Oh my god I am going stir crazy. I have had like no libido for the past month and so I decided to start working out even more rather than just sit around like a bum. And as I have gotten stronger I have noticed my libido returning. But in the last few days it seems to have grown exponentially. Like today for some reason I am just going insane. I feel like a perv. I was with a friend and we drove past a high school and I was almost drooling at the girls in shorts. While at the movies I couldn't take my eyes off the girls in the lobby. During the movie I noticed the female lead had no bra because her nipples were visible against the black shirt...my eyes wouldn't leave.
Hell while leaving a girl came up to us, wide hips, tight waist and a button down shirt unbuttoned halfway. She asked if we would give her a lift and my friend said no and took me home. I'm sitting here half tempted to get in my car and go pick her up to give her a ride home (I live literally 1 minute from the theatre). Its like...I'm a whole different person. I used to have a high libido, but this feels different. I'm not hard and being led by my penis. It literally feels like something deep down inside needs sex. Like when I look or talk to a girl I feel this desire and my body feels alive. I'm not even hard, but I have that rush. I feel powerful and confident and I just like I can't describe what else I feel.
But thanks for listening guys. Mods feel free to erase this thread I just needed to vent and facebook seemed innappropriate.
Though you seem somewhat ambiguous on whether this new development is good or bad, I'd say; congrats on having your sexdrive back! :) And uhmmm, couldn't you find a girl that would love to see you release that lively beast you've got growling in there? ;)
I'm sure I could but its weird because normally its "I get hard a lot and want sex"
I have never been this way before. Its like I see a girl showing some flesh or shaking their hips when I walk, I wanna just...well ravish them. I can't focus on anything else. If I see that a girl is feeling a bit chilled and her nipples are pressing against her shirt I'm just...hypnotized. I've never felt like this. And when I am "hypnotized" I just feel strong. Like my body feels pumped up as if I am going to have a major workout or about to fight. I don't have an erection, I just have a deep fire within me, like as if my soul wants it lol. It sounds odd but I just don't really know how to put what I feel into words.
Ducy, you are:
Young
Male
Human
Used to a higher sex drive than you've had for a while
Invigorated by the return of that high sex drive
Your newfound reaction to the opposite sex is all normal. It would be normal if you were only the top three. It would also be normal if you were only the bottom three. Have you called your FWB? (Sorry if I shouldn't bring that up--I know it was leveling out but I wasn't sure if you'd totally moved on yet)
Your posts are time-stamped at various hours all around the clock. This leads one to wonder {me) if you get an uninterrupted eight hours of sleep and are following any sort of schedule?
If you were a post pubescent teen with this concern I'd be telling you that this is a management skill and that this is but one of several adult matters that you must learn to control. That you've presumably gotten past the irresistible urges" stage, and that you state otherwise being healthy and wise, the only thing left is accumulating wealth.... :rolleyes:
I'm toying with the idea of visiting Newport Beach the first of the month, do you want me to stop by and make a house call to observe your daily routine?
Try acknowledging a passerby with a "Hi" or nod, a smile, then going on about your business. Becoming erect or not, just recognize the stirring as a favorable response to a normal occurrence, think nothing more about it and move on down the road. (Oh, yea, and as you do, give yourself a wry knowing little smile.)
-doc
P.S. And why am I up at 0:dark thirty? Call it sitting upright while I clear my sinuses from an allergy. I'm going back to bed to see if I can get another hour or so of sleep while my better half arises to greet the new day and rattles around the house! :(
Ducy,
one other thing to consider here is that with there being more sunlight and better weather you are more likely to be outside which is good for you overall anyways, couple that on top of your new workout and your body is surging with endorphines and probably producing a few more natural pheremones which can make a otherwise passing moment turn into at a minimum a simple smile from a women. Now with your libido returned your brain takes that casual smile and calculates all sorts of possibilities and fantasies.
I noticed the same thing in myself in the past 6 weeks as I decided to take up running and signed up for a local 5K this weekend. Just the sheer energy I feel inside me, sometimes compeles my thinking into dirty thoughts much more quickly than they used to.
Lol doc I actually went to a movie premiere last night. I don't always get a full 8 hrs. In fact I'm usually feeling better after 4 than I am after 7.5 to 9.
No house calls needed, but Newport is awesome during the summer, you should definitely check it out!
As far as my drive, yes it is sorta "new". I also do realize a lot of it is mostly a test fueled lust from the heavy workouts and such. (I also remember the fact that I wanted to reproduce like a rabbit when I was ruunning every night). What surprises me in how this is so much different than the high libido I am used to. I don't have an actual erection, rather I have a "full body erection". And rather than my penis guiding me its like my whole body lol. That's why I had to rant! It was like someone who finally gets laid. They have to tell someone!
Int my fwb and I are pretty much over. I can't play teacher anymore. She was telling me how she wanted it to be surprising and I am just at a lost. We have had sex all over our hotel rooms (except the cieling), my car, outside, our houses, bathrooms, showers, kitchens. I've tried position that require incredibly flexibility, strength and endurance. I pulled out all the stops and her only reply on what she would like (or wants to do) is some surprising and different.
I'm actually startin to think I need to find a gf lol. I'm. Starting to miss the bond I have with a partner!
[quote=Ducy]We have had sex all over our hotel rooms (except the cieling), my car, outside, our houses, bathrooms, showers, kitchens. I've tried position that require incredibly flexibility, strength and endurance. I pulled out all the stops and her only reply on what she would like (or wants to do) is some surprising and different.
I'm actually startin to think I need to find a gf lol. I'm. Starting to miss the bond I have with a partner! [/quote]
YUP! and when you do and if said girlfriend and you develop a loving bond then what develops is the emotional component that will go along with the physical attraction. Result: better chance for better sex. My guess is that FWB relationships being mostly convenient physical get togethers do not have this needed and necessary side of the equation.
It is one thing to have sex in different places and/or positions (you did not mention sitting atop a washing machine during spin or wash cycles) yet what I try and get folks to think about is indeed the emotional aspect activating this important part of the lovemaking process. Ya gotta pique the hearts, flowers, and, pheromones before placing so much importance on where you do stuff.
Ducy, if my question is personal please excuse me for asking. I was just curious what's the difference between fwb and a monogamous relationship, other than you don't have to be exclusive. With fwb don't you talk to eachother and hang out like friends and try to make eachothers day, or is it more of a sex only relationship and no friendship? From what it sounds to me its similar to a regular relationship. I'm genuinely curious and am not judging anything.
Well honestly there is no emotional attachments. We have sex, in fact we just keep it completely x rated. I have noticed in relationships, people tend to equat love into "respect" in the bedroom. You keep it dirty but not "too" dirty. With all my fwb we usually wind up doing quite naughty things that gf's have considered improper. Sex on webcam, facials, we have even gone so far as to fantasize about others. There are not "stops" because its just fun.
Sure you can do that with a gf but with an fwb there is little to no jealousy, you don't really have to do anything for them. You just hang and have sex. No "romance" you don't need to act like a bf and do sweet lovey dovey things. You just chill and when your feeling antsy you screw like rabbits
Lol thanks for clearing that up for me
Now epic - that's Ducy's FWB relationship. It isn't mine. My FWBs, yes, more than I simultaneously, are true friendships. We hang out, attend parties, go to polo, go shopping, to the beach, to concerts, movies and whatnot as well as enjoy each other - and we have for years.
Just last week, to celebrate a b'day - we went to a horse show. Tonight we're going to polo. AND the FWBs will be joined by some party hostesses who will also be bringing kids along - it is going to be large and glorious crowd and we will all have a good time - despite the fact that almost all of the adults attending will have been with each other in bed at one time or another.
And my FWBs tell me things I don't want, but need, to hear. Sigh! My writing needs more work.
But at least they're naked when they say that.
EEK didn't you say that you are involved in the swinger community? Would that maybe be why your fwbs experiences are different from ducy's? I have not had a fwb and when I think of examples that I have seen and heard they are like ducy's fwb or the girl is not really an equal. Some have given the name "bro hoe" to the girls that just hang around guys for sex. I have never heard of guys and girls my age group have no strings attached sex and be real close friends.
Big....I am surprised you didn't realize this hahaa.
And I have heard the term bro hoe for the girls who act like "bros". They wear Fox Racing gear, drink, ride dirt bikes, and are generally overweight (yet wear belly shirts) and are loudmouths and obnoxious "trailer trash" types.
And yes epic I should state that everyones fwb situation will be different. Especially with EEK. But the base points remain the same. You are friends with the benefits (sexual benefits) or a significant other. A friend is basically a non romantic partner. A girlfriend or boyfriend is generally a romantic interest.
I was tired when I typed that so I guess my mind wasn't as quick:o at the same time I didn't want to assume. I feel silly now for not being able to put 2 and 2 together haha.
Yes, that may be the reason why my FWB relationships are different than Ducy's but mostly I believe it is because I am not your average sweetheart.
What ever you decided it's correct.
Ok for one that would be just plain gross. I would never use soemthing like that after someone else has used it. I don't think you can rent them either
nice ..thank you
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Why do I find it impossible to take any advice that people with links in their sigs give?
I know the "hormonal" influences of working out. The endorphines you speak of would be flowing through during and immediately after exercise. Working out isn't going to just pump your body full of endorphines 24/7.
And my weight training didn't increase my libido for the simple fact that a heavy training session on a sub maintenance caloric diet isn't going to surge my hormones. Couple that with the fact that I had sub 25% fats in my diet means my test levels were lower than normal.
Ducy,
one other thing to consider here is that with there being more sunlight and better weather you are more likely to be outside which is good for you overall anyways, couple that on top of your new workout and your body is surging with endorphines and probably producing a few more natural pheremones which can make a otherwise passing moment turn into at a minimum a simple smile from a women. Now with your libido returned your brain takes that casual smile and calculates all sorts of possibilities and fantasies.
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