My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a few months now and I can't help but feel that missionary is really boring or at least it doesn't feel as good as other positions. I love cowgirl and my second favorite would have to be doggy. I don't like to just be on the bottom, I like being a part of the action, I like to be involved in the movement and the positioning. The only thing is my SO gets restless and likes to be mostly in control so after a short while of me on top, he'll lay me down and take over again. It also bothers me that when we're in the missionary position, we don't see eye to eye, he's a lot taller than me (by almost a foot) and I like to see the look in his eyes when I do something that makes him feel amazing. So is it just me or does anyone else think that missionary is over-rated?
Mon, 01/29/2007 - 17:08
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I think missionary is boring
No it's not just you. Not that anything is wrong with missionary per se. but too much of any position gets boring. You need to be able to tell him what feels good for you. I love it with my GF on top, gives me a chance to lick her boobs & squeeze her cute butt. Oh well, I digress. Anyway, tell him what feels good for you and that he can take control once you're satisfied. Then he can get on top & please himself.
Yes, it's not just you. I also get tired of missionary. I love trying new things all the time, including new positions. Talk to him and them him what you're feeling. There's no way for him to know that you're not happy unless you speak up. Men are not mind readers, and most of them do not take subtle hints so you need to talk to him and be direct.
Also, there are things you can do to feel that you're involved during missionary. You may not have the most control, but you can take action. I like to move my hips up while he's moving, getting in sync with him. I also like wrapping my legs around him because it also changes the position a little bit. My absolute favorite thing to do during missionary is put my legs over his shoulders. The feels incredible and that is the best way (for me anyway) for him to hit my g-spot.
I've found that different positions seem to work better with different people. I'm not really sure why. Sometimes missionary is great with someone, but with someone else it just doesn't seem to work. You just need to experiment to find out what works best for the two of you.
[QUOTE=cyclefreak;165025]I've found that different positions seem to work better with different people. I'm not really sure why. Sometimes missionary is great with someone, but with someone else it just doesn't seem to work. You just need to experiment to find out what works best for the two of you.[/QUOTE]
Very good point. The girl I'm with now likes her knees pulled up to her chest when she's on her back. Sometime she puts her feet on my chest and her knees are up to her shoulders. She also likes her feet on my shoulders. We do stuff that would have my ex grimaceing in pain. I think it has someting to do with each individuals build and not all vaginas are situated in the exact same spot of the pelvic area. Long as it feels good, do it!
Sex is never boring regardless of which position you use. Some positions are more suitable for certain people.
What you can do in the 'male superior' position:
1. wrap your legs around him as a caress
2. put your legs down on either side and heave up against him in rhythmn
3. legs over his shoulders
4. shred his back, sides, rump with your claws
5. have him sit upright so you can caress him too
6. have him sit upright, cross your ankles and rest them on one of his shoulders so he can lick/kiss your ankles or caress your leg with his cheek
No, sex is never boring. *EG*
i find missionary so boring that i don't even think i can have sex that way at all. i so much prefer woman on top and dogy. a woman on her knees is so incredibly sexy to me. pluss i love to see her breasts hang, i hate it when the girl is lying on her back and the breasts flatten on her shest or slide to the sides...
Sorry but being bored may indicate only a lack of imagination or intimacy.
that was a good reply, i am talking from my previous experience and there actually was a lack of intimacy. so i guess that in a well functioning relationship things may be different.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;165053]Sex is never boring regardless of which position you use. Some positions are more suitable for certain people.
What you can do in the 'male superior' position:
1. wrap your legs around him as a caress
2. put your legs down on either side and heave up against him in rhythmn
3. legs over his shoulders
4. shred his back, sides, rump with your claws
5. have him sit upright so you can caress him too
6. have him sit upright, cross your ankles and rest them on one of his shoulders so he can lick/kiss your ankles or caress your leg with his cheek
No, sex is never boring. *EG*[/QUOTE]
I don't exactly feel that missionary is boring in and of itself. But in comparison to other positions and how amazing other positions feel to me, it's just fails to meet up to it, I suppose. I've done pretty much all the things from your list but it's just, I'd rather see the look on a guys face as I'm riding him then anything else. I feel like I have so much more power when I'm on top and even in doggy I feel like I've got more control even though he's the one doing most of the movement. I know it all comes down to personal opinion. I was actually really interested in the comment about different positions feeling different with different partners. I've only ever had one sexual partner so the thought never crossed my mind but after thinking about it I can see how that could be true.
I am with EvilKitten on this one! There many many ways for a variation when in the missionary position. You can change it up so easily and get new sensations.
There is also a level of intamacy that just can't be reached when she is riding away or when he has an eye full of a**.
Don't knock it. It doesn't have to be your favorite, but it should still be enjoyed.
Each partner is different. Each time you are with even the same man, the sex is different. Given the endless facets of each human's personality, I don't see how any sex could ever be boring - really.
But the other item - you have control issues. You feel you lose 'power' when he's on top. That is not a flaw in the position - that's your mindset. Change that to "this man will please me" and see if missionary becomes less 'boring'.