Honestly.... After reporting the posts you made in another thread after the abuse you handed out to one of the most awesome female posters here. I really think you need to work on your maturity before embarking on marriage..

That being said , anytime is a good time ,maybe a romantic dinner or something like that ... There is always a 50% chance that she will say no, but if you truely love her it wont matter if she feels she is too young or not ready for marriage.

Another helpful tip for you :cool:... Please leave the txt shorthand for the phone. If you want to be taken seriously here, type properly aye ;)

First - the word is "propose".

Second - I have always believed that a proposal should follow discussions between the two involved. The discussions should in part serve as a benchmark for where each sees him- herself in the relationship, whether marriage is on the horizon and if so, how far away.

Third - "Popping the question" while being a surprise, should not necessarily be unexpected.

Fourth - If you are unsure of where the relationship is headed, if you have not been preparing for the hoped for life together, then perhaps you are not yet ready to propose.

Fifth - If you are hoping that by asking and her accepting that this somehow ties her to you and that you do not have to work on problems or your relationship in general then you are terribly naive.

Sixth - If you are not working on establishing a bank account, insurance, savings, with more money in the bank than the first and last month's rent and cleaning deposit, then you better begin these nest eggs, first, so you have something to show her instead of starting a life together with only the cash in your pockets so to speak.

Seventh - Please read this article among the many listed in the Index:
I think we are ready to live together!!
We frequently hear about people living together who later find that one, the other, or both are not happy living together. Similarly, we frequently read a post in which a couple is contemplating moving in together and looking for a suitable residence. Here is an initial Check List.

If your job does not provide the income to support you with money left over, then do not think for a minute that she should work, also. It is nice if she chooses to, yet your income should be enough because she can become pregnant and then what? You could place the child in Day Care yet this costs money and often as much as the woman makes in some areas. That said, it is far far better to be a stay-at-home mom and not turn over the raising of your child(ren) to a stranger.

While you may be an adult, legally, you are still a teenager with a few more years of maturing left to complete. So, while you may be able to create a baby, your body physique is that of an adult, your brain will not be fully developed until you are at least 21. (Shucks! I didn't have chest hair until I was 23!) My guess is that you do not yet know what you do not know, and, have an idealistic albeit simplistic view of what is required from each of you in a marriage. This is not a bad observation, simply one based upon years of seeing what has happened to many couples who have gone before you.

Respectfully, I urge the two of you to continue dating and for both of you to complete your educations, and continue to work on bankrolling your future during the interim. If your girlfriend loves you and wants to be with you, she will want you even more in three or four years when you have more to offer her. If she wants to be with you, she will be with you without need of a proposal this soon.

I'm pleased to learn that you have become so responsible in this area of your life. This is not the case with every young male and that is why I wrote so much, not only as it may benefit you, but, those people reading this thread over your shoulders so to speak.

If you are banking your money and not living paycheck to paycheck, so much the better. It is nice to learn that you have come so far in so little time.

When the desire overcomes the fear, then it is the right time.

Yuor question here shows us that you are not ready yet. When you are ready, you will not ask anyone how to do it, when to do it, what to say; none of that will cross your mind.

When you're ready, you will just go and do it.

BTW: GUYS, never propose to a girl if you doubt she will say yes. There should be no doubt whatsoever. In fact, she should be awaiting your proposal to marry with a YES in her heart, mind and soul and YES on her lips ready to be said.

> BTW: GUYS, never propose to a girl if you doubt she will say yes. There should be no doubt whatsoever. In fact, she should be awaiting your proposal to marry with a YES in her heart, mind and soul and YES on her lips ready to be said.

Oh.., EEK, I do so like working with you and Brandye, our replies do compliment one another, and both of you have a unique way of making what I say short(er) and to the point!

Yea team.

I do try to be helpful...even when it hurts/annoys them!

[QUOTE=lockjaw_69;252272]I'm getting married!! :D[/QUOTE]

[SIZE="5">Congratulations![/SIZE] That wasn't so hard was it?

Now, let me give you two suggestions for having a happy marriage.

First: Wake up every morning and ask yourself "what can I do to make her life better" -- then do it.

Second: Reply to appropriate questions with "yes dear".

Live long and prosper, together.

-doc

[SIZE="5">Congratulations!! [/SIZE]

Well done young fella :D
Best of luck for a long happy marriage

.... and now comes the hard part: maturing under duress. Work on it.

Look it up. Put it into google. Try just a bit please.

[QUOTE=lockjaw_69;252322]What does duress mean ? :/[/QUOTE]

Congrats! Please continue to make good use of contraceptives for another good 10 years. Or at least until you stop smoking weed regularly, learn the definition of duress, and can learn to type. :)

Congrats again by the way.

This is why divorce rate is high.

First of all, I can't help it, I just gotta say this.....

T proposed a little over a week ago aboard a cruise ship in Mexico!

And no I'm not just tooting our own horn, although I AM incredibly excited :D But the way it happened is a testament to EEK's position that it will just happen when the time is right.

There was no planning of the moment involved whatsoever, the poor guy. He only knew two days ahead that the time was right, and I accidentally caught him beginning to ring shop in a jewelry store while I was supposed to be somewhere else for a while. It just unfolded from there. I fell in love with the first ring I tried on, he threw down his credit card, and I threw myself on top of him ;)

[SIZE="5">CONGRATS, Int!!![/SIZE]