You took the words out of my mouth. Find your lever by exploring with your self. Don't be ashamed of doing that alone. I do it all the time. Then you will know about the "POW right in the kisser" orgasm. Then when he is trying to pleasure yyou you will know when to move or tell him where to go. Explore my friend and you will get there. Do something naughty and erotic. One gets turned on then let the games begin.

Yes, indeedee...
It is extremely important for a woman to be able to masturbate to orgasm regularly and consistently. When you can do this, not only do you have an outlet for your pent up tensions, you also have an avenue for simply pleasuring yourself. Now, having said this, it is important because when you know what works to trigger your orgasm, you can then teach your guy.

Take his fingers in hand and guide his movements over a few sessions until he learns to mimic your movements.

I understand and yet you have confirmed the point of my message. You need to spend time pleasuring yourself and exploring what feels good, repeating what does and eliminating what does not work to increase your level of arousal. As you progress, learn what it takes both in the types of stimulation you use as well as any fantasies you include as you focus in on what is happening to your body. Learning to masturbate is a learned skill for both men and women; it does not come automatically just because you got through puberty. Guys may have an easier time connecting all the dots so to speak, yet even we have to learn to do it. So, plan to spend some time during the next several days or weeks when you can be alone, when the house and surroundings are quiet so that you will not be disturbed or distracted and then go on a mission of exploration. Perhaps the best time is in the morning before getting out of bed when you are fresh and relaxed. You can also do it at night after going to bed or maybe even during the day when bathing.

Begin by touching and caressing your body and as things begin to build you can devote more time and attention to your erogenous zones, albeit not exclusively. Do not rush, devote plenty of time to building your arousal, especially in the early stages of learning what works. If you have a special fantasy, then include it in what you are doing. The point of all this besides learning what feels good and what combination of rhythms, tempo, pressures, and finger placements works, is to build connections between the sensitive nerve endings in the genitalia and the pleasure center of the brain along the autonomic nervous system. Call it building bridges if you want.

We do not give orgasms away to our sexual partner. All any of us can hope to do is to do things in a way that builds their arousal and excitement and tension in a way that brings them to the trigger point and beyond of their own orgasm. The best most reliable way to accomplish this is to learn how our partner masturbates so that we can mimic his/'her movements. To accomplish this, we must learn what works to bring about our orgasms so that we can then teach our partner our unique and specific technique. Once you have build a solid pathway for the signals to travel then you shouldn't have any problem achieving an orgasm if it is what you want and there are not external interferences.

We women have orgasms of all descriptions from a gentle "over the hump" sigh to earth moving. Sounds like me that you have found one for yourself. Keep it playing and heavens knows what you will find.

Sometimes the subtle have the most lasting effects.

Being a man I have no real idea about what feels good to a woman, but to me this sounds like you might be getting too sensitive after that feeling starts and him still doing it to you just ruins it for you. I could be totally off though.

Is he doing more then just one thing when it stops? It could be that you are losing interest. I know when you girlfriend is using her hands on me she also kisses me and rubs her hands on my chest or other parts of my body. I know when I give oral sex to her or finger her my free hand(s) wander her body as much as possible. Anything to keep her from focusing on one thing for too long. I also like to alternate alot on what I am stimulating to avoid a fast oragsim. But in your case it seems you need long direct stimulation on one thing. But maybe having that one thing stimulated alot and others stimulated lightly might help too.

I was just wondering, have you ever had an "oh-my-god-you-rock-my-socks" orgasm?(you know what i mean).

If you haven't, i would try masterbating alone to see if you can make yourself achieve a great orgasm. If you still cant then perhaps you should mention this to your gynocologist, he/she might have some ideas that could increase your sensitivity.

If you can make yourself orgasm, than there is still hope. LOL. Have your guy try different things, or try stimulating yourself while he focuses on another part of your body. Eventually things should click and he will know how to help you climax.