okay well. im only fourteen years old. my boyfriend is
fifteen. we have been dating for 4 in a half months now...
nd just last weekend we had sex for the first time...and
we both were virgins. but everyone has told me. and pretty
much everyone has said that the first time always hurts the
most. but i was actually surprised because i really didn't feel
anything. I mean yeah I felt a little, but not as much as I
thought I actually would for the first time. and no I'm kind of
scared because I didn't feel anything I don't know if thats a good
sign or a bad sign...but I did USE to masturbate me and my best
friend where talking about this because I tell her everything and she
was like "maybe because you use to masturbate, maybe you masturbated
a little to much or something and you got use to it..." but yeahh i don't really
know what to think or do. but if you have any advice or anything to say
to me pleaseee post something because I really don't know anything about
why this is happening or whatever. thanks.
Wed, 05/16/2007 - 00:43
#1
I need help...please!
You didn't feel pain? or pleasure? or either?
My first time didn't hurt really that much b/c I had used tampons and had been fingered...etc.
It takes a few times to actually start getting pleasure from it. Have to learn what turns the other person on and such.
And no masturbating is a good thing...yes maybe it made it so that it didn't hurt as bad if you had fingered yourself. But it also helps b/c then you are able to let the other person know what feels good.
How can you expect someone to know what they are doing down there, when you can't tell them what you like?!?
When you are so young it takes time to learn what you like & don't like. I have to admit when I first did it, I was 14. My b/f then was 16, we were clueless! It was nice to be close to him that way, but it was not earth-shattering, wonderfully pleasurable and wild sex. I don't remember it feeling like anything! It was like "Oh, that's it"? "What's the fuss about"? Honestly, It did not get good until I was 17 and was able to orgasm through penetration, once you learn then you develop the expertise.
It took time to develop what was pleasurable and to become comfortable with each other to tell the other. When your experiences are limited it takes time to gain time and knowledge. Does not matter if you are 14 or 24...
When you masturbate you become accustomed to your touch only, but if you convey this info to your partner and you show him what does it for you, then he can incorporate it. Thus, using your technique and you becoming used to his touch!
Be certain to use proper Birth Control since you are so young. Condoms for him & spermicide for you (or BCP's for you). Please be careful.