I have a problem. I'm 28 years old and have very limited sexual experience. I'm not a virgin, but I've only had intercourse twice in my life. The first time was about 5 years ago, and the second was about a week ago.
Here's the problem. I met a great girl about a month ago and we seemed to hit it off right away. She told me that she has sex quite regularly, and has had many different partners. I'm fine with that, but am a little intimidated as well. We had sex for the first time and, as one could probably imagine, I was not very good and did not last very long at all. She said that it was fine, and that "it happens". Unfortunately, even though she said that it was fine, I've noticed that she has recently lost interest, and I can't help but think that it was due to my inadequate sexual performance. I told her that I was not a virgin, but also did not tell her that I had only had intercourse once before. Maybe that was my first mistake.
Anyway, I'd be grateful if anyone had some advice for someone such as myself who is a bit older and should be "expected" to be quite experienced with sex. How do you overcome the problem and gain confidence? I don't want to wait another 5 years to have sex, but I'm not sure how to get in the game when I am this old. Thanks.
Fri, 07/14/2006 - 00:23
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I shouldn't be new to sex, but I am
Relationships arn't just about sex. Find someone you like. If sex happens, it happens (use protection!). If your partner really cares for you, even horrible sex shouldn't matter.
a partner wont care if u are **** or not.. they should be in it because they love you. not because they love little you.
no matter what the outcome someone there will not care and you will get in the game quite regularly and gain more confidence and start enjoying it more.
Few men, even on this board, are quite as honest as you. There have been many more women at your age with analogous concerns. They are out there and would love to "learn together." You need to find common interest groups in which you are most likely to meet someone who is not grazing bars and who has placed sex on the back burner until other things click. My answer to everything is a cycling club or sailing club. I do understand there are few people in the world with other interests. Figure out what interests you and pursue it. I have one friend who overcam a similar situation with Bonsai! Met some guy from thirty miles away when they were a thousand miles away at a meeting.