I want to pleasure my boyfriend in new ways, but he isn't very comfortable with oral sex. I would never do anything to make him uncomfortable, so I figured there are plenty of other things I can do to please him. We're both into light bondage, though we are new to it. He prefers to be the dominant in this situation, however, so it's more of what he would do to me than the other way around. :P
So this brings me to my question: What other things can I do to/for him to make him feel good? What are some new and good ideas for the bedroom? (Besides sex)
I have asked him his preferences, but he says he is unsure himself and would like to "explore" with me; this is why I'm so unsure! I've never had this opportunity with a guy before, since my boyfriends always knew what they wanted in the past. I am aware that through this new experience we are likely to discover both things he likes and dislikes, but I have no idea where to even start. I myself lack so much experience.
Perhaps an easier question would be: Men, what do you enjoy being done to you? / Women, what does your man enjoy? I realize that opinions and interests range from person to person, but perhaps hearing such feedback will give me some ideas that I haven't thought of.
From what I experienced, when I and my wife still dating, we enjoy kissing, cuddling, and rubbing again each other. Here are things I like a lot.
1. Let him feel your boobs while you rub his pants.
2. Talk dirty to him while you feeling 'his boy'
3. Move inside his pants when he started to comfort
4. Your first blowjob will blow him away [becareful, you might get your first facial :)]
Good luck and I hope you both have great time together
Dear AutumnRose,
It's very nice of you to be thinking of ways to please him.
But if he's unsure and says he likes to "explore", than why not seize the opportunity and reverse the question? :)
Use your imagination and think about:
What would you like to do?
In what ways would you like him to please you?
How would you like him to explore your body?
How would you like to explore his body?
(with the grand opportunity of this pleasure being mutual :))
And off course: welcome to this forum! I hope you will enjoy participating. The best place to start to find yourself ideas would be the index: http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/index-sexinfo101-board-topics/22777-begi... Also: at the homepage of sexinfo101.com you'll find all sorts of articles in the left menu. Including a sexpositions-guide. You say "besides sex", so I guess you mean no penetrative sex/ intercourse? Such positions can also be used for dry humping.
Thank you for the advice, RedRoses! That is a very good way to look at it. And yes, I meant no penetrative sex. Obviously we'll get there with time, but for the moment we are fine with outercourse. And thanks for the welcome! I'm looking forward to using this site for tips and pointers! :)
sit him down and give him a lapdance
In the Index you will find an article entitled Body Worship and another entitled The Program. I recommend you try them both out - stopping wherever you want to stop.
I'd like to thank you all for the responses! They really helped a lot, and I appreciate you taking the time to answer me. Once again: thank you! :)
I am new to this site but I have looked around and have not seen mention of something I like a lot. A "No Stroke Handjob"
It's great, surprising not many people seem to do it.
If you have home on his back, tied spread eagle is best for me but whatever you like. Then you proceed to give his member a massage. Not a stroking like normal but a real massage. Treat his member as if it were a person itself. Hold it in both hands and work your fingers in circular motions on one side, thumbs on the other.
My first wife was a trained massage therapist, and while she didn't do happy endings for others, she did apply her knowledge of massage to my little friend.
The best was when used both thumbs just under the head in front,very slowly. Doing this I had what I think of as many little dry orgasms. I had that same kind of muscle spasm as you do when you cum,but without the cum. Must have had 5 or six like this before actually orgasming. Never experienced anything like it before.
Give it a try