Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for over a year now. I enjoy sex very much and it feels amazing but only for about the first 5 to 10 thrusts...what should I do to make it enjoyable for me the entire time? Thanks.
Mon, 06/26/2006 - 02:35
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I need tips on extended pleasure!
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Well, I guess a male perspective worked. If you do not want a female specific perspective, post elsewhere.
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Meaning ????????
I was going to let this post die off but I've got your attention and value your input greatly, so, I'll try to be more clear this time around.
I've done hours of research and can't get a straight answer for my problem.
Our sex sessions last anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. But sex only feels good for me the first 10 times he enters me. (I'm sure that is why I have never had an orgasm before.) After that, I can feel him inside me but I get absolutely no pleasure out of it. It's certainly not his fault, but I can tell he feels like it is. I've tried it all! I'm really into it so it's not that I don't focus. And I'm not over thinking about having the big "O". Any ideas?
Lubrication is the most obvious answer but I suspect you have tried that. Most men think that the longer they go, the more we like it. Not so. If it drags on I may even push him off and finish with other means. 30 minutes in me is beyond my tolerance for most occasions. Many women will say much the same. On the other hand we do not want him to spurt on the first thrust!
Many of us are most receptive right AFTER our orgasms. Most commonly, my partners will bring me off and THEN I take them in. I like it better then and can tolerate a bit more probing around in me. There is a new book entitled something like Ladies First, written by a male sex-therapist. He makes similar observations. Read Female Sexual Response in Chick Chat.
If you have not explored alternative positions, try that. When on top, we can control pace, depth of penetration and can even lift up to finish orally or manually. If you do straddle find a position in which you can support yourself and rock rather than bounce up and down. What is comfortable depends upon the two bodies involved. I like to lean over far enough to rest my breasts on his chest and then rock instead of lifting myself. Even with cyclists legs, lifting can tire one quickly.