Okay, I've Been With 4 Guys. My Current Boyfriend Now Is The Only Guy That's Ever Been Able To Get Me Off. And I Think I Might Be Thinking About It Too Much, But Here In The Past Few Weeks When We Have Sex I Have To Fake It. I Mean I Still Get Excited And Everything, And Enjoy It. But The Orgasim Just Isn't There. And I Hate Lying To Him And Faking It.
Is There Something Wrong With Me??
Am I Broken Or Something??
Sat, 07/15/2006 - 08:26
#1
I Think I'm Broke
sounds likie you are just bored, talk to him and telll him you need some varietyin your sex life
I wish it was that easy... we have variation all tha time.. that's what makes me think it's me...
Hopefully Brandye will find this post...
Until she does... you might do some searches, there's plenty of orgasm-related information here. There's really not enough detail in this thread to "diagnose" the problem, but there's nothing that "breaks." A lot of things can change, though. Orgasms are not simple matters of technique and variation. Perhaps more so for woman there is a huge emotional component.
What changed? What are you thinking about (too much)? And - perhaps most importantly - why are you faking it?
One of the most insulting things you can do is fake an orgasm. Your doing nothing but cheating your self and your partner. The mind plays a very important part in sex. If you have too much on your mind during sex that doesnt involve sex then it will make it difficult to have an orgasm. Thats why one of the old tricks for guys to help last longer is to think about baseball during sex. It distracts the mind from what the bodys doing.
If its getting so bad that you feel the need to fake an orgasm you and him need to sit down and talk about it. Maybe theirs something missing that was there before when you were having orgasms. Maybe the foreplay doesnt last long enough for you to get your mind thinking about what it should be. This is all speculation.
The fact of the matter is you two need to talk, figure out whats wrong, and work at it. Communication is key to a relationship and sooner or later hes going to realize that your faking it and that will cause a whole bunch of other problems.
Your reply on this thread is very good, and always a timely message to bring to everybody's attention; although you are replying to an original post that is nearly three and a half years old. In this case no harm no foul, although, in the future please be aware of the timeline for the threads you wish to contribute to.
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