I'm a virgin and my boyfriend and I are seriously considering sex. We tried last week, but he wasn't able to get it in, even though I was wet and we used lube.
Since then, I've been fingering myself on a regular basis. One finger gets in okay, but two won't get past the opening.
Is there any other way to get myself looser?
just keep working with it using your fingers, partners fingers, tongue, etc etc.. u will just have to keep slowly stretching it. It will stretch over time
I have addressed this matter many times. Here is a copy of a recent reply that also includes the hymen which in your case is no longer relevent.
" The exercise consists of taking a once or twice daily soak in the bathtub, preferably, although a shower will work. If using a tub, partially fill it with clear warm water (no soaps or bubble bath, etc.) The water will soften the tissues. The actual exercise consists of inserting a finger and pulling against either the vaginal opening and/or the hymen (separately) in each of four directions. With each hold the tension for several seconds before moving to the next quadrant. Doing this over several days should get you to the point where two fingers can be inserted. When you can do this, use two in opposition. They can be on the same hand or one from each.
Stretching the hymen won't prevent the possibility of discomfort, however, it should make tearing it or getting past it easier. "