ok my boyfriend wants me to give him head..i have tried to give him head but like when i did i would gag...and he wants me to give him head..what should i do??? i dont know what to do.. can someone help me fast?????
Tue, 01/30/2007 - 22:23
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I need some advise Fast
my boyfriend now was my first to give head to..and he said im the best hes ever had do that too him..
when ur going down..take it slow..dont think you gotta go fast, caus thats what made me gag..i can go right down if i take it slow..
Another thing to try..is when u have him in ur mouth, like half way..lay ur tounge flat on his shaft and rub up and down with ur tounge..it gets him gone in like 2 seconds. ;)
Um first off don't do anything you don't want to do.
Secondly, work your way towards giving him that if YOU want to.
Thirdly, don't do anything you DO NOT WANT TO DO
Thats really all I got.
well its not that i dont want to its just when i do try to i like gag and i dont know what to do!!
To stress what Sportdork6 said, if he is pressuring you to give him oral sex, you can say "No."
Having a gag reflex is normal and it will take pratice, patience, and communication to work towards possibly overcoming or training your gag reflex.
It's just my two cents, but don't try to force yourself to take in more than your throat can handle because I can't imagine that it would be pleasant for you. Do what you are comfortable with and if you decide to try and deep throat your boyfriend, take things very slowly. Also, there are more ways to please a man orally than just deep throating. There are a lot of great posts and information on the site about oral sex. You should check them out.
ok thanks..i mean he isnt pressuring me into doing it..i just have tried before and when i did i would gag so i was just wondering if this was kind of a normal thing or what?? so thanks for the hel..but what do you do to please a guy if you dont mind me asking
it's just practice. It takes time to get over the gag reflex. Try to relax, i found that helped and don't push yourself, it'll come in time. try to enjoy it
If I can offer up one guys point of view. I really don't think it's necessary to swallow the whole thing. Most of the intense sensation comes from rubbing the tip. Try wraping your hand around the shaft and stroke it up & down at the same time you are sucking the tip up & down with your lips. Believe me, it feels great and you needn't gag. A lady friend of mine did it this way. Called it "her technique"
Well if it comes to the fact that he is always pushing your head down you may wanna rethink what he truly wants in the relationship. Also, it goes both ways so let him know that if he wants head all the time maybe he should start pleasing you down there more often
ok..cause he is always wanting me to give him head. i mean it doesnt bother me that he wants me to its just i dont think i am ready to do that i mean it doesnt bother me to give him head. or anything its just when i try i gag and the other night we were at a dance and we were laying there and he trys to push my head down..should i let him or not???
well he has only pushed my head down once and he was just joking around about it too.. i mean i know that he isnt that way cause we have been dating for a year and just started to have sex and im the first girl that he has done anything with. so i know hes not that way!!
The whole pushing your head down thing is a sign that there's a lack of respect. Tell him no if you don't want to give him oral. It's that simple.
yea well he has only pushed my head down once and that was the other night and i know that he was just kidding about it just because of where we were!! i mean its not like he does it all the time
Okay. I don't think you would have mentioned it if it weren't a problem, but once again, I dont' have anything constructive to say because you'll just ignore it anyway.
i wont ignore it ..everything everybody has said i have been thinking about all of it..cause alot of it makes me wonder
Well first off, I think that you need to respect yourself and others a little more. Because I tried to help you out with the issue of your boyfriend technically being an adult while you're still not old enough to drive, I think the two are connected. While you were the one to initiate sexual activity, it's clear that he's now pushing new things forward too.
You need to consider if you really want to offer oral sex.
Is this in place of other sexual activity? If he's trying to use oral as a sub for intercourse, you should realize that in a relationship nobody owes their partner sexual favors. It's something that's worked out between two equal partners and if you aren't comfortable with the scenario, you should be able to tell him about it.
well he isnt trying to get me to give him head instead of sex he just wants head to cause he hasnt ever had anything before since i was his first..and all.. i mean i would like to do oral stuff but like when i try i gag thats the only thing
There are numerous websites that offer tips on the topic. Hate to say it, but I am a die-hard fan of cosmopolitan.com.
Do a little research and I'm sure you can discover a way to make yourself not gag.
k thanks i will take a look at that web site!
Just thought i'd let everyone know that on her post before this she says that she's 14 and her boyfriend is 18. Call me old fashioned but i'd say she and her boyfriend are rushing things...
ok yea i did say that im 14 and my boyfriend is 18 we have been going out for a year..and i will be turning 15 next month..what are we rushing
soemtimes guys just get excited..talk to him bout the pushing down on ur head thing..and let him know when he is doing it, some dont even realise they are doing it!!!