Me and the girlfriend have been going out a few months now, and we had sex for the first time last weekend. Spent ages on foreplay and all that before we got around to the actual sex, anyway after bout 15-20 mins of not cumming and no signs that i was gonna anytime soon i just pretened to cum. Anyone else take ages to cum?
Fri, 08/20/2004 - 23:34
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I take too long to cum
Treat it as a gift. Sex isn't just about cumming - (I've cum once in the last 3 months and feel fine from it.)
If you really want to cum with your girl then it will come in time if you relax and don't consider it a concern.
Cheers,
Ringo
[QUOTE=Quote (rhetoric_eire @ Aug. 21 2004,11:42)]got tired quickly last time? Thought sex'd be much easier[/QUOTE]
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yeah it is a workout... but no pain no gain right?
just try using different positions.
if im on top and its taking me forever... my arms start to give out, so we'll switch it up and my b/f will be on top or whatever.
spooning is good b/c neither parties have to strain themselves.
i also like when im on my back and my butts to the edge of the bed and my b/f stands beside the bed. its kind of like him on top w/out him having to hold himself up. plus, i can touch myself better
Foreplay is "actual" sex. You don't "do foreplay" to get ready for sex!
As a society we are WAY too obsessed with orgasms. (See my sig line!)
I have experienced some incredible sex without an orgasm... it probably sounds weird, but part of it is learning to enjoy and appreciate pleasure - your partner's and your own.
You think that that is long? I take at least 30 minutes and sometimes an hour or two. No lie!
Thanks for help. Just wonderin if there's any tips or anything so I can improve my technique, got tired quickly last time? Thought sex'd be much easier
I would say it also is nerves. My first time didn't produce anything but frustration. 99% of all first time encounters with men end at least awkwardly. There is a slight chance you could have delayed ejaculation, but since it is your first time I highly doubt that. If you can finish in a reasonable time while masturbating, then I would suspect it is nerves and I would really say just relax and if it happens then great. But if not, then don't worry about it and move on. it WILL happen.
Many would say that you have been blessed with a gift. Women usually need more time to reach climax, and with your ability to "last" you'll be appreciated by your lovers.
I would guess that your problem was nerves. The first time is something that entails alot. Relax, and next time you'll be fine. I wouldn't start to worry unless it becomes a frequent occurance.
Also, 15 to 20 mins isn't that long, maybe you just need to give it some more time, or take a break and work on her for a little before you start back up again.