Hello! I am in an amazing 2 year relationship with the man of my dreams. He loves me very much, but we have a huge problem.. I HATE sex. it doesnt feel good, it hurts, and i don't enjoy it at all. I don't enjoy fingering or when he goes down on me either. i never want to do anything, but sometimes i give him BJs just to make him happy (i do get into it and love how much he enjoys it)
i went to my gyno and she says that it's inflamed down there, but she cant figure out why. she also says she thinks i may have vagimis, but even after doing the exercises and such it still hurts. i want to have a healthy relationship so badly, and i know my boyfriend is getting frustrated. we havent had sex in over 2 months and its starting to put stress on our relationship.
i will do anything to have a healthy and sexual relationship but i don't know what to do. :( i'm 18 years old and he's 19. please help!
Regrettably, you are not alone. I have women of all ages express that to me from time to time.
If vaginismus is involved, ask for a referral to a qualified sex therapist or certified psychologist in that field. Those who suffer vaginismus and leave it untreated never learn to like sex. As for the inflammation, that is up to you and the doctor. No comment can really be made beyond the usual possible yeast, bacterial infection or latex allergy.
If you dislike sex at 18, imagine how you may feel about it at thirty with a few children. Not a happy outlook for a healthy relationship.
Also review what you think about sex. What were you taught? How much of that do you believe?
Sex is far too good to pass up on, hun - get thee to a doctor and a therapist.