested in women, not girls... More than a year younger than me and I usually feel like I'm babysitting.

10 minutes?! It takes me that long just to shave my face!

Looks are important - anyone who says otherwise is a liar. I make the effort to look my best, keep myself clean, and stay in shape. If that makes me a "metrosexual", so be it. I'm fully aware that I'm attractive. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going out in public looking like a slob. Most women want a man that looks self-sufficient...[/QUOTE]

X2 ^^^^^^ what he said!