I'm contemplating leaving this board.
I may be back sometime in the future, but the immaturity here drives me crazy. I used to have so much fun coming here knowing that I could help people. I also know people come here looking for help, as I once did, and still occasionally do, but I don't see what the problem is putting your writing through a spell checker before you post. Also, puh-lease, the baby talk? We all have gone to school, or are in school, in this day and age, so there's no need for it. It just brings out your immaturity. I was just reading a post from a man who has been married x number of years, and his writing and grammar were atrocious. Now this may be my mistake, he may be foreign, but some standard must exist. I also feel that people are making rude comments, etc. I’m not denying that I am definitely being rude back, you get what you give. It's just so very frustrating. Please learn to talk in a, respectful, civilized and polite manner. If you can't do that, then how can you be talking about sex related issues? None of that, comparing vaginas to roast beef. Do you really think a woman wants to read that? Do you really think I ever want to eat roast beef again?
Another thing is I think the moderators need to keep up with their job here. You guy used to be here a lot more and take part in our posts. The board was a lot better run in the past. The least you could do is send a PM (Private Message) to new members explaining to them the guidelines of this board, such as writing in a way that other members will understand, and respectfully too. I know you have the section for new member and guests on the Message Board, but I doubt they read it. It looks boring. I feel like I could be running this entire website better than it is being run right now.
As for those of you who wish I wasn't thinking of leaving, sorry, but I feel like my responses lately have been one word answers. Where’s the common sense? I've also noticed that Brandye, one of our most valued members, has faded away too.
So please, let me know what you think…maybe your comments will make me want to stay, or make me want to leave.
Hi xx22xx,
I are very sorry to hear that you, or any Member, might be leaving the Board. I hope you will read my following replies to your comments and re-consider.
Yes, there is at times immaturity (perceived or real) on the Board. Sexinfo101 and our Board Members try to help and educate people of all ages and backgrounds, some of whom are here exactly because they are young and developing and inquisitive - and sometimes still perhaps a little immature. But they still need help - immature or not! Sometimes poor grammar and spelling is due to poor education, or the member may have English as a second language, it is not necessarily a lack of willingness. It is impossible for me to know for sure, so I try not to judge.
Do I wish people would try and take more care with their posts? Yes - but not to the point of banning them from the Board for not reading the guidelines, or for posting the same topic in 3 places, or for not bothering to look around before creating a new topic when it already exists. I just fix it as soon as I find it and privately ask them not to do it again. People come and go in any crowd, some we will get along with better than others. Time-wasters don't typically last long. If those of you who care stay the course, you will prevail.
When a post gets out of hand, yes we will edit it. But we believe in freedom of speech and sometimes the price of that is letting people have their say, like it or not. Incidentally, it would help if Members used the "Report A Post to the Moderator" button when they find a problem. Interestingly, I have not had a single post brought to my attention this way - not one! If I don't know there is a problem, I can't try and and fix it.
You complain that some posters are rude - and that is true. None of us is perfect, and sometimes we don't realize how rude even our own posts can be! The written word is not always a perfect medium for showing how we feel (or how we intend to be taken), when we post.
As you say, there are Posting Guidelines for Members displayed prominently on the Board. Also, new Members already do receive a post asking them to check it out before posting. But why do you think they will be any more inclined to read a detailed post of the same?
With regard to the management of the Board and this website, your comments are noted. I am sorry you feel we are doing a poor job. Without absolving ourselves from the responsibility of doing a good job, I offer the following thoughts:
This web-site and board is free to all who want to use it. It's only revenue is generated by commissions from the sale of sex toys and from visitors and members who click on banner ads to other sites. We also do not impose the financially lucrative annoying "pop-up" ads (or any of the other "tricks") on visitors to this site, that so many other web-sites do these days. We have no salaried staff - only volunteers; that includes the site-designers, researchers, writers, the advisor and the moderator. The company that owns this web-site is privately owned and incorporated for liability concerns, it does not have unlimited resources - this is not Humungus Incorporated (though hopefully one day it will be!)
Traffic on this Board has doubled in the last month alone - keeping up with it is almost a full-time job in itself, but I am here when I can be. Just because I am not seen does not mean I am not here - I just have less time to participate! In any case, the Board belongs to the Members not me. Your comment wasn't specific about the rest of the site, so am unable to address what your concerns are about that.
The bottom line is that in a perfect world we could each control everything around us to be just the way we want it. Here, we are just trying our best and we will continue to try to do better. xx22xx, you and other Members have been a great help in achieving what we have done so far, and we hope you will stay to help us continue forward. Whatever your decision, thank you for your help so far!
Sincerely,
the moderator
p.s. if other Members have views on this topic I would welcome their input, good or bad!
xx22xx, Please read my PM.
As my response gets shunned...
[QUOTE=Quote (moderator @ April 08 2003,20:46)]I are very sorry to hear that you ...
The bottom line is that in a perfect world we could each control everything around us to be just the way we want it. Here, we are just trying our best and we will continue to try to do better.[/QUOTE]
moderator is right xx22xx, you can't expect the world to change just to please you. You must learn to adapt and blend in with the environment, no the other way around. Also, I don't want to be rude, but my oppinion is that, you show as much immaturity as those that you criticize. And it is not a bad thing!, come on, you are teenagers, you are supposed to do that, only time will give you maturity, you don't get it just by spelling right some words or expresing right some ideas. Do you want a real sign of maturity? tolerance, i believe tolerance to others people ideas, thoughts, and ways of life will open many doors for you, intolerance will only isolate you.
So, i guess it's only up to you, if you want to stay and help other people fine, we'll be very happy to have you here
, if you want to leave us fine 
, we'll miss you. Life goes on. 
All i have to say on the matter is CRY ME A F***ing RIVER....
the moderators here do a great job, they keep things civil, edit bad posts, and GIVE AWAY TOYS!.... you are not paying to be here... so you may want to lower your expectations.... if you think that the sexinfo guys aren't up to par... all i have to say is I pity the foo who dates you.
My personal vote, based on your responses, and attitude alone, are that you leave....
[QUOTE=Quote (xx22xx @ April 10 2003,16:26)]cool macs
I'm going to stay just for you
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That's the spirit xx22xx - don't take this all too seriously.
It is only fun to be here (or anywhere) if you take what you enjoy from it and don't sweat the rest.
BTW - I hope you and cool macs will be very happy together - a match made in heaven I think!
cool macs
I'm going to stay just for you
p.s. Didn't know you liked Justin Timberlake too! Love "Cry Me A River" by him!
MwAh MwAh
LoL,
Great news
Though, in my defense, the phrase cry me a river belongs to Justin as much as "I'll be missing you" belongs to puff daddy....
cm
xx22xx, glad you decided to stick around.
Well I just got here and everything I've read so far has been interesting to say the least. I guess IMO if someone annoys me I'll just move on to the next post. We all wouldn't hang out together in the real world so why would we all see eye-2-eye here either?
My grandfather always told me that 1/3 of the people you meet will adore you, 1/3 will abhor you and the other 1/3 won't give a rat's ass - go grampa!
xx22xx, Tj has a very valid point! We don't live in a perfect world. you have been good for the board and if your decision is to leave I hope you will come back after you see the trash out there on the other boards. No one will say " I told you so". Regarding typo's and spelling ~ unfortunetly i never mastered either one but please don't hold that against me.I agree a spell checker and grammar checker would help.I haven't even mastered the icons.Oh Well that's why the tore down the statue of me yesterday in Bagdad.Liten up a little young lady your offer a lot don't expect to get a lot back. ~ IT NEVER WORKS THAT WAY!!!!!!
Well, I have been busier than usual but still check in. I share some of your frustration but hate to see you leave. Ihave sent pm's to a few who I thought used inappropriate cutesy spelling. I have enough trouble with regular American English!
But I still look for that young woman who really wants help. Many days that means I post nothing but will not let the little boys destroy the board.
I havent been on this board all that long, but I have read the guidelines and such. As far as the spelling and grammer errors go ....come on- to err is human. No one is perfect, your expectations are too high. I looked at your member profile and if It's correct you were born in '87 and still very young yourself. I personaly do not attend english class everyday I havent attended it daily in many yrs. So I guess I'm sorry I can be a bit rusty. Its silly to judge some one for their grammatical errors.
There is a lot of immaturity on this board, but as some one already stated...it's designed to educated and help those who seek it and arent mature enough to understand it on their own. You can get nutballs anywhere on the internet. Thats part of the deal. I wish you luck in life.