My situation is a little embarassing, but I will tell you a bit of my story so you can answer me better.
When I was young people laughed at me a lot and I ended up avoiding people. At school I would go to the library and at home I played video games. I never had success with women but by reading the above you can understand I never gave them much chance.
Then this year I finally woke up. I was fat so I did not like my body much, so I started training myself and it is amazing to see how I changed. I read a lot of books about dating, confidence and even about synergology. I read a lot of info on your website too. It was a lot of work but now my entourage are all amazed at how I change, and I must admit I am quite proud of it. :cool:
Now here is the problem, I am 27 years old man and still a virgin, not only that, I never even had a girlfriend. I keep reading that the first kiss and the first sexual experience with a date can end the relation at once if it is bad. How should I deal with that? Tell my dates they are my first dates?
I changed a lot but, I can't change the past and I am not sure how to deal with this. I would like some advice before I start dating. I am sorry for the long text and I hope you can help me.
Do lots of reading on the site about sex techniques in your spare time. Do not tell a date it's the first one you have gone on! Just when you find a woman you are interested in, ask her out, and take the time to get to know her. First dates are generally uncomfortable for anyone, even those experienced in dating. You have to be confident; otherwise, that will show being nervous is okay. Be a good conversationalist.
As far as kissing, you will figure it out. As far as when you get to the sex point, you have to evaluate the relationship, it's difficult to hide being a virgin. Wait until you get to that point to have that talk.
What turns women off, is sexually a man (I am sure it also works in reverse too) who is not willing to see what both of you enjoy or to try different things. When you are in the situation you have to see how she responds to what you are doing, many men don't bother they are stuck strictly on getting themselves off.
If you feel you are lacking comfort talking to women socially, get talking to them at the gym or get involved in an organization when there is interaction w/women and just strike up casual conversation. Learn to flirt. Most of all be confident.
You will be surprised at how many women are in the same situation. You only need to find them. Alternatively, there are "experienced" women out there who understand we all start somewhere.
Find an interest group of some sort - library, cycling, bug collecting, fitness, whatever - and you immediately have some common interest with the people there. Women who are not into the bar scene will frequently follow this same course. That common interest gives you a starting place.
Believe me, your humanity is much more importance than specific skills. All couples need to teach one another something.
Thank you both for your tips. I have been reading a lot on this site as well as some other good sites(that's how I got a link to this site). I will try to get in an interest group like Brandye says it sounds like a good idea. :) I was also thinking about getting some massage lesson as I heard it can be a very apreciated skill! :p
[QUOTE=Brandnew;175259]Thank you both for your tips. I have been reading a lot on this site as well as some other good sites(that's how I got a link to this site). I will try to get in an interest group like Brandye says it sounds like a good idea. :) I was also thinking about getting some massage lesson as I heard it can be a very apreciated skill! :p[/QUOTE]
lol. yes. massages can go along way... i would say telling the girl u like/want to date about your experiences as well.. if she runs she's not the right one if she hangs around then she knows where u stand.